Father doesn't care for kids he lives with

Sabrina - posted on 03/24/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My kids dad and I pretty much split up when he refused to come home on time for the 4th time so I could go to work, he got mad at me for asking him to so when he returned home from work (late) he cursed me out stormed out and left me with the kids and no back up plan to make it to work. I chose to move into the bedroom with my kids, and left him to himself because he's had a lot of temper tantrums lately busting holes in the walls with bats and breaking the furniture in half, dressers, etc.

For about two weeks now, he has not seen or spoken to the children, he opens the door when I return from work (at 12am) and says something nasty then slams it closed, but as far as spending time with the children, nothing. He leaves on Fridays and doesn't come back til Sunday. The heat went out in the house I think the furnace, and he has yet to repair it. I'm done living like this. He disconnected the tv from my kids room while I was at work and all the internet from the computers. But when I told him I was leaving he responded "as long as I get to see my kids when you leave I don't care' but he doesn't bother with them now. I know this is a way for him to maintain contact with me because he did so in the past, but I truly dont want to be bothered with his abusive ways.

When he was watching them while I was at work, he was not feeding them, or changing the babies diaper (I wrote my sons name on it and he was still wearing it when I returned). My son (6) now shows sure signs of neglect and does not trust anyone but me.


We split up before and I allowed him to see them, but he wanted them on his terms and when I said no he stopped supporting them. Will the judge take this into consideration (that he doesn't bother with them now and didn't in the past ) when assigning visitation? Without me he has a bedroom set, and a mattress that sits on the floor. I furnish the house my kids bedroom set, kitchen and living room furniture. Since my son has been born he has never bought diapers or wipes I purchase and supply everything for my kids on a PT salary, while he makes about 51K a year. I knew then I shouldve never came back I was doing fine on my own, but this is for sure my final straw I am filing for child support, money is not a issue I just care about my childrens well-being.

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Cassandra - posted on 03/25/2013

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Sometimes the court thing is the best thing to do because you may need an outside and unbiased source to give rules and regulations. On the other hand with men like he might go off the deep end and if he does just choose a way that both you and the kids are safe.

Lucinda - posted on 03/25/2013

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Wow I take my hat off!! you are strong and I believe you are doing the right thing for your kids.

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