feel rejected

Hannah - posted on 08/07/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




hi can anyone help me as i have a little boy that is 8 months old and since me and my partener found out we were expecting again so soon which wasnt planned i feel as if my little boy is pushing me away all the time and only wants his dad or someone else if they visit but never me ,does he think i dnt love him any more ?


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Amanda - posted on 08/20/2009




my friend has a son olny will go to sleep for her husband i think you son is just going though a stage and will get over it soon just hang in there and know that he love you

Kristi - posted on 08/19/2009




It's alright, with most kids the take their spells. Wanting mommy then daddy, just back and forth. I'ts nothing to worry about he still needs you.

Danielle - posted on 08/09/2009




I had noticed with my bub that around 8 months old he went through a daddy faze.

He could be just going through something similar. When ever he was upset I wouldn't cut it. He needed daddy.

I think it is a good sign. That means he is equally as comfortable with your spouse.

Cecily - posted on 08/09/2009




That does not mean he doesn't love any less. He know another baby is coming nad its probably a girl...lol but dont let that discourage you i would still try to play with him a let him know eventhough he's a baby how much you love him. best of luck with evevrtything it will be fine

Morgan - posted on 08/08/2009




He definitely isn't pushing you away. He loves you unconditionally you are his mom and no one can replace you in his heart. Right now he is just going through a stage. Both of mine did it where all they wanted was their daddy. And they also went through a period where all they wanted was me, so babies just go through little periods. He will also go through a period if he hasn't already where he won't go to anyone but you or his daddy. I found out when my first was 4 months old that I was pregnant again not planned either. As I grew bigger and my daughter grew older she began to understand that mommy was having a baby and she would come up and rub my belly or give it kisses. My daughters are 13 months 4 days apart and are the best of friends. So my guess is as your belly gets bigger he will think it's pretty neat and want to touch it as this is how babies learn. Try and get him involved with your pregnancy by telling him mom and dad are having another baby and he is going to be a big brother. Have him sit with you and touch your belly and tell him his little brother or sister is in there, you may not think it but he will understand. My first got quite a kick out it especially once #2 was kicking and she could feel it. We also bought her a doll and she played mommy to it which helped when her sister came cause she was super helpful bringing us the bottle or diapers. I say don't sweat it it is just a phase he will grow out of it. So enjoy him and your pregnancy.

Hannah - posted on 08/08/2009




I wish my daughter would sometimes not want me, and want her Dad! I could use the break. Since birth, all she wants is me, and she is 7 months old.

Betty - posted on 08/07/2009




He's a baby. He's too young to understand what's going on and it dosn't matter that your pregnant that has nothing to do with this. This is a great thing and you should be glad that he is happy to see your family and friends because they will develop a bond and be a better help for you later. Trust me you will need alot of help and a friendly baby will make people more likely to give their time and support. Just remember that you are the most important woman in his life and he will always need you.

Casey - posted on 08/07/2009




Kids definetly go through favouritism! Enjoy it! Say here you go dad and go have a lie down, or go shopping or something! babies love you unconditionally and forever.

Melissa - posted on 08/07/2009




Of course he doesn't Hannah! You are his mother and his one and only and that maternal bond will always be there (until teenage years lol). All babies go through favorites stages. Just keep patient and do not allow your feelings of rejection show through to him or he will sense it. Just keep doing the same things you always did, if not by showing him even more affection. Just think of this way, it is good that he is being sociable with other people because when he gets to the age of walking and talking you don't want him to be attached to your hip 24-7 and afraid of other people. Hang in there!

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