few questions about new baby ?

Jessica - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 46 moms have responded )

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Although I am a mom of 2 i don't remember alot of when my older son was a newborn so i was looking for sum tips ... such as when do you start using baby powder? & when do u up the amount of formula you baby takes My newborn lost almost 10 oz in his 1st week after being born but on friday he was almost back at his birth weight only one oz below the dr had him eating every 21/2 hours which was rough but since he's gained the weight back ive gone back to his every 3 to 4 hours but i have to wake him to eat he barley wakes on his own so I know hes not starving but should he still be eating more often ? also I had a c section & seem to be having a very quick recovery ive been on my own at night since 2 days after being home my hubby works nights so i have both my boys all night by myself kind hard to be resting & not doing much I feel good most of the time & am curious to know if any other moms would share their recovery stories ?

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Anna - posted on 08/10/2009

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I do not use baby powder. It really isn't necessary or recommended because the baby can breathe it in which is dangerous. I breastfeed, so that's different in terms of schedule and amount....but my baby as a newborn ate every 4 hours, and she did great. Also most babies eat a little less often with formula because it's harder to digest and takes longer to go through the system. I'm a big proponent of feeding a baby when they are hungry instead of on a schedule, AS LONG AS THEY ARE INTERESTED IN FOOD AND NOT SLEEPY ALL THE TIME. I know babies who had jaundice and wouldn't wake up when they needed to eat.....but if he's waking up on his own every 4 hours or so and has gained back his birthweight already, I'd let him set his own schedule. I didn't have a c-section, but I do have a friend who did too much too soon because she felt ok and she pulled muscles around the incision and the incision itself is just healing now, more than 6 months later. I'm not saying that will necessarily happen to you, but take it easy if you can! Sleep when you can and don't push it!

Ellie - posted on 08/08/2009

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Loosing weight after the birth is quite common, so no worries there. I wouldn't ever wake the baby to feed them. Whenever they are hungry they will wake you up, for sure! Get some rest while they do! Whenever my kids were consistently finishing every bottle they ate, I upped the amount by 2 ounces... So just one extra scoop of formula... My youngest son was 6 weeks old eating an 8oz bottle! Just go with your gut- It's usually right!

Topaz - posted on 08/07/2009

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i delivered naturally and breast feed so i cant help you in the formula dept. but ive been told never to use baby powder- it leads to more bacteria growing, not only that but it can male a paste and clog the baby up so he/she cant poop! I use baby vaseline or desitin every diaper change and she has never gotten a rash.. Good luck!

Kathryn - posted on 08/07/2009

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I recovered really quickly but don't overdo it i walked up a hill fine then realised afterwards that it wasn't such a good idea. My youngest daughter lost 1lb in her first 2 days, but it all depends on how heavy he was at birth, smaller babies i've found spend a lot of time sleeping as they are concentrate on growing, bottle fed babies are going to be asleep more as they are satisfied alot quicker than breastfed babies. when it comes to formula milk go by weight not age but if your baby is draining the bottle everytime then up it an ounce. good luck

Ellen - posted on 08/07/2009

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Quoting Amie:

I never put my daughter on a feeding schedule and I never woke her up to eat. I let her wake up on her own when she was hungry. I also never went by a schedule as to when I raised her amount either. When it didn't seem like 2 oz was enough and she still wanted more I raised it to 4 oz. I also never forced her to eat more if she didn't want it. I know she was just a baby but I think in her own way she could decide if she was hungry or not. LOL She definitly had a set of lungs on her and still does. Don't know if I have helped much but hope I did a little.


  I did the same thing as Amie. My daughter Kiera would let me know when she was hungry,girl had and still does have a powerful set of lungs.  The only thing I didnt do is use baby powder. If you think about it, when you go to shake the powder on your babies bottom, the dust flies into the air and there is a possibilty of your baby breathing that in.  But that's just MO. Any who, your baby will let you know if he is still hungry or not.

