Facing your fears?

Christina - posted on 05/25/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Well I want to go back to work but Im not sure if i can. My daughter is a year old but she is attach to me. Is there any body going through the same thing? Or do you have any advise for working at home?

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Christina - posted on 05/26/2009

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thank you everyone you've giving me alot to think about. my parents and my sister were gonna be the ones to watch her but sometimes she doesnt want to stay with them. we are over everyday to play cuz my sister has a baby that was just born 16 days after mine. i guess im just gonna have to see how things go. but thank you very much for the advise.

Holly - posted on 05/25/2009

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oh i for got i think it is a lot better when kids are baby sat in your own home cause of her own bed and surrindig and she is so used to it !!!

Holly - posted on 05/25/2009

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Hello my name is HOLLY and i have 3 boys but my yougest is 201/2 months he is verry attached to me when i leave he crys,crys prtty hard some times to the point that he will hold his breath .I have a husband and he works as well and were trying to get to that point in our life were i dont have to work i know might be to late thean ,I have a wonderfull baby sitter ,she is wonderfull she is one of my verry good friends sissters and my son likes her to but not every day does he do this !I make sure when i came home i tell him see mamma or mom or mommey came back home !you might want to start droping her off at yourmoms house or mother in laws house or family or some one you can really trust ,for a cupple hours a day or every other day like grocery shopping or for some dr apt ...make sure if you really dont know them ,dont leave her ,make sure you check references i know some times police will do a run for you if you tell them for baby sitting ...If your looking for a daay care make sure you can come in at any time to drop off or pick up with in hours that they are open ,and of course ask them if there people are checked and what is the action on if she hits a nother child or bites or etc ..you can proubly go on line and check for how cleen they are with thw health dept .and a nother if you have a certine wish for them not to do some thing do they honner this ?ut i say if you can work at home you go for it !!!They say a medical billing specialest is eassy i never tried ....GOOD LUCK

Samantha - posted on 05/25/2009

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My daughter is ultra clingy but i went back to work when she was 8 months, only 3 days a week. I felt really guilty but i needed to for my own sanity. I have put her in Family Daycare. This means she goes to someones house and they look after a maximum of 4 other kids. It is so good. Paige loves going to her carers house and waves me goodbye each morning. I appreciate my days off with her much more and it has made her more independant too. I looked at a coiple of proper daycare places but felt that there wouln;t be enough personal attention and my daughter needs lots of 1 on 1 time. As for working form home, i think you would find that pretty tough if your daughter is anywhere near as clingy as mine. whjile i like the idea i know i would get no work done unless she was napping or at night time!

Kimi - posted on 05/25/2009

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I recomend having someone babysit a few hours here and there so she can get used to being away from you.

If you like kids than you can be a nanny and bring her with you. Alot of moms prefer someone that has their own child. You can make $10-%15 an hour plus you won't have to pay for daycare. There are plenty of sites online to register and it's free for the nannys, care.com is a good one but there are others. If it costs anything than it's a scam and if the job seems to good to be true it's also a scam so be carefull and always interview in a puplic place. It's very cometitive out there right now so best of luck. A resume with some referances will win you the job because most people don't provide them and parents want them weather they ask or not.

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I had that problem with my oldest daughter. I had a hard time leaving her at daycare. With middle son i had a really hard time. So now with my youngest I m leaving him with people I trust even for a couple of hours. They told me (with oldest) that I had seperation anxiety which is normal. You just have to work through it. If you are putting her in a dayhome/daycare i would make sure i was there 10 minutes early to see how they did with the provider, and if getting a nanny, have nanny come a few times to get to know your little one(if you are able too) Im not sure if there are classes where you are to cope with seperation anxiety but I would check into it. It helped me. Good luck

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