elective c-section?

Kerry - posted on 09/05/2010 ( 107 moms have responded )

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Hey everyone, I have a 1 year old baby girl and my husband and i are thinking of having another baby. My first baby was delivered natural but i had a horrible experaince! She was the wrong way and came out face up this resulting in 3rd degree tears. The surgen couldnt even stich me up properly because the tears were so deep. It took along time for me to recover and now even a year on i have polapse of the cervix and cant even hold a tampon in with out it falling out 2 minutes later. My question to you all is am i crazy for wanting an elective c-section like everyone says?

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Kayleigh - posted on 09/05/2010

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♥ its really sad that you had such severe tearing, I can understand being concerned about having another one... did you have painkillers and pitocin with the first one?
From the research I have done it seems to be that women giving birth in hospitals have much higher chance of tearing than mothers who are unmedicated and in a birth center or home atmosphere. The stress, anxiety, and pressure (especially with first time moms) in a hospital setting is so high that their body tissues aren't prepared for the process don't stretch and contract properly (including the uterus) also, Did you happen to be induced?
Painkillers tend to stall labor and make it really hard to feel what is going on with your body... and the pitocin causes the contractions to be unnaturally strong causing more pain and tension, and raising your chances of incurring damage ♥ the fact that you cant really feel what is going on with your own body adds to that as well, women who can feel everything tend not to accidentally push their tissues to hard... Its all about allowing your body to do its job ♥ Also, things like perineal massage can help a lot with avoiding more tearing ♥ C-sections are major surgery, and they are important in a lot of cases, but it is safer to try to avoid them, personally i would but mostly only bc i wouldn't want to deprive my child of the necessary bonding hormones that can only be produced by a vaginal birth and immediate attempts at breast feeding ♥
If you found your birth experience to be stressful and impersonal, you might want to consider talking to a midwife, just a thought.

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c-sections aren't fun. I couldn't even sleep in my bed once I got home because I couldn't get out without assistance. I had the take some pretty heavy meds for the pain. I was stuck in bed for the first three days and hemorrhaged so badly they were talking about giving me a blood transfusion. I had a panic attack durning surgery so they had to knock me out so I wasn't even awake for my daughter's birth.

I really don't suggest getting them. There is so much more that can go wrong with them then a vaginal birth.

Jennifer - posted on 09/05/2010

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I got an infection from the c-section and was back in the hospital for 3 days when my son was a week old. They wouldn't let him stay with me and it was devastating. The dose after dose after dose of antibiotics were hell on my system and because I'm breastfeeding it was difficult for my son too. I had nurse home care for 8 weeks after I was home from the second hospital trip. So I would say it all depends on the baby's position. If when you go into labour they know the baby is in the wrong position opt for the section right away otherwise if they're in the right position for birth I'd say go vaginally otherwise you might end up like me with numbness around the incision, and a traumatic experience to cope with. Good luck!

Kate - posted on 09/06/2010

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think about if you want to have more children then just the two if you have a c-section after that you wont have an option to have anything but a c- section because it is against hospital policy to do a vbac(vaginal birth after cesarian) i suggest reading a book called pushed the painful truth about childbirth and mordrn maternity by jennifer block
i know it sounds like a scary title but it is a very informitive book adn i think it would really help you make a decision about an elective c-section

Christina - posted on 09/06/2010

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I would try to have the baby naturally, if you can. I had to have an emergency c-section when my son was born, he is now almost 10 months. The recovery was slow, it was over a month before I could get up with out feeling dizzy, and I'm having some issues with my cycle because of it, which my doctor said should resolves itself over time! My husband and I are going to start trying for our 4th child soon and I'm hoping for a VBAC vs another c-section. Whatever you decide, just make sure your comfortable with your decision!

