Ex is winding me up!

Rebecca - posted on 07/08/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I am a single mum but have my sons father stayin with us. He is really bugging me as he seems to pick faults in everything I do with our son.Like,oh,you should leave him to cry for a bit cos he just wants attention. He is 3 weeks old for gods sake! I know when he bloody needs feeding!! Its hard having him stay with us,I fel like he is messing up our routine. Hes just trying to b a good dad I know, but bloody hell! Give me a break!

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Holli - posted on 07/08/2009

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I completely agree with Rebecca. At least if your there to watch over while he takes care of the baby than if anything goes wrong you can step in and pick faults but be the bigger person and try to help him rather then fight. It took me a long time to do that with my x and finally he gained respect of how hard it is to be a single parent. He talks to me about things now on what he is concerned about and what he needs help with when they visit him. Life is much easier. I would say if he keeps fighting, tell him to leave and he can come visit. You are doing what you need to do as a mom and being stressed isnt going to help as Im sure you've heard...babies can feel tension and then they stress which isnt good for anyone. Good luck and stay positive! Its hard but so many people do it and there is plenty of positive support available to you whenever you need it!

Rebecca - posted on 07/08/2009

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well if hes only there for a week then i say try to let him take care of him and see what happens then mabe he will understand that its just not as easy as he thinks.

Lynne - posted on 07/08/2009

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3 weeks old, thats a new baby. So I say don't get mad at each other and he will try to nit pick at u for every little thing concerning the baby. You know your doing your best for the baby and that's all you can do which is your best.

Kiersten - posted on 07/08/2009

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That sort of think urks me.. the part where someone tells me what to do with my child. Maternal instincts usually always come first, but if a second opinion is needed, wouldnt we ask? Does he help with the baby at all? If he doesn't then i think its time for his 'routine bashing' to come to an end. It seems as though all he wants is to get back into your life. It's not always a good thing to be single, and have an ex live with you. Why not try getting back together? If not then why bother, this is just going to keep going untill one of you breaks or has to go to court. Keep your chin up and next time the baby needs feeding, send the baby his direction.

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Rebecca - posted on 07/08/2009

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Thankyou... I guess im just starting to get angry at the fact that I have to do it alone and I feel like Russ just sees the baby as a novelty. Ill do all the hard work to bring him up and all he has to do is visit and show him off to his friends and be the proud daddy. I know it has only been 3 weeks, im sure it will get better, I should really just talk to him and let him know how I feel, but I dont want to upset him as I know how much he wants to be a part of our sons life and have as much input as he can so for that I am very lucky. Russ lives 3 hours away so he will only see our son once a month. It will get harder too as we are both in the forces, him being in the RAF and me being in the army. We will be moving around a lotover the next few years.

Rebecca - posted on 07/08/2009

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He isnt living with us, just staying for the week to send time with his son. he just annoys me as i have just got him into his routine and his da is pickin faults n looking things up on the internet and then telling me, oh, u shouldnt do that! agggh, just bloody leave me to it and sod off i say, hahaha

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