Ashlee - posted on 08/07/2009

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We never use baby powder we have it and never used it. My son is nine months so I can't be any help there. I breastfed, but didn't use a schedule I did on demand feeding. Breastfed babies should eat about every 2-3 hrs formula 3-4 hrs. When to up it is when he seems still hungry after a feeding. Say he eats 2oz every 3 hours try 3 oz for a couple days then 4oz. I would definitely not go longer than 4 hours without feeding especially a newborn I think it's every 4 hours until about 4 months and then you can not worry about a night feeding around 6 months. Letting a newborn sleep until they wake themselves not a good plan, especially if they are small and needing to gain weight. A hungry underfed baby doesn't wake up until they are over hungry then you have to make up a feeding in about 1/2 hr-1 hr
Good Luck

Shannon - posted on 08/07/2009

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It's normal for the baby to loose some weight after birth. Your supposed to feed them every 2-3 hours as needed. I remember having to wake my babies up to feed them, that usually will stop around a month old, and they'll wake up on their own to let you know they are hungry.They start out drinking about 2-3 ounces, but when you notice that after they drink it all and it doesn't seem to hold them for 2 hours then start feeding them and extra ounce. As your baby grows you will know when to up the amount of formula. I never put baby powder in the diaper but I did put it between their toes and on their back and tummy after a bath to keep them smelling fresh. Your not supposed to bath them often, maybe every 2-3 days, because their skin is sensitive and will get dried out if you bath them too often, us baby lotion after bathing. My recovery time with my 1st daughter was like 3 months only because I lost alot of blood and was very pale. I am very tiny and she was 8 lbs, 4 oz. and tore me pretty good. They gave me iron pills and stool softeners. The iron can make you constipated so the stool softeners helped that because I had so many stitches. I still was scared to use the bathroom...lol. My second daughter was 7 lbs., 14 oz. but my recovery time was like 3 weeks and I didn't loose much blood.

Ashley - posted on 08/07/2009

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When my daughter was 10 days old she was sleeping through the night...my opinion is that you shouldnt wake them up to eat...trust me they will make up for it during the day...and now you can get them on your schedule of being up during the day and sleeping at night and you could get some rest and relaxation....i think it is a good thing that the baby is already sleeping longer hours...trust me they will let you know when they are ready to eat, they let you know when they want more, and they will stop sucking when they are done...on the c-section part...never had one. sorry.

Mattee - posted on 08/07/2009

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Baby powder actually will hold the moisture on the baby's skin and can actually cause a diaper rash. It is an outdated remedy. I would use a moisture barrier cream. It repels the moisture from the skin.

April - posted on 08/07/2009

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My doc told me a good rule of thumb is to take the baby's weight and divide it by two. That is roughly how many ounces they should be getting. Not an exact science but a good estimate. Has worked great for me.

Jade - posted on 08/06/2009

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sorry, another one, Nyoka, you are right that is true, the talc can enter the vagina and build up to dangerous levels and cause both cervical and ovarian cancer. not a chance i was willing to take with my lil one

Jade - posted on 08/06/2009

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oh and on the sex thing, usuially it is 6 weeks. I hassled my doctor earlier (yeah i actually wanted to :P) and she said that as long as i was comfortable (so no pain etc) it was fine..albeit messy but i started at about 3 weeks post partum with both (I had been very very sexual during my pregnancy also, my husband was for once the one making excuses lol)

Jade - posted on 08/06/2009

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I didn't use the corn starch either, my saviour for nappy rash was sudacream, which is the most amazing cream ever!!!

Jessica - posted on 08/06/2009

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THanks so much ladies youve been so nice to share your stories with me I feel great its been a lil more then 2 weeks since i had my son i just can't wait to be completely back to normal I hope noone gets offended but how long after the section are u able to have intercourse with protection of course?

April - posted on 08/06/2009

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Vasaline worked really great instead of baby powder or anything else for rashes, thats what I use. My son is 2 and I still use it when he gets a rash and within an hour or so, its gone.



And the baby will cry and let you know when they are hungry. Don't force them to eat or anything. Or they'll get an upset belly.