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Hannah - posted on 09/11/2010

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No, you're not crazy ;) My son at birth weighed 9lbs 13.5oz and was delivered vaginally, sunny side up as well. I had an epidural which was great but afterwards was completly painful!! After I gave birth, and delivered the placenta they started to stich me up(for 45 minutes) and I could feel every TUG AND PEIRCE of that needle...and it was a fourth degree tear....I was in so much pain afterwards that I just cried and cried, and also i experienced some incontinence issues....Thinking about having another baby vaginally makes me want to run and hide but at the same time I have heard that having a c section can be just as painful if not more. One of the girls I shared a room with had a c section and couldnt do anything herself, the nurse had to sponge bath her and change her dressings. And she couldnt have any more morphine :( Poor girl! At least with the tear you can take advil/tylenol and it will help aleviate the pain.... I feel for you and completly understand! I wish you make the best decision for you and your family and if you need someone to chat with just message me ;)

Shauna - posted on 09/11/2010

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I had a C-Section because of same situation as you my baby too was sunny side up. I had no pain med and pushed for 3 hrs. The pain was excrutiating. I Ended with a C-Section and i cant imagine ever going through that pain again. So i can see why you would want a C-section b/c my next child will be C-section as well. However i must worn you it hurts no matter which way it comes out. A C-section is a major surgery and my baby is 6 mo and i still have numbness and pain across my abdomon. Its also a slower recovery. I would discuss with your dr the pros and cons of going by C-Section.

Yolanda - posted on 09/11/2010

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hey kerry how are u doing? some people say c-section are the easy way out then others say have it natural and no i dont think having an elective c-section is bad, do hat u gonna do

Joanna - posted on 09/11/2010

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Having a c-section is still like having major surgery. You have to weigh the risk versus the benefits for you and your baby. Do research. Also, since you successfully delivered a baby vaginally, has your doctor or midwife given you other options?

Meaghan - posted on 09/11/2010

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I have had 3 kids. I tore with my 1st who was 9 and a half pounds. But i'm telling you the first baby makes a good path for the next. Too me having my second and third was easier. My last baby was 11 pound 7 oz and he came out with no tears. Sometimes you need to get in better position to push. Pushing on your back dosnt really open up your pelvis that much. A good book to read is Dr. Sears birth book. Dont fear birth, its a pain, but worth it;)

Judith - posted on 09/11/2010

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i personally would prefer a natural birth as ive had both natural and c section, but it is only normal for you to be wanting a c section after the stress you had after you last birth, you must be very anxious about having a natural birth again, i would tell the people that are giving you a hard time about choosing a c section over a natural birth to ind there own business and that they have no idea what you have been through, you decide what is best for you and good luck

Racheal - posted on 09/11/2010

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A c-section is a major surgery still, in spite of the fact that it is done all of the time. Seeing as you have a one year old baby you are not going to want to be recovering for the four to six weeks it takes for your incision to heal. (not that you will be in the hospital that long, people are usually in the hospital for a couple of days). You really should talk to your doctor about your birth plan. It might be that with your history, your doctor will want you to have a c-section, but it could also be that your doctor can reassure you and help you with your anxiety. Another thing, if you decide to go natural and can afford one, dula's are great for pregnant and birthing mothers, can help you with your pain and anxiety and help to ease your way to childbirth.

Heather - posted on 09/11/2010

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I haven't read through all the posts here, but if you have a prolapse then you definitely need to talk to your doctor BEFORE you get pregnant. There are a lot of things you need to consider before even thinking about a c-section to include whether or not you will be able to carry to term. If it's as severe as it sounds, you may not have a choice in the matter and may HAVE to have a c-section(a vaginal birth might be much easier the second time around though too). I would definitely tell your doc. you're thinking about getting pregnant again and see what your options are. Good luck with everything!

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I kinda htink you are crazy for wanting an elective c-section but that may be because here in the UK there is no such thing. C-sections are only done pre-planned if the baby is breech/too big or in an emergency during labour. I think it's best to try delivering vaginally because afterall that si the way it was meant to be done and the recovery time is much shorter, plus having a c-section can slow the bonding process with your baby and cause difficulties with breastfeeding as you can't feel anything. Saying that it is your body and your decision!

