Dummys and Bottles??

Natasha - posted on 07/09/2009 ( 32 moms have responded )

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At what age do you take your baby/child off a dummy and/ or bottle, and reasons why??

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Rachel - posted on 07/12/2009

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Bottles should go by 1 year old. we took my son off the bottle about 10 months. We switched to the Nuby cups that look like a bootle. They have them a walmart. He had those for about 2 months then it was straight sippy cups. As for a "dummy" I never gave either one of my sons one. I do not believe in them.



I have a 2 year old and a 5 week old.

Stephanie - posted on 07/12/2009

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Bed time was hard for me too and that will probably take time. What i did was gave her grapes before bed the only reason they want one before bed because they are hungary and the milk fills them up. So I gave her grapes (of course i pulled the skin off of it), but it seemed to work for me. Or any kind of friut that has a little liquid in it like peaches, srawberries, or even mango. And still to this day that is what she wants before bed and it is healthy for her too.

Whitney - posted on 07/12/2009

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My son is coming up on his first b-day. My grandmother has always given the children in our family sippy cups for their first birthday. Then she tells the parents that its time to get rid of the bottle. But from what I have heard is that it is better because it breaks the habit earlier rather than years down the road. I have already started trying to substitute the sippy cup for everthing but bed time. That is going to be the tough one

Stephanie - posted on 07/12/2009

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I started to take my daughter off the bottle at ten months. I alternated the bottle with the sippy cup untill the day she turned one then i threw all the bottles away. She did just fine with the sippy cause I started her early. If they have the bottle longer it could cause buck teeth and speech development. Now with the pacifier I took it away when she was a year and a half. Pacifiers can do as much damage as the bottle.

Ruth - posted on 07/12/2009

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Out of my three my latest never took a pacifier but she refuses to give up the bottle. As much as I hate to hear her cry I give her the bottle less and less each day. Now she only gets it at night and we are going to start every other night soon. She just turned one. The other two didn't realize the bottle was gone right at 12mn. They were too greety for the sippy cup but the were the worst at giving up the pacifier. We went cold turkey with my son and that was almost two weeks of screeming at bed time but he got over it. My 2yr old was a little easier but seemed to have a stash in places we didn't know about. The both came off around 18mn. We told my daughter that the it went bye bye and she still talks about it but doesn't ask for it. She also started attaching herself to baby dolls. Every child is different and you just have to experiment what works for you. Lessen the time you give them either and give them something they might think is better in place of it. My baby also loves her blankie and sniffs it when she goes to sleep...I know weird. The biggest reason to get rid of them is speech and teeth problems. Let me know how it goes and if you have any other questions.

Carissa - posted on 07/12/2009

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Michael was really easy to get off the bottle I just switched him within a day when he was about 10 months old. I did it because I knew it would be easy at that point and I didnt want to wait longer bc I didnt want him to get attached to it and it be harder to get him off of it later. And I hate to see bigger kids with bottles in there mouths.

Laura - posted on 07/12/2009

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We took the bottle away at a year because of the concern for "bottle mouth" where babies teeth can become deformed, get cavities, etc. We switched him over to a bottle of water and he didn't much care for it. Soon after that instead of having the nightly bottle and rocking in the chair, we started putting him right into his bed after hugs and such... it was a smooth transition and now I don't have to worry about those types of dental problems...

George - posted on 07/12/2009

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hi natasha well i took my 2 children off of bottles at 8 months they both went on to drinkin cups an was fine but the dummy thing is a night mear my 4 yr old just wont give it up iv tryed loads of things she only has it at night but she will give it up in her own time

Kim - posted on 07/12/2009

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i think a babay should comeoff the bottle when they are done with formula or done with breast feeding ..the reason i say this is becausei have learend being a mother of 2 that the longer you wait the harder it is !!!

Natasha - posted on 07/11/2009

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Quoting Mady:

I took both my kids off the bottle when they were 1 year old. I started them on a sippy until they were 2, then moved them over to a cup with a straw and a lid. I had them drink out of normal cups occasionally, and when they could hold the cup and drink out of it without spilling started to transition over to the normal cup. (About 2 1/2 years old).

All my kids drink out of small glasses (The half size ones you get in sets), the same ones we drink out of but shorter. My youngest is 3 years old and he does perfectly fine with them.

The reason I moved so quickly over to glasses is because:
1. Obvious teeth/health problems
2. Necessary Skill Learning
3. It actually increases their maturity level
4. It makes them feel like a big kid


My suggestions for the weaning:

The night before, after they goes to bed, throw away all the bottles and nipples and take them out to the outside trash!

