Feeling lefted out

Mommie_Pumpkin - posted on 12/01/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Back then I use to have so many friends now I feel like I have none...I want some girls to talk to me but how if I'm a mom now..people avoid me. I wish I had real friends instead of Facebook friends :/

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Cass - posted on 12/09/2012

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guess what! i literally have no friends either! i`m in a new town though, and havent talked to my old friends in a really long time except for 1 who i talk to daily. too bad shes on the other side of the country! at first i was really really bored and alone while hubby works, but i somehow managed to accept my situation, and have patience. i know that eventually people who i have something in common with will come into my life, and i`m not too worried about it for the time being. hang in there, you aren`t alone there are tons & tons of us feeling exactly how you feel. i`ll bet all your friends will come running for help once they have babies and aren't "too good." or maybe they were never really your friend to begin with. lots of people just use each other as an excuse to go out drinking, and it becomes super obvious when you don't fall into that category anymore. hang in there!

Emily - posted on 12/02/2012

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I wouldn't worry about it too much, just focus on your child and significant other if you have one and the grass is always greener on the other side. I always used to say to my husband even before my son that I wanted to go out and have fun with people, but as soon as I left I wanted to just be back at home.

Mommie_Pumpkin - posted on 12/02/2012

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Danielle You do understand! Hanging out with people who dont have kids it weird! they talk about how much fun they have and i stuck listening to them while im thinking about my LO. For example when my son does something funny i feel like bragging about it but i know it will make things akward :/ well I really like being on this website....i feel like i can talk to a lot of mom and we can somewhat relate :) i here to talk too

Mommie_Pumpkin - posted on 12/02/2012

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Gina Im from New Jersey...Yes i live in bad area but ever since i had my son i want to do something with my life. I really want to move out this state...its becoming worst and worst every year. i want my son to grow up in a decent area and not and garbage. Literally people here are rude and start problems for no reason not to mention i cant walk any where without smelling disgusting weed. I hate it and i better than all that. I've never did drugs or even drink alcohol. maybe that why i dont fit in??...well dont worry about ur husband not wanting u to be online....my boyfriend is like that too cause facebook cause problems and to me its for nosy people...i hope to talk more :)

Mommie_Pumpkin - posted on 12/02/2012

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Thanks Ashley, I just feel like there are More girls who have kids still show off there body just to get people to talk to them (where i live). Basically attention hogger! i dont want to anything like that just hangout with young moms like me. i hope i do make real friends soon... there's times were we need to talk to someone other then the baby's daddy. :) thank you again

Danielle Kimberly - posted on 12/02/2012

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Hey Pumpkin, you are not alone. I moved 16 hours away from my hometown a year before I got pregnant. I did meet a lot of great people during that year but ever since I had the baby, no one has come to visit me. I find what has helped me a great deal was finding mommy groups in my area. It's a great way to meet other moms.



I left my LO at grandma's overnight for the first time when she was 3 months. We had a night out with friends but it was strange. No one there besides me and my fiance had children. It was almost like I had become socially retarted. All I wanted to talk about was my LO, my ups, my downs of mommyhood and everything in between. My whole life is my baby now and the only people who can truly understand and relate are other moms.



If you ever want to chat, I'm here... How old is your LO?

Gina - posted on 12/02/2012

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Hey, I am in your same position! Since i had my daughter i have no friends at all! I have a facebook page, but only four of my family members are on there! I have it private, cause i don't want men to try and chat with me! My husbands already upset i'm on-line!

I think after you have a child you start looking at everything differently too. Some of your old friends may have been great to hang out with when you were single. But being a mother is the most important job, and we can never be too safe when it comes to our babies.

I am 29 yrs old. I have a 10 1/2 yr old Daughter. I am married. And i have time to chat if you need someone to talk to. I live in Maine. Where are you from?

Ashley - posted on 12/02/2012

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it happens to us all girl! i guess this is the point where you realize who your real friends are. just know its not you. it the fact that you have responsibilities they dont have. they dnt understand motherhood. dnt sit and wait for them to come around. make new friends. friends with children to! yeah, it sucks cuz new friends arent the same as old friends, but hey. mayb try posting on some of yur groups in circle of moms to see if there are any moms in your area? If your looking for a texting buddy for advice or to vent you can always try me:)

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