I had a C-section with my 2nd child and I recovered really well from it for being my first C-section. It was also an emergency csection because he flipped on me within less than 24 hours (so his head was up by my boob, lol) so he was born right on hsi due date. Didn't really have any problems, other than that, except for my incision itching off and on which made it hurt and a burn feelin and it still does that til this day especially when my pants rubs on it. just have to take it easy and relax after its done for awhile afterwards which was tough cause I couldnt hold my son for a few days which was tough after the c-section..

Danielle - posted on 08/06/2009

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I never woke my daughter up to eat. He will let you know when he is hungry. Try to have some "mommy time" even if its 5 minutes to take a deep breath... I didn't have a C-section but take it easy as much as possible.. take care and GOOD LUCK!

Maxine - posted on 08/06/2009

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When I had my c-section I was in pain for a week and a half and felt the numbness for a whole year. Also when I started walking the day after my c-section my whole stomach would burn as if the stiches were coming out but the doctor said that it was only because they cut all of your nerves and muscles...which makes sense and explains the numbness. I wasnt supposed to drive for 2 weeks after the c-section but I did after the first week as my boyfriend didnt have a lisence. The only problem I had with everything was the bleeding since they didnt explain well enough what to expect. I would end up calling the hospital every couple days to see if I was hemorrhaging.

Nyoka - posted on 08/06/2009

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i have also heard whether or not its true that baby powder on genitals can cause cervical cancer in females!! i dont use baby powder i use baby cream!

Nyoka - posted on 08/06/2009

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hi jessica,
i had a c section and my recovery was quick! they recommend to not do anything heavy for bout 6 weeks but i was vacumming, hanging out washing and generally all the house work.. i felt fine in myself to be able to do it and i was lucky to have recovered well.. my midwifes didnt tell me that i couldnt do anything for 6 weeks like vacuuming and hangin washing but i did. they went nuts at me but i healed fine..
it should say on the formula can how much a baby needs of formula.. my son started on 50 mls and then now hes on 200ml per feed.
i figure that babies will let u no when they are hungry.. after all its when they sleep that the grow! i think its different when your breastfeeding to formula feed cuz you need the penetration to bring your milk in so i think thats why they get you to feed every 2 hours..
good luck. .and remember to take it easy ;)

Jeanette - posted on 08/06/2009

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Some doctors say it is not good to use baby powder at all. The powder in the air gets in the babies lungs when they breath. I would just make a little more from time to time and if they at it all then i would give them the bigger amount. It didnt bother me to toss a little down the drain if it wasnt eaten. Our dr always told us that is was okay for the baby to sleep during the night as long as they ate real good while they were awake. I thought with my c-section the most painful was the second one. But I was the one at home for a while and had a three year old and newborn. I just did it and slep when i could. It is all worth it.

Mallory - posted on 08/06/2009

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I had a c-section, I was up the next morning after my delivery. And I seemed to recover quickly though I got tired often for a while. I had a bit of trouble getting out of bed sometimes because our bed is tall and I am short so my husband had to put a hook in the ceiling and hang a rope down from it so I could pull myself up. I had some of the same concerns as you do. Unfortunatly I can't remember when you up the formula amount. Seems like the hospital gave me a chart, or maybe it came in the mail.

Kimberly - posted on 08/06/2009

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I have never had a c-section but I've had very complicated vaginal deliveries. Both my children were three weeks early. My daughter (first) weighed 8lbs 10oz and My son weighed 7lbs. Very big term babies. After my son I developed a recto-vaginal fistula which required major surgery to repair. It is a hole that develops from the rectum to the vagina. So both my children aided in tearing my vaginal wall. The surgery was very difficult and was done when our son was nine weeks old. I am no longer allowed to have vag. deliveries because it will tear the opening again and every time it is harder to fix because the muscles in the area pull naturally to the right and left so it is a very hard opening to seal once it is there. As for feeding goes I bottle fed my first and breast and bottle my second. I wanted to only breast feed him but he had trouble latching when he was first born because he is tongue tied. I would increase the oz in a feeding if the baby finishes the entire bottle for a feeding and still seems hungry. I would not put cereal in a bottle because a bottle is only for formula and when you start to introduce other things in a bottle then a bottle is all they want. My son began cereal on a spoon at three months old and now he is the perfect eater from a spoon. When cereal was introduced he seemed more satiated when it was time for bed because he had an actual dinner to fill him. then by 5-6 months he was eating jars of baby food and now at nine months he can eat spaghetti, mac and cheese, some fruits, and soggy pancakes. He is still breast fed and has slept through the night since two days old with the occasional night time feedings which are barely noticed now because we co-sleep and when he is hungry he justs wakes up and knows how to help himself to latching onto to me. I feel him when he does it but then I fall right back to sleep while he eats.

