Financially handicapped husband!!!

Lana - posted on 08/21/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a married 22 year old, working, college student. We got married about a year ago and had saved up and planned to move out of my mothers house. 5 months into our marriage I discovered that I was pregnant! I was shocked and pissed off. HE was neutral. After discussing things with my mother we decided to stay at her house. I am now 28 weeks and still working, although I can not return to class till January. My husband recently is currently enrolled in 3 classes. He complains about working and is CONVINCED that he won't need to work and that we can live on his student loans. I however will continue to work after my maternity leave. I plan to take at least 2 classes and work at least 3 days.. He seems to think that he doesn't have to work.
My thinking is that we should continue to work and save money for an apt when we move out in 3 years. We also need money to care for our child as I will NOT be accepting excess amounts of help. I am no mooch.
To add, my husband has another child from a previous relationship. How can a man think he doesn't need to work when he has 2 kids to support?? I'm confused.. I mean he does see her regularly but still.. I CANNOT deal with a man who makes excuses and quick fixes not to work??

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Lana - posted on 08/23/2012

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The more I look at this the less sense it makes, and the angrier I get. I tried to explain my stance in a different way and he got even more frustrated with me. He is even upset that I continue to work as I do. I generally work 30 hrs a week at a retail job. So i'm on my feet at least 6 hrs a day. I can not seem to convince him that living on student loans when we have a place to stay rent and bill free is a terrible and costly idea. We have a majorly supportive role model(my mother) in our faces and he still wants to do stupid shit.

Michelle - posted on 08/22/2012

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I think realistically it takes to parents working to raise a family comfortably, there are a few people out there that will disagree but this is my opinion. I would lay out the facts and put my foot down with him and tell him to get off his duff and help support his family.

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