Dana - posted on 09/11/2010

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With my first baby I was in labor for 49 hours and pushed for 3.5 hours and ended up with a cesarean. I just had a baby girl 5 weeks ago and had a planned cesarean because I have large babies (my first baby was 10lbs and my second was 9lbs), and I feel much better for doing so. With my first child, I was in the hospital for 6 days and with my second baby I was only in for 2 (My MD let me go home early because I was doing really well). I think you need to do what's best for you and don't worry about what everyone else thinks. With a crazy experience like your first, I'm surprised your MD isn't suggesting you have a cesarean.

Good luck!!

Ashly - posted on 09/11/2010

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I have only one child and had a c-section with her. After 24.5 hours of labor and only dilating one cm during that whole time and no water and no epidural until they decided on c-section. If I have another child I am going to go ahead and have a c-section again. My healing time wasn't that bad, my husband was on leave from the army for a month and was able to help alot. I was totally pain free after about three weeks. I see nothing wrong with electing to have one, especially if you had problems like you did with your first one. As long as the baby and mom are safe is what matter. Yes I have a scar but it is worth it because I have a very healthy five year old now! You need to do what you feel is right for you and your family. Good luck!

Kaye - posted on 09/11/2010

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Before you make any decisions remember that not only is every baby different so is every pregnancy and delivery. A C section is MAJOR surgery. It may be routin and done all the time but it is still a major surgery that comes with risks. Make a pro/ con list and come up with a plan that is informed and that you're comfortable with.

Catrina - posted on 09/11/2010

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there are so many different posts on here about the experience durring and after a c-section. Really you never know how your situation will play out. Everyone and every delivery is different. That is why women are always sharing their experiences. There were a few things on here that i specifically disagree with and think are wrong. One being, the amount of time that you are not allowed to drive for and why. It's usually longer than two weeks and is not really because of the meds. but more specifically about the surgery itself. In fact they recomened riding in the back of the vehicle, unbelted when you do have to go somewhere. This is because the seatbelt lays right across your insition and a wreck could damage the stitching, organs, and cause you to blead out! Also an air bag can do the same. The second thing is that someone said that at least you could sit down when you have a c-section, but that is not true. At first you can not do anything, lay, sit, stand, ect. Depending on the experience you could feel better (which I mean not wanting to scream everytime you move) in a couple days or like myself take weeks. Still to this day I have paralasis where my cut is and I don't like anything to rub against it. The third thing I don't agree with is the post that the c-section was worth the pain and complications. I disagree because you never know what your own personal complications could be. The complications can bring a lot of pain like the women stated with their infections. The complications include death, and that I don't think is worth it if you don't have to. One of my good friends had complications and I don't remember the full story but ended up about three days later having a full histarectomy at 26 years old. She from that point on has struggled with different hormone treatments. There is also one side affect that no one has mentioned and that is the horrible painfull constipation you get. Then when you are trying to go your scared if you push too hard you'll tear and all your innards will fall out! Seriosly! It took me ten days before I was able to go and I was terrified.

I would really recomened talking to a doctor before you get preno and find out if there is some kind of therapy that you can do to come to terms with your anxiety over the horrible pain that you had to go through. This may help you make up your mind. Besides your brain is another organ that needs to be taken care of just like an other. Also have you thought, or asked a doctor if it might be easier to push out the next since you are already larger (down there) now then you were before. I would think it would be possible.

Either way you are not crazy, go with your motherly instincts, and I hope this has been informative.

Lastly, the only reason I would really say no to a c-section is like the other post pointed out, the bonding experience is not really there. You might even end up being put under like the girl that had a panic attack, or like me who's body went into shock and was put under right as they were pulling him out. I did not experiece any of the joy, and I wasn't able to see him for hours. I wasn't able to feed till the next day because I was so out of it. It was harder for me to bond to my child also. I would have given anything to have had a natural birth. To this day I can not watch the tv shows about giving birth. I also had post partum and cried a lot about the fact that I felt like I missed my son's birth. It is not a good feeling at all.

I'm sure that by the time comes to deliver your next child you will have gotten your mind made up and your worries pushed aside. Like all women you'll probably just want to get it out! Good luck! And try therapy!

