feeling down and out, advise anyone?

Ashley - posted on 02/04/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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me and my ex husband have joint custody where time is split up one week with me and one week with him. i have a major problem with being completely down and out while they are gone for a complete week. i had my son when i was 18. he is fixin to be 7. i also have a 4 yr old daughter. i just dont know what to do with myself while they are gone and then when they come i am overwhelmed. its going back and forth from one extreme the other. i am also a stay at home mom. but when they arent here, i am just here all day. i try to find things to do but i only desire to mother my children. its all i can think about. does anyone have any advise or went through this?

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Crystal - posted on 02/05/2013

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You are going through constant change. It is bound to make you feel down. It is hard to constantly adjust between extremes. A week is a long time to not have your children. I have a hard time when I do not have my kids either. Getting overwhelmed right after not having them for that long is also a reasonable thing because of the huge, sudden change. When your kids are not with you, keep your house routine similar, but also get out of the house or do something that you don't usually get to do when you have the kids, like watching grown-up movies or go window shopping. If you have any close friends, maybe get together with them. You will still miss your kids, want them with you and find things you would love to show them. It may help to make a list of the things you discover while they are gone that you can do when you are together.

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Crystal - posted on 02/15/2013

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Yeah. I have trouble sleeping when mine are gone too; and I don't want to do anything without them. It sounds like you have a great support system.

Ashley - posted on 02/12/2013

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I try to keep my schedule close as possible but sometimes its just like I am so tired I cant make myself get out of bed. I know that is partly depression but also bc I have a really hard time going to sleep when they aren't here. I guess I just gotta push and make myself b4 I get too deep in the slump. I have battled this before. I don't wanna get so far down. ya know what I mean?

Ashley - posted on 02/12/2013

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thanks. I am already continuing my education. I am taking classes online. and I am already remarried to an awesome man :) . he works many hours a day though. he takes care of me and my babies and pays for me to go to school, so I can stay here with my babies when they are home. the change has just taken place in the past couple weeks. they were staying home all week with me and going to their dads on weekends.

Chatwattie - posted on 02/04/2013

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down feel down its just your motherly instinct telling you how caring of a mom you are to your kids.I never went through your situation but i know how it feels to miss your kids considering the fact that my 4 year old's father kicked me out and wouldn't let me see or speak to my son for 6 weeks and i couldn't do anything because there was no court order but try to keep your self occupied like continuing your education or get some friend and what the heck find a good man lol

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