Get a special cup, either a sippy or one with a lid and a straw (you can find them in most kid isles in the store), make sure it is NO SPILL and TEST IT! Once you find a good one that you like, fill it with water or his favorite juice that wont go bad in a few hours and set it on an area that they can easily reach. Show it to them and tell them what it is.

If they get thirsty and ask for a drink, show them the cup. Screaming will ensue and they may even throw it across the room (This is why you test the No Spillness of the cup)... Put them in the corner for 1 minute, adding a minute each time this happens. If he continues to throw a fit after 3 or 4 times, tell them "If you don't stop, you will go to bed" (not to sleep, but as a timeout). Use one of these cups at every meal, and make sure its in their reach all day. Soon enough they will get thirsty enough to drink out of it.

As for the 'dummies' or 'pacifiers' just throw them away one night after the kids bedtime. Don't use them again and don't walk by them in the store! Soon enough, they will forget about them.

These should be taken away EARLY! Even before the bottle. I took Vivien's away after she started walking at 6 months, and I took Simon's away at 8 months (he didn't start walking until he was a year and a half old).
The main reason you want to do this early is because it pacifies them... They need to learn their own coping skills and their own comforts without leaning on something that will cause teeth and health issues. If they grow up learning to only stop crying when they have the pacifier then their mental development will pay for that.


Thanks to all the advice, my son is now off a bottle.



It is weird, Zach can drink of a normal cup and sip a straw and only the day before I posted this post started asking for a bottle when he went to bed.



I think it was more me than anything, you know, thinking he needed a bottle at night.

Natasha - posted on 07/11/2009

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Quoting stephanie:

my daughter only has a bottle at night and im trying realy hard to get her off of it but cant seem to break her of it. she is going to be two on the 17th of july and the doctor has already told me that around age two they schould be off the bottle. what do i do?


Hi,



Was in the same boat as you.



He was only having them a night, but with all this advice one night I just didn't give him a bottle and he was fine, the next night didn't give him a bottle etc.. and only cried one night.



It was the same as the dummys, I just stopped. 



I think it was more me than anything, thinking that he needed a bottle at night or needed his dummy.



I think with children like ours around or almost 2, just stopping is easiest. Yes we may get tears and screaming, but in the end do we really think our they are going to hate us for the rest of their life because we took their dummy/bottle away at 2.

Jenna - posted on 07/10/2009

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Quoting stephanie:

my daughter only has a bottle at night and im trying realy hard to get her off of it but cant seem to break her of it. she is going to be two on the 17th of july and the doctor has already told me that around age two they schould be off the bottle. what do i do?


 



 



This situation is a little different. Its good and bad to wean to the night bottle only. I did this with both my kids just before completely weaning them off.



Start out with a very hearty dinner, something that will really fill her up. If she is still in diapers, give her a sip of milk out of a cup right before bedtime. She will be very upset and cry herself to sleep, but it will get easier. After she is going to bed normally without the bottle, stop the milk at bedtime, and she will be fine after a while again.



You really need to start working on potty training if she is still in diapers too.

Jenna - posted on 07/10/2009

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I took both my kids off the bottle when they were 1 year old. I started them on a sippy until they were 2, then moved them over to a cup with a straw and a lid. I had them drink out of normal cups occasionally, and when they could hold the cup and drink out of it without spilling started to transition over to the normal cup. (About 2 1/2 years old).

All my kids drink out of small glasses (The half size ones you get in sets), the same ones we drink out of but shorter. My youngest is 3 years old and he does perfectly fine with them.

The reason I moved so quickly over to glasses is because:
1. Obvious teeth/health problems
2. Necessary Skill Learning
3. It actually increases their maturity level
4. It makes them feel like a big kid


My suggestions for the weaning:

The night before, after they goes to bed, throw away all the bottles and nipples and take them out to the outside trash!

Get a special cup, either a sippy or one with a lid and a straw (you can find them in most kid isles in the store), make sure it is NO SPILL and TEST IT! Once you find a good one that you like, fill it with water or his favorite juice that wont go bad in a few hours and set it on an area that they can easily reach. Show it to them and tell them what it is.

If they get thirsty and ask for a drink, show them the cup. Screaming will ensue and they may even throw it across the room (This is why you test the No Spillness of the cup)... Put them in the corner for 1 minute, adding a minute each time this happens. If he continues to throw a fit after 3 or 4 times, tell them "If you don't stop, you will go to bed" (not to sleep, but as a timeout). Use one of these cups at every meal, and make sure its in their reach all day. Soon enough they will get thirsty enough to drink out of it.