Jessica - posted on 09/11/2010

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NO! You are not crazy. A lot of people over-dramatize c-sections, but I think they are a lot easier. The recovery time is a little longer, but you don't have to worry about tearing and you get to pick your babies birthday! I had a c-section and had a wonderful experience. If I were you I would do it.
Good luck

Candace - posted on 09/11/2010

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i dont think soo, i had twins by c-section and if i had another child i would opt for c-section again because i would have the option of vaginal or c-section. the healing was quick, i didnt find it painful and it will be pre booked for you as well!! good luck

Ashley - posted on 09/11/2010

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I would have said yes, you're crazy for wanting a cscetion, but after hearing that I would say that if that happened to me I would want a csection the next time around as well! I haven't had one and had a great delivery with my daughter, if that weren't the case then I would want a csection.. I mean I think I'd rather have my tummy torn up than having my other area messed up and not even being able to use a tampon! That just sounds terrible. But talk it over with your doctor, and good luck!

Sharon - posted on 09/11/2010

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I really dont see why people feel guitly for having an elective c-section. Do u get a medal for having 30 stiches the natural way?? does it affect the baby? Will the baby love u less??......Of course not, my sister had c section on 1st baby and natural on the 2nd.... after going natural, she has now vowed never to have another child!!! i think do what is right for u

Melissa - posted on 09/11/2010

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A friend of mine has two babies. The first was naatural and she ended up with 3rd degree tears and 66 stitches. She said it was horrible and took 6 months to recover.
Baby number two she had an elected c-section. She saiad it was sooo much easier, she was up and walking that afternoon and was out of pain in a couple of weeks.

Starlae - posted on 09/11/2010

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NO you are not. I elected for one in the beginning of my pregency. It ended up that i had to have an emergency one two weeks before the scheduled one. I think if you want one and you have a VERY good reason for one, just ask about it. I had a great doctor and he would do whatever i thought was best for me and my baby.

Jacque - posted on 09/10/2010

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i had my 10 month old daughter by c section and i am currently am pregnant. i am for sure having another c section. the normal healing time is weeks longer than a normal vaginal birth

Mariah - posted on 09/10/2010

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Heck no you're not crazy! If I went through what you did the first time around I would be scheduling that c-section right now. Wow, kudos to you! You should have the birth experience you want. No one else is going to have that baby for you!

As for my tid bit about c-sections, I decided to go with an elective c-section for a couple of reasons. My main reason was because I'm a type 1 diabetic and there was a very high chance of me needing an emergency c-section anyways. I figured that if I was mentally prepared for the surgery and I wasn't already exhausted from being in labor for x number of hours that it would go smoother. My other reason was a selfish one, I asked myself why go through the pain of labor if I'm likely going to end up on the operating table in the end. Plus as an extra perk I got to pick my daughters birth day. The hospital did a great job of pain management and even when I got home I didn't finish my pain prescription.

I also felt more confident about it because my OB who followed me throughout the pregnancy was going to be the one doing the surgery and I really felt safe in her care. When my daughter was born at 38 weeks she was a healthy 8lbs 1oz and my OB said that she would have been closer to 10lbs had we gone 40 weeks. Knowing my family history it probably would have been closer to 42 weeks and by week 36 I was so done with being pregnant.

Gabe - posted on 09/10/2010

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I had a traumatic first labour not quite to the point of you but still it was horrible!! My second was born on easter this year i had to have an emergency c-section and well i NEVER want another one again although my c-section wasn't your typical get baby out and sew you back up i was almost worst case scenario i almost lost all my woman bit.I'm not saying dont go for one but just think about it it could go to plan but it may not. Good luck!!!

Katie - posted on 09/10/2010

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i didnt have a choice if i wanted a c section or not. it honestly wasnt that bad except the drugs made me shake and it made my anxiety issues severe. but i'm glad i got it done now. the surgeon who did it stitched me perfectly. there is no scar and you can't even tell i ever had one.

Lisa - posted on 09/10/2010

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Nope, not crazy at all! I tried to deliver vaginally with my baby girl and ended up having to have a C-Section in the end. There is no way in heck I am going through what I went through again! Next baby I am FOR SURE having a C-section. The only thing that u will have to remember is that u won't be able to pick up ur current child for a while, but when u feel better she could still sit on your lap :)

Rebecca - posted on 09/10/2010

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No your definatley not crazy for wanting a ceserean, I to had a third degree tare and took me over a year to recover fully, I then went on to have an elective with my second. My OB also recomended it. Although in saying this I kind of wish I had at least tried to go naturally. Having a ceserean is my no means an easy way out, so dont let anyone tell you differently.

