expecting 2nd feeling like im betraying my little girl

Amanda - posted on 07/04/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




recently found out we are expecting number 2. is it normal to feel like i am betraying my little girl??

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Luz - posted on 10/25/2013




I have a 2 year daughter and just yesterday I found out I was pregnant. I honestly thought it would be a happy moment for me but instead I didn't know what to feel. My husband and I feel like we betrayed our daughter. Im scared now thinking about it. All I do is want to cry im hoping that this feeling is temporary. Is this normal.? All im thinking about is my first baby girl. Any advice on any moms who went through the same ?

Salime - posted on 07/04/2011




I'm expecting my second one (actually my due date is today!! But still no signs of the baby coming out :) My first son is 16 months old and at first I felt just like you. I wanted to have another baby, but seeing my first born made me feel guilty because I wouldn't be able to dedicate entirely to him. Also, I feared I would never love another baby like I love my first... Now the second one is about to arrive and somehow, through out the pregnancy, the bond between my second and I has gotten strong. I haven't dedicated much time to "follow" and truly feel this pregnancy because I take care of my first son, but as the months have gone by, I've been able to fully love the baby that hopefully will soon be joining my family and I. It took me a while to feel that I was not betraying my son and that my love is not something that has limits, so, no matter how different they are, I know I will always love both of them in their uniqueness. I'm sure you are a wonderful mother and that the feelings of betrayal will soon pass even if your little girl happens to not be too excited with the arrival of her new sibling :) Good luck and the best wishes with your second pregnancy! :)

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