Ex is back

Liz - posted on 07/24/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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So my ex has come in and out saying he wants to see his kid but never comes. He has only seen her for half an hour.

Just after she turned 2 his parents found out they had a grandchild so they got in contact and I allowed them to see her. They promised that they would stay out of mine and their son's affairs.

So after spending two weeks with them I got a message yet again from my ex saying he wants to see her so I asked his mum if she had anything to do with it and yes she did. She asked me while I was staying at hers to call her son because he's missing out on so much but I said no its his job this time. I had spent all my pregnancy trying to get him interested and after lawyers and the Jeremy Kyle show he still didn't come.

Am angry that she got involved when she promised not to and now he's playing mummies boy to impress her and am not looking foreward to trekking half way to find out he's not going to turn up.

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Monique - posted on 07/24/2013

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Fair enough to being angry as they broke their promise to stay out of it... But if you look at it from her side... You told her he had to call... So since she believed he should see your daughter... She wanted to make it happen in the way that you said! Lol.
I would say just go meet him this time... See how it goes. If you are needing a support take a mutual friend or a family member who doesn't hate him lol.

All the best! Just remember you are doing this for your daughter... So in years time you can say 'I tried'

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Liz - posted on 08/20/2013

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Well its happened. Everytime we sort out something and be civil, my ex will think of something to start a fight about and not come. And this time is no different, I wasn't sure what my lil one should call him so we agreed that I would say he was a friend for now and if he turned up to the others then we will tell her when she's older and understands who he is. But hours later he started on me saying it was my fault he was kept away. Am not the one who got him drunk and said drive a car nor the one who said hey let's take drugs. I don't care what his mum says he's still the I demand this man and now am stuck between a rock and a hard place again.

Liz - posted on 08/01/2013

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I've applied CSA and since he is on jsa and has no bank account they expect him to pay the money to them with no problem. Yet he pays when he wants so for 2 years I've got about £60 and in that time I've had to get a loan out to make ends meet.

Liz - posted on 07/31/2013

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They did and everything was good to go but he wouldn't pay for the train up to where we were and refused to help me money wise when I needed to get stuff for my daughter. He still doesn't now which pisses me off again because he can play happy daddy once a month but wont help me financially. Instead I have to ask my parents or his.

Gena - posted on 07/30/2013

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Hi Liz, i watch Jeremy Kyle alot with my dad in the evening when my sons asleep.I was wondering if they didnt help you afterwards?He always says an aftercare team will support.did they support you after the show?
I would tell his mom to keep out if you dont want her to be invovled in the relationship between you and your ex.

Liz - posted on 07/24/2013

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Thankfully when he doesn't turn up she'll be too young to know why we were there to begin with. Fact is he's only bothering because his mum gave him a kick up the ass, in normal circumstances this would have never happened and she's been acting like a fake towards me by saying one thing and doing another.

Think I'll be more pissed off with the fact am doing his leg work to figure out how he can get to us with a little price tag.

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