Karla - posted on 09/10/2010

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Kerry, I had a c-section with my first son and an all natural delivery (no drugs or IV's) with my second son. I would totally recommend that you try having a natural birth if you decide to have another. My reason: there are so so so many things that can go wrong with a c-section and chances of complications with c-section are way higher. For example, after my c-section it to took about 3 months to get back to normal where I could lift things over 50 lbs and actually function in real life. It was horrible. Not to mention that I experienced a common c-section complication which is the bladder adhering to the uterus due to scar tissue. It has caused all kinds of urinary problems for me and unfortunately there is no way to fix it so it will just continue to get worse. My advice would be to consult a midwife for your delivery this time around instead of a doctor. Unfortunately I have found that doctors aren't very good at minimizing tears and discomfort during labor and delivery, however that is what a midwife focuses on. A midwifes whole goal is to focus on the female body and to help you have a natural that is amazing. For my second son I hired a midwife and the difference in care was night and day. She works within a practice with doctors so if she notices something that could potentially lead to a problem there is always a doctor there to consult with or to step in during an emergency. But if you have a complication free pregnancy then you will be all good to delivery with the assistance of a midwife.
Good Luck to you! And I hope everything work out perfect for you!

Aoife - posted on 09/10/2010

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iv had 2 c sections first was emergency and 2nd was elective.id no problems after either apart from d normal soreness dat follows.i say go for the section.i really wanted one 2nd time round n was delighted i got one

Meilan - posted on 09/10/2010

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Well, recovery all depends really. As TS, I am still recovering from the natural birth I had almost 14 months ago. I am pretty convinced I wouldn't still be recovering if I had a c-section in the first place.

Missy - posted on 09/10/2010

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I personally do not think that C-sections should be elective due to the fact that it is unnecessary massive surgery that takes twice as long to recover from. I ended up having to have a C-section due to my son wrapping the cord around the top of his head. 7 years later, I still have a buddah belly and can not get my stomach muscles back to anything close to what they used to be. I understand that your first birth was not a good experience for you, but each birth is going to be different and for your safety, as well as your child's safety, my advise is to try to go with the natural birth.

Karianne - posted on 09/10/2010

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I had a scheduled c-section due to issues i couldnt have my daughter natural. in the end it ended up being done in an emergency. i didnt have a hard time with my c-section it was really easy actually. i was up and walkin the next day and outta the hospital 2 days after having it done to go to burlington. in your case i wouldnt feel bad about having/wanting one at all. dont let people tell you how your suppose to feel because of something you did or didnt do. you know whats best for you and your baby

Kayla - posted on 09/10/2010

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I had a c section with my daughter because she was breech. It was great, yes you are sore for a few days but i wouldnt do it any other way.

Mellissa - posted on 09/10/2010

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Like a lot of replies in here I would highly recommend talking with your Dr. about a C-section it isn't a decision that is made lightly. I had 3 vaginal deliveries and found that when I had to wait for the doctor to arrive for the delivery I didn't tear. It's almost like waiting to push is a good thing for the body instead of trying to hurry up and push the baby out. My first delivery ended up with vacuum assistance as her heart rate dropped and I tore as a result not like you describe mine were 1 degree. Yes it hurt and should feel better over time. I would go with what would feel right to you.

The prolapse that your talking about I know this sounds corny but there are fixes for that (watched episodes of Dr. 90210 the plastic surgeons and they fix those issues in woman so that you can get back to feeling 100%).

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I went through 28 hours of labor and ended up having an emergency c-section. I am def going for the elective c-section next time around. My labor was horrible. I never want to do that again. Talk to the doctor, but there is nothing wrong with wanting to try the c-section.