As for the 'dummies' or 'pacifiers' just throw them away one night after the kids bedtime. Don't use them again and don't walk by them in the store! Soon enough, they will forget about them.

These should be taken away EARLY! Even before the bottle. I took Vivien's away after she started walking at 6 months, and I took Simon's away at 8 months (he didn't start walking until he was a year and a half old).
The main reason you want to do this early is because it pacifies them... They need to learn their own coping skills and their own comforts without leaning on something that will cause teeth and health issues. If they grow up learning to only stop crying when they have the pacifier then their mental development will pay for that.

Stephanie - posted on 07/10/2009

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my daughter only has a bottle at night and im trying realy hard to get her off of it but cant seem to break her of it. she is going to be two on the 17th of july and the doctor has already told me that around age two they schould be off the bottle. what do i do?

Laura - posted on 07/10/2009

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my eldest got rid of his dummy at about 8 months, but his bottle was a nightmare! I finally decided 5 days b4 his 2nd birthday that i wasn't having a 2 yr old on a bottle and just threw them away (that was the worst week of my life lol) i have 2 younger daughters and i got them off bottles at a year no problems, my middle one never wanted a dummy, and my youngest is 20 months and i have just taken her dummy away (she has it for her nap and bedtime) when she stops asking for it during the day i will take it away for nap then for bed. I must agree though i don't like seeing a 3 or 4 year old child with a bottle or a dummy.

Colleen - posted on 07/10/2009

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Ok...this is TOTALLY embarrassing but, I'm gonna say it just so I can get my opinion out...

I drank a bottle AT NIGHT (no excuse TRUST ME) until I was almost 6 years old! I was spoiled rotton and my Daddy would yell at my Mom to give me one if I was crying for it...With that being said...My son was off his bottle before he was a yr old. LOL He never was interested in a bippy (dummy) so i never had that issue to deal with but my baby cousin used her "awa" (dummy) until she was like 3 or 4 yrs old. I strongly believe for our family the sooner the better so they dont end up like me...And surprisingly my teeth are perfect without the need to any dental work from all the bottle sucking LOL!!!

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with my 1st child (is 8years now).. he was off the dummy at about 2 and a half.. and the bottle by 11 months.. my 2nd child ( 9 months old) never had a dummy and has been having a beaker for her milk from 7 months.

Abby - posted on 07/10/2009

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my son never had a dummy, i dont like them, and we took his bottle off him at 6months he drinks out of a beaker or a proper cup. he's 11months old, i didnt want him to get attached to the bottle! so i got rid of it. he was weaned so there was no need to keep it, he doesnt have one at bed, cos again they get attached to this!!

Jessica - posted on 07/10/2009

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Quoting Natasha:

Yeah, I'm finding the bottle thing now. He is 21 months and has a bottle at night, I feel pretty bad about it because I asked the doctor and she said it doesn't matter. But from what I have read it does. I ask because he has started asking for it now, and i refuse to give it to him during the day, but he seems to be getting more and more persistent about having it.

He drinks from a normal cup very well, he talks (almost full sentences now).
Any ideas of getting him off the bottle?? Should I just throw them out like I did his Dummys??


I've posted this somewhere else i think but if you set a date with your son (about 1 month away) and say to him that he is a big boy now and big boys don't have bottles. Then tell him that the date you have set is the day that he gives up the bottles and remind him each week about it and in the last week remind him each day about it. Then on the last day get him to throw the bottles in the bin himself. If he does this without too much fuss you can give him lots of smiles and hugs and a special cup just for him makes it much easier for the both of you!

Jessica - posted on 07/10/2009

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Quoting Natasha:

Yeah, I'm finding the bottle thing now. He is 21 months and has a bottle at night, I feel pretty bad about it because I asked the doctor and she said it doesn't matter. But from what I have read it does. I ask because he has started asking for it now, and i refuse to give it to him during the day, but he seems to be getting more and more persistent about having it.

He drinks from a normal cup very well, he talks (almost full sentences now).
Any ideas of getting him off the bottle?? Should I just throw them out like I did his Dummys??


I've posted this somewhere else i think but if you set a date with your son (about 1 month away) and say to him that he is a big boy now and big boys don't have bottles. Then tell him that the date you have set is the day that he gives up the bottles and remind him each week about it and in the last week remind him each day about it. Then on the last day get him to throw the bottles in the bin himself. If he does this without too much fuss you can give him lots of smiles and hugs and a special cup just for him makes it much easier for the both of you!

