Explaining death to a 4 yr old Plz Help!!!!

Skie - posted on 08/26/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my father just past away and im not sur how to explain this to my son
he is 4 turning 5 in december
im trying to be strong but he was really close to his ps and is really confused
we have lost pets in his life so he understands heaven but he is lashing out
any suggestions plz help

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Angelique - posted on 08/26/2009

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Unfortunately lashing out is part of the grief process hun. My daughter is going through some similar things too and shes turning 5 on the 29th. Just keep reassuring him that you are there to talk if he would like to about anything and try to do more activites and things to distract him from all this. My daughter has been grieving a total of 7 months already and im the only one she takes it out on :( Its really hard and i cry a lot of nights, but like you stated we have to stay strong for them, no matter how hard it is. It will get easier i keep telling myself that everyday, and im starting to notice that shes adjusting and things are slowly getting better and her attitude and resentfullness is fading, just takes really long for some kids, and its so hard to see them that way everyday. If you have any other questions i hope i can help :) Angie

Ashley - posted on 08/26/2009

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I just went through it this past March with my father and son. I explained to my son that his papa went to live in Heaven with Jesus. He even said that he wanted to go to Heaven with his Papa. I told him that one day far from now he will see his Papa again in Heaven but Papa would have to be his Angel for a little while first. It really helped him to know that even though he couldn't see him, Papa was watching him b/c he was the best grandson ever. He now has his own special picture that he keeps in his room and I told him if he ever needed to talk to him that he could talk to that picture and Papa would hear him no matter when it was. It's a transition that will take time. My son would cry to go see his Papa, which would in turn make me into a crazy crying person. I know how difficult it is and I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that I've helped a little.

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