Jennifer - posted on 08/06/2009

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Csections r the best haha.....no labor wooo.....and yes the first hurt the worst and omg I couldnt walk for a week cuz mine was an emergency csection and they did it wrong the first go round haha but the second was a cake walk......also the easiest thing to tell u about formula is u feed them HALF their weight so whatever they weigh then half that but SOMETIMES that isnt enough for a baby....

Shauna - posted on 08/05/2009

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I also had a csection, I seemed to recover fairly quickly, from what i can remember. I know it was hard for me to get up, even a week later, i think it didn't move enough, bc my boyfriend sister and a friend were there to do most of the moving. But I breastfed up until my son was 5 months old, so i just fed him when he was acting hungry. He only started spitting up when i would feed him out of a bottle, after having pumped. And for powder, my doctor said it wasn't good for babies, something about they can suffocate? Im not sure about that since alot of people still use it, but i steered clear just to be on the safe side. But when he did get a diaper rash, which was only about 3 times since hes been born[hes 12 1/2 months now] i used Buttpaste. It's amazing! You put a little on the rash, and its gone by the next day, sometimes even a few hrs later, if its just a slight rash!

Mel - posted on 08/05/2009

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have you tried reflux meds or thickening bottles? it sometimes helps them hold feeds down

Jessica - posted on 08/05/2009

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thank you everyone for the help & keep it coming I'm glad to take all adivece i did give nim another ounce last night cuz he seemed still hungry but then he threw up more then normal so im not sure :(

Trudy - posted on 08/05/2009

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i started using powder when my daughter was 2 weeks. she was fine on it but not all kids are the same maybe try once and see if it dont make him sick .....dont worry to much about his wieght. my daughter was 5lbs 5oz when we left the labor and delivery now almost two months later she is close to 9lbs. and scine my daughter let the whole world knew when she is hungery i'm pretty that you shouldn't worry to much but maybe wait 10-15mins longer once just to see if he'll wake up and want to eat and it also depends on how old cus my daughter slept alot at first and now she likes being wake for she can see everything and try to understand what things are....so take a breath and relax your son's weight and everything will catch at some point but dont worry yourself unless he is not feeling well

Sarah - posted on 08/05/2009

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I never used baby powder. Sorry I cant help with formula, I breastfeed. But she ate every 3 hours and when she had a growth spurt every 2 hours. I was on demand whenever she wanted to eat, so she never lost weight, she gained a lb in the 1st week.

Becky - posted on 08/05/2009

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as for the feeding schedule, we fed our son every 3 hrs. he started on 2oz and then when he still seemed hungry we upped it to 4oz. Ur baby will let u know when he's hungry. We never had to wake our son up to feed. He was so used to his schedule that he woke on his own. As for the baby powder, we used the one with cornstarch they gave us at the hospital. I would just sprinkle a little into his diaper after each change and he never had a rash. We never even used any kind of cream though I always had it handy. Every baby is different and they will let u know when they're hungry just like they tell u when they're dirty. keep faith you'll do fine.

Becky - posted on 08/05/2009

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I had my son by emergency c-section. We discovered my pelvic bone is tilted and therefore my son's head never crowned. It was a very stressful delivery and the Dr. ended up putting me out because the epidural was taking too long to take effect. My husband and myself missed out on our 1st baby's birth. It was so hard in the begining because I couldn't be sure he was mine. I had no way to relate him to the experience. But my recovery went a bit smoother. I was walking around that next day. Slowly of course but still. I had a few great nurses that would come help me get up and encourage me to move so I could go home sooner. I'm currently 6 months pregnant with out second child and will be having a scheduled c-section. I'm worried about recovery because I'm getting a tubal. I just hope my healing process is just as smooth as the first time around.