Jade-Maree - posted on 07/09/2009

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I was lucky because my little girl Acelynn decided herself at 3mths that she didnt want the dummy, so i just through it away. That was easy:) But the bottle was a bit of a chalange. Acelynn was very dependent on her bottle and wanted it all the time, all day if she could. And i was still geting up in the middle of the night to get it for her. So when she turned 2 i told her that she was a big girl now so the bottle fairy came and took it away and replaced it with a new cup i bought her. So the days where easy, she just drank milk in her cup. Night time was a bit harder and i had to keep telling her that i didnt have her bottle anymore the bottle fairy does and i would just get her a cup of milk. It only lasted 4 nights then she started sleeping though. It took just over a week and she wasnt asking for her bottle anymore. She is now 2 and half and sleeps though and hasnt cryed for her bottle ever since:)

Amie - posted on 07/09/2009

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Oh and for reasons... I can not stand seeing older kids with a dummy or bottle stuck in their mouths. I always vowed my kids would not be that way and they aren't. =)

Amie - posted on 07/09/2009

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None of my kids ever had a suckie (dummy, pacifier,soother,etc.) past 10 months. Bottles were gone fully by 18 months.
Our oldest was the one that had it the longest (til the 10 months). She tossed hers and never looked back. Our son never really used one except when he was teething. Our 2nd daughter only used her a couple of times. Our youngest does use hers when it's time for sleep. She's 3 months.
As for bottles, they all (and our youngest will) start using sippy cups gradually around the 10 month mark. Then they get weaned as they are comfortable with it. Our 2nd daughter was the quickest, she was off bottles fully by the time she was 1 year and hasn't used a sippy cup since she was 21 months.

Rhonda - posted on 07/09/2009

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i think depend on how much they usin dem. maybe if a old kid still has it 4 da bed 4 comfort might be ok but not in da public. i wud not want to take comfort item away from mi bub cause it mite make em sad

Kylie - posted on 07/09/2009

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I gave my child her first bottle at 2 and we had to enlist the hep of the bottle fairy at age 4 as she was really attached to it. We have had her teeth checked and they are perfect luckily. one of the reason we had to put a stop to it was she was sneaking out of bed and getting the milk out and filling her bottle up herself then sneaking back to bed. She is a big girl now and big girls don't have baby bottles.

Chalee - posted on 07/09/2009

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I'm trying to get my 13 months old off the bottle. I give him a sippy cup instead, but he won't go to sleep unless he has his bottle? What should I do?

Michelle - posted on 07/09/2009

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my oldest never took either... my daughter has had maybe at most 5 bottles in her life... and none of those were recent i'd never allow my child either after 12 months

Ashley - posted on 07/09/2009

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my son is 14 months and still on both. i will take it away from him when i feel he's ready and as of right now he's most def not ready

Natasha - posted on 07/09/2009

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Yeah, I'm finding the bottle thing now. He is 21 months and has a bottle at night, I feel pretty bad about it because I asked the doctor and she said it doesn't matter. But from what I have read it does. I ask because he has started asking for it now, and i refuse to give it to him during the day, but he seems to be getting more and more persistent about having it.

He drinks from a normal cup very well, he talks (almost full sentences now).
Any ideas of getting him off the bottle?? Should I just throw them out like I did his Dummys??

Amy - posted on 07/09/2009

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the sooner the better!! one of my friends have two children one five and one about three both still on the binky!!! it looks sooo silly. my daughter is on a binky at 14 months but only uses it for bed time, it makes my nights much easier!! as far as a bottle i agree with the other moms age one is the best. i have have another friend with a two yr old that still demands her bottle!!

Julie - posted on 07/09/2009

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My son was done with his pacifier at 3 months; I didn't want him to have it long enough to get attached and then have trouble taking it away. He learned different ways of self-soothing; and he only sucks his thumb occassionally, and it is happening less and less.

I plan to definitely have him off the bottle by a year, although he may wean himself off sooner than that, because they don't seem to interest him anymore (he's 9 months no), and he takes a sippy cup well. I want him off by a year because it can be bad for their teeth, and again, because I don't want him super-dependent on a bottle (although he never has been). The longer you wait, the more difficult it will be to take it away.

Jessica - posted on 07/09/2009

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I was told by NHS Peads that having a bottle after a year old can hinder speech development so thats what i plan to do! $ months to go yet lol

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