Silvia - posted on 09/10/2010

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I would say go for it if you can. I had a horrible vaginal delivery the first time around. I was kept in labor for 32 hours after my water broke and both my son and I had an infection. When he was finally born (forceps delivery), he had to go to the NICU right away and was there for a week. I was on antibiotics in the hospital for three days and all I could do was walk down the hall several times a day to hold my baby. They wouldn't even let me nurse so I just pumped him bottles of breastmilk. Needless, to say it was not the wonderful event that I had envisioned in my mind when I thought about labor (and I did not want a c-section at the time). If it means less stress on you or your child, then you should talk to your doctor about it. There is no need to endure such trauma when it can be prevented. If I ever have another child, I am sure I will insist on a c-section.

Janice - posted on 09/10/2010

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i had a elective c-section with my first and it was the best decision that i could have made. however now i will always have to have a c-section. The recovery time is a little longer and harder but like i said it was still worth it to me. like others are saying you need to talk about this with your doctor.

Michelle - posted on 09/10/2010

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No, you are not crazy. If your 1st was so bad I don't blame you for wanting a c-section. My 1st was an emergency C-section and I want another for my my 2nd birth. Talk to your OB and see if a c-section would be a better option for you. Remember you know your body and if you feel it would be a better option your probably right. My C-section went good, my little one had swallowed poop and was in distress, I was not even 1 centiemeter dilated and thats why I had to have the C-section. (The OB said if I was more dilated we would have tried for a natural.) I kept my bandage on untill the staples came out 2 weeks later, (I figured keeping it on would keep the grems out) I healed really good with little pain. The only complaint I had was the coming unnumb, from the waist down I had the foot fell asleep feeling, that was about the worst part. Just take it easy afterwards (I know with one already it might be hard). I hope this helps, just remember it is your body and if a natural birth doesn't seem like something you want to go through again, it's ok. For all you know trying to do it natural might be tougher the 2nd time because of your last birth and the fear of it being as bad as last time, and you'd have to do a c-section anyways.

Alysha - posted on 09/10/2010

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No.....c-sections are not as bad as ppl think they are...i had one with my son n it was an emergency c-section..i hated the idea of havin it done but it happens if u are afraid of natural birth go for the c-section

Deanna - posted on 09/10/2010

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I would ask your doctor. Many are getting away from elective c-sections. A lot of doctors are saying no unless medically necessary. Like PP said they both can go wrong. I heard of someone who's section scare would not heal and would not heal and was dealing with one infection after another. Good luck on what ever you choose and speak with your doctor to see about options.

Sabrina - posted on 09/10/2010

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I had a non elective c-section, and it was the worst experience of my life. They almost killed my son because they pushed too much oxygen into his lungs after they took him out and punctured them, and then I got a horrible infection in my incision that caused me to be in the hospital for two weeks, and I had an open wound for another few months. I still have problems with it on occasion 2 years later. I'm not trying to scare you or anything, I just want to point out that both options can go wrong. I hope that everything goes well your second time around no matter what you choose.

Chansey - posted on 09/10/2010

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I would say no. I had to have a C-section because of my bone structure & the doctors told me I will prolly have to have all my kids thru C-section. I actually miss the experience of having a child naturally. I mean the recovery afterwards was not a problem at all for me. Chances are your next child will not have the same complications as the first but if you are worried about it talk 2 ur dr. If ne thing they can do an ultrasound as u get closer 2 c if the baby has turned or not. Then along w/ ur dr u 2 can decide which is the best form of delivery.

Shelley - posted on 09/10/2010

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I had an emergency c-section and I had no problems healing or anything. When I do decided to have another child, I will have another c-section. It's all about personal peference and your doctors advice. My c-section was not as bad as I had expected. I saw my sister give birth vaginally and I'll never do it!! Like the other women said...constult your dr and get their opinions before you make this major decision.

Meilan - posted on 09/10/2010

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Hi there! I'm sorry to hear you had a very bad experience delivering n°1.
A horrible first birth is def a reason to want a c-section 2nd time round, I think. But what did the doctor say about your first experience? Did he go over all the events with you? Did you get some kind of feedback?

