Everyone spoils my son with...????

Melissa - posted on 07/01/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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attention .. i try to limit the amount of time he is held by people but it never seems to work .. it's to the point now where whenever i put my son in his chair or lay him down he wants nothing to do with it cries and cries and starts to throw a bit of a pissy pants attitude, he is only 4 months and 3 weeks old .. help what do i do to get him off this routine of consist attention..???????????

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Keira - posted on 07/02/2009

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People will never stop if you don't say "NO". It is hard to deny relatives who don't get to see him every day, but sometimes you have to. There is nothing wrong with saying to people that you want to leave him be for a little while (and you don't need to give a reason). You are his mom, and the expert on him right now, so don't be afraid to use that authority.

Ez - posted on 07/02/2009

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I firmly believe that you can't spoil a baby with love and attention. It's been proven they need close physical contact for their development. Have you tried babywearing? My Baby Bjorn saved my life when my daughter was a newborn - it was often the only way I got anything done. I hung washing, did dishes, vaccumed, folded laundry - all with my daughter strapped to my chest. It gave her the closeness she needed and me the freedom to get up and move around.
I know it can be frustrating and overwhelming when you've got a baby that isn't content to just sit by themselves for 10mins, but it really is a phase and he'll outgrow it. My daughter's only just 5mo and actually cries to be put down on her mat now. She rolls and plays with her toes and pulls her socks off. They're only little for such a short time - let him get the cuddles when he needs it.

Abby - posted on 07/02/2009

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lay him on the floor surrounded by toys and a comfort blanket if he has one, so when he calms down from his strop he isnt bored.

and how about a few weeks with no visitors? just u and baby and daddy?

i'm first time mum but saw what happened to friends children and i made sure that we had a maximum of 2 visitors a day and that once they had gone, cam had some time to be by himself in a chair with toys dangling or on a floormat x

Coral - posted on 07/02/2009

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You have to remember it is your child and you have the right to say NO!!! Be assertive until the 'offenders' start to listen, it is hard at first but when they have the message they will start backing off quicker. As for the routine prob, start slowly put him down, dont touch him but talk to him so he knows you are there, you will find you have to talk less and less as he gets distracted by what ever you leave for him to play with. Make him feel secure that you are not going to leave him and dissapear because he is used to constant companionship.

Sara - posted on 07/02/2009

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sorry to answer your question i would let him play near you then slowly day by day increase the distance between you so he gets use to the idea that its ok your coming back it will take a bit of time but it will pay off in time :)

Rachael - posted on 07/02/2009

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I used to just put my son down at let him cry, and then he learnt to self settle at night to, If you know they are feed, clean and dry, the crying is hard, but it soon gets shorter and shorter. once you start dont stop

Sara - posted on 07/02/2009

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hi i have the had the same prob with my inlaws and my family i just had to suck it up one day and say can you not pick him up please and just let him play on his own of a little while cause he started to do the same as your son, i done it just in time cause he is ok now and loves playing on his own for ages he only really wants me when he starts to get tired, i also started putting him in his pram and saying its ok he can stay in there for a while he is happy :)

Joy - posted on 07/02/2009

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I held my daughter all the time and rocked her to sleep everynight for the first year of her life. And she plays just fine by herself at 19 months old......I coulnt help it tho, she was my first and only and I couldnt resist holding her.

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