Feeling Lonely... is it normal?

Brijette - posted on 07/23/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am 20 years old (I turn 21 in august) and I had my frist child in May. She is the most beautiful and most amazing thing to have ever happened to me. Throughout the pregnancy I noticed my "freinds" start to slip away. Always having a reason for not coming around so often or why they couldn't make it to my baby shower and now why they haven't come to see me or meet my daughter. My fiance and I live with my parents and apart from him and his family and my family I have no one else to talk to. All my friends just.... don't have time for me anymore. Like sense I can't party anymore they want nothing to do with me or sense I have priorities and have to spend my money on my daughter and not what they want I am no longer wanted around. I knew people eventually showed their true colors but I didn't expect all of my freinds to just bail on me. And what does that say about me? for me to have chosen people like that to have around. I just feel lonely... like becuase I have a child now I am being "left out" .... does everyone feel this way after having kids? or do i just have crapy freinds?

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I was 22 when I got preggers, 23 when I had my daughter, and I've barely seen my friends since (and Fi will be 3 in oct). Oh sure every so often we text or message (on FaceBook or MySpace) about how much we miss each other and we need to get together, but it pretty much never happens. I only had 3 people that stayed in constant touch with me, but even them I rarely see. Now one has an infant, another is due in a few months, and the other is childless (but she is the Godmother of my daughter). Even tho Nicci is on the same page as me know since she had her baby, we still don't ever get together. It's difficult finding the time to spend together, if Fi comes we don't really get a chance to visit, and if I don't bring her I feel guilty and don't stay long.
Cherish the loved ones still in your life, it sucks but it does get easier.

Miriam - posted on 07/23/2009

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Heya, I now really only have a couple of friends. I had everyone stop talking to me and they barely txt me anymore, and only if I txt them. I have one I see maybe 3 times a year, 2 who are sister who I see rarely and another mummie my age who I rarely see either.

I really feel left out and alone like you do.

We currently live with my mother and her partner but they will be moving out in January and then I will feel even more alone than I do right now.

Especially since I have no one to vent to or help me when I'm feeling blue, or sad, exhausted, or when my husband and I have had a fight.

I'm 21, 22 in January with a 22month old boy and 7 week old girl.

Miriam - posted on 07/23/2009

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Heya, I now really only have a couple of friends. I had everyone stop talking to me and they barely txt me anymore, and only if I txt them. I have one I see maybe 3 times a year, 2 who are sister who I see rarely and another mummie my age who I rarely see either.

I really feel left out and alone like you do.

We currently live with my mother and her partner but they will be moving out in January and then I will feel even more alone than I do right now.

Especially since I have no one to vent to or help me when I'm feeling blue, or sad, exhausted, or when my husband and I have had a fight.

I'm 21, 22 in January with a 22month old boy and 7 week old girl.

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