I too went through a terrible birth. I also had 3rd degree tears, lost a lot of blood, ... and my daughter had to be resucitated when she was born. Needless to say it was awful! I was in hospital for nearly two weeks and I don't remember much of the first few days. When I left the hospital my doctors made an appointment with us to discuss everything that had happened. This really helped a lot!
Now, in the end the doctors advised me to not have any more babies. If we do want one we will be counselled throughout the whole pregnancy and I will have a c-section.
I don't think you should be made to feel guilty for wanting a c-section, but I would go back to your doctor to get some kind of feedback (if it's not too late).

Good luck with whatever you choose! X

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a c-section is a big ask hun. i had a c-setion with my one and only son and it was horrible. hes 3and a half months old and im still trying to recover and still get jolts of pain. i think id prefer to go natural next time. but since you have a bad experience with ur first baby i think it would be better to consult ur specialist or a doctor ya kno they may be able to help you out a bit better and they will know all the pros and cons. shes a cutie too ur girl =D

Kerry - posted on 09/10/2010

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i have 3 children my first was born naturally no problems at all my second was 9 weeks premature so it was a emergance c section and my third was elective c section my choice as i had a tilted womb n pelvis so thats why the consultant agreed to a elective c section but you have to have a medical reason for them to agree to it unfortunattly you dont get a choice between elective c section or natural birth i had no problems with my first c section but with my second which was elective i had gotten 4 infections in the wound hope this helps.

Danielle - posted on 09/10/2010

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I had a c-section for both pregnancies and I couldn't have enjoyed both births any more. First was semi elective, I went to 40 weeks pregnant holding out for a vaginal birth but after having a rear rupture in my waters for 3 days, my son had not dropped for a labour and it was thought he would be too big for my pelvis, I was in the following day having a c-section and he was born 8lb 4oz. 24 hours after having a c-section, I was up having a shower, walking around and was in mild pain on minimal pain killers. Second pregnancy with my daughter, I automatically elected for a c-section, which was booked in 2 weeks before my expected due date. Again, the baby was expected to be too big for my pelvis, although scans showed she should be smaller than her brother but in this case, she dropped into position and I had no issues with my waters. 1 week before the booked date, I went into labour. After 6 hours of labour, I had the c-section and she was born 8lb 5oz. This time, 28 hours later, I was showering and walking around. The only downside to this c-section was that I also had a 19 month old to look after and he caused a lot of pain when wanting cuddles, to be picked up. I don't know the differences between the Australian health system and the American but I was in a private hospital with a private practising ob/gyn. I don't know if this had any bearing on my recovery time or not but I felt fantastic after both operations. I don't feel ripped off that I didn't experience a vaginal birth as both my babies were healthy and here with me, regardless of how they showed up. Within 5 minutes of both being born (after they ran all the usual tests), they were on my chest and I held both kids as we were wheeled back into my room. I wouldn't have done this any other way. :-)

Sandi - posted on 09/09/2010

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My first son was born naturally but I just had a c section with my twins in June. The worse part will be after the spinal block wears off and you can feel the pain. Always remember to put a pillow over your stomach and press when you need to cough. I was up and walking the next day after i had mine because it took so long for the spinal block to wear off. I had problems and hemorrhaged with the c section but they got it to stop. Get up and walk is the best way to get back to normal. If I had to do it again i would go with the c section it was easier.

Sara - posted on 09/09/2010

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I'm surprised that after all that your doctor wouldn't recommend a C-section. Talk to you doc and express your concerns and ask him his opinion about the Cesarean.

Emma - posted on 09/09/2010

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i have had 4 kids all by section the first was an emergency and i went for 3 electives...the experiance is just as special u still to meet ur baby and hold them virtually straight away...i found all 4 experiances lovely..and my recovery with all four was only 2 days i was up the same day i had them,....i cant be doing with hospitals lol i was determined not to just lie there....i think u will be fine and to be honest they will prob advise that anyway...

goodluck

em :)

Tamara - posted on 09/08/2010

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I have 3kids ages are 8yrs, 22mths, 9mths and I had them all naturally, but my first baby also came out face up but I didn't have any issues, but when it comes to a c section I would talk it over with a dr. But c sections take a while to recover from

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