Father Making Appointments Without Telling Me.. I Carry Insurance

Jennifer - posted on 12/12/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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So my daughter is now 4 year old. She is a great little girl and I love her with my life. Her father and I had broken up a long time ago and were are still in the court process for custody. I moved for work purposes about and hour away with my now husband. We currently have no custody order in place for my child. I had started becoming concerned about my daughter speech. Very slurry, and it is very hard for me at times to understand her. I expressed my concerns with her father and told him I was going to address that with the doctor when I took her in for her yearly checkup. I did just that and the doctor did a eval and told me she also had difficulty understanding her as well. So she referred me to a hearing agency to get her hearing checked and if need be a speech therapist. I relayed this information to her father right away and he told me basically whatever do what you have to do. Now today, I get a call from her old doctor's office saying that they were confirming an appointment for my daughter that I never made. Apparently he made the appointment to get a second opinion which I don't mind and he has the right to do it. Although what irks me is that he never even told me about it and I carry the insurance and pay for that myself as he has never offered to help with paying that. Of course they have her card on file and I told them I could provide them with a copy myself as he is authorized to take her and like I said I don't mind him getting a second opinion. The fact that he was just going to do it secretly is what bothers me because since I pay for her insurance, I get slapped with the bill later on, which if they hadn't called me to confirm I would have eventually found out when I got a bill in the mail for it.

Does anyone have any thoughts or opinions on how I should address him. I give him copies of everything from her doctor's appointments, dental appointments, eye exams, to reports from the school she attends here with me every other week. I let him know far ahead of time if I plan on doing anything related to her well being and he just doesn't give me anything.

I should also mention that before all this custody stuff, he never took her to any appointments. This is the FIRST appointment he has made for her since we split up 3 years ago. No attempts to take her for checkups, dental, or anything else. And he is fighting me for full blown custody.

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Jennifer - posted on 12/12/2013

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Sorry I write a lot! I wanted to put out there that both her father and I had speech problems growing up. We both had to see speech therapists when we were younger to get it corrected.

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