Ashley - posted on 08/05/2009

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i've used baby powder on both my sons since the day they were born. i dont put it in their diaper though i use it on them after their bath. i use vaseline on my 4 wk old and i aslo used it on my oldest as well and he never got a diaper rash. as for the formula your baby will let you know when he needs more. i had to up my baby's to 5 oz because the 4 wasnt filling him anymore. about an hr after he fed he wanted more and was acting like he was starving again. i would make another bottle but he'd only drink about an oz. just needed that little bit to fill his tummy. i also dont wake him to feed and he'll go 5 hrs during the night sometimes but with you it may be different beacause he lost weight.

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Don't use baby powder! When you sprinkle it into the diaper those little particles go everywhere and the baby will breathe them in. You don't want those chemicals going into their lungs.

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I have never had a c-section but I did have an episiotomy (not fun I popped stitches and then needed another episiotomy. Then bed rest was ordered my hubby had left a week before our baby was borne on an 8 month deployment. I too was left alone to do the day to day stuff. My suggestion on the doing too much is… if you feel sore then stop and rest. An infection sucks, as will popped stitches. The baby powder can be harmful to your lil ones lungs and is useless cuz it has talcum powder and cornstarch which feed the rash only to get worse. Our lil gal had a small rash that got so bad that we had to go to the Dr and get cream to clear it up he told me powder is not some thing to use he suggested destine or California baby (anti-fungal) most rashes are a yeast infection on boys and gal’s. Now our lil one also lost weight almost a pound. I was Bfeeding but they wanted me to also give her formula every 2-3 hours and I had to wake her up (arrgg), so we did. Now they don’t need much, what you are giving him is good for now he will tell you when to increase to more formula it might be a month or so but he will tell you. Now because I was waking her up I created a habit that to this day we are having a hard time breaking. She is now 16months and still wants to eat, this is hard. So wake him up for a while but if he wants to sleep I suggest you let him and get some too. Hope this helps and good luck.

Ez - posted on 08/05/2009

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While your baby is having problems gaining weight it's best to follow doctors' orders and wake him to feed. Once he is established in his weight gain though, and as long as he is getting the recommended amount of formula over a 24hr period, you should be fine to let him sleep.
Also, the amount per feed is specific to which formula you're using. Just go by the guidelines on the can. That will give you an idea of where he should be as far as daily intake. But if you need more detailed instruction you should ask your doctor or baby nurse.

Laura - posted on 08/05/2009

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i just used powder after a bath to make sure my baby was dry, as for upping the feed, i got told that if they drained the bottle for 3 consecutive feeds, then add another oz, also when they're newborn to feed on demand. But what works for one baby may not work for another, so i would just pick the bt of advice u feel most comfortable with and go with that! lol

Danielle - posted on 08/04/2009

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When my daughter was born i used baby powder at least once a day just to help prevent a rash..she never came down with a yest infection..not saying it couldnt happen...my daughter very rarely got diaper rash...now my nephew has a bowel disorder were he gets diaper rash more often and we would just use corn starch because some baby powder had fragrance and would irritate him more, now when my daughter would go to bed that is when i would mainly use baby powder especially with her being older...she is 2 and there urine is stronger and your not going to change them in the middle of the night unless they wake up...for feeding her i would not wake her up my daughter at night would go sometimes 6-8 hours with a bottle and it is just meaning she was content usually it was a night time...the during the day she would drink every four hours...when she would finish a four ounce bottle and still seemed hungry or guzzled the bottle i would try and give her another 2 ounces..if she is not hungry she isnt going to east it...sorry for saying so much hopefully it helps...

Erin - posted on 08/04/2009

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the baby will let you know when he's hungry, as long as he's keeping weight on and not losing i wouldn't worry to much about it. i never used baby powder, i used cornstarch. it works well and for baby rash i use zinc oxide cream.

i had my c-section almost 2 years ago and my lower abs are still numb.

Mel - posted on 08/04/2009

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baby powder can be used from birth, you up the formula when they are 2 weeks old from 60 mills to 120 mills then at one month old to 180 mills then after that (i could be wrong) its every month. i use the pre mixed formula from a can so i dont remember fully about this kind of thing. if he has gained the weight back , continues to gain weight and does not appear to be lacking energy or dehydrated you do not need to wake at all during the night. mine was the same they made me wake her for 3 hour feeds the first week or 2 she hated it then i let her sleep she slept 10-11 hours. when she was 3-5 months they again made me wake her 3 hours day and night and the poor thing could not stay awake to drink a bottle because she was being woken all the time and taking 1 hour to drink each one.

Ashley - posted on 08/04/2009

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I breastfed and delivered naturally so can't help you on those issues. As for the baby powdre/cornstarch, both are a breeding ground for bacteria. I used nothing unless they got a rash which was very seldom and then used breastmilk on it. I had a friend though who rubbed on vaselline every time she changer her baby and she never had a rash. The idea is to keep her clean. If you change her everytime she urinates/deficates there shouldn't be a problem.

Jade - posted on 08/04/2009

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I just had my first daughter and I had a c-section and since they released me from the hospital I have been out and about that day. I did not sit in a bed because a bed is your worst enemy after surgery. As for baby powder don't use it, it only makes diaper rash worse. Use corn startch, I put it in my daughter's diaper everytime I change her, she got a yeast infection and it took it away in three days. It is the best and the cheapest out there. They even sell corn startch at wal-mart in a plastic container with a screw on lid so you can take it with you and not worry about it getting everywhere. As for the food; don't wake your child up to eat, let him wake up on his own to eat. He will let you know when he is hungry. Trust me he is not starving. You don't have to worry about when to up the food, he will let you know when he has not had enough. My daughter was born 6 pounds 3.5 ounces and within the first week of her being born she dropped down to 5 pounds 10 ounces and she is now 4 weeks old and weighs 7 pound 9 ounces. My daughter has been drinking 4 oz of formula for about 2 weeks now and she is just starting to tell me that 4 oz is not enough.



HE WILL LET YOU KNOW WHEN HE WANTS MORE!

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Hi there Jessica..I also am a mother of 2 and forgot alot after my first son was born..LOL..it all seemed new once again..anyways i used baby lotion on their skin for the first 2 weeks or so until his skin wasn't so dry, i also used vasaeline on his bum..but I did used powder after the 1st week or so..my oldest son also lost a few oz. after birth..but i fed him when he was hungry..i never woke him from his sleep EVER..although the Dr. told me to..the way i looked at was if hes hungry hes gonna eat..its alot harder to get a cranky baby to eat..LOL..but now he usually only slept 3 hrs at the longest and he would be starving at his wakings. but as for the c-section I have no idea..any ways hope this helps in some way for you..take care and good luck with your new bundel of joy..

Jessica - posted on 08/04/2009

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I should also say this was my 2nd c section i could deliver my 1st son vaginally either so this one was planned but I'm worried about adheasions cuz i feel fine so ive been doin alot they say not to i guess cuz i havent been feeling any pain really & cuz i gotta take care of my family & i had no help with my hubby is at work & my belly is still pretty numb its been 2 weeks

Amie - posted on 08/04/2009

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I never put my daughter on a feeding schedule and I never woke her up to eat. I let her wake up on her own when she was hungry. I also never went by a schedule as to when I raised her amount either. When it didn't seem like 2 oz was enough and she still wanted more I raised it to 4 oz. I also never forced her to eat more if she didn't want it. I know she was just a baby but I think in her own way she could decide if she was hungry or not. LOL She definitly had a set of lungs on her and still does. Don't know if I have helped much but hope I did a little.

Jade - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have never had a c-section but they say that the first is always the hardest, after that recovery tends to be quicker. As for baby powder, my personal advice would be never, use corn starch instead it is much safer. As for how much formula, i guess you could/would up it when he is drinking all of what you give him and seems to still want more. Often the can will have guidelines as to how much to feed as well.

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