Four Month old sleep issues

Michelle - posted on 07/06/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My son is four months old , he has never been a really good sleeper , just having brief naps , but now we are having major problems! I have always co-slept with him at night , I am nursing and this was just easier , now however he is not sleeping on his own during the day , I have put him back to sleep and lied him down countless times and he just startles awake after five minutes , sometime at the most a half an hour.At night he does not want to sleep eathier unless he is nursing , this can be right after a good feeding so I know he is not hungry but he will actually look for a nipple and wake up if he doesn't find it right away.I know he just wants to suck but he wont take his fingers , my fingers or a soother , he will just wake up and be inconsolable.HELP !!

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Samantha - posted on 07/06/2009

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Quoting Tabatha:



oh ya and some may not agree but i would stop co sleeping! its going to make it harded for him to want to sleep in a big boy bed when the time comes!





I agree... Stop Co-Sleeping.  You are going to run into problems later when he is still sleeping with you when he is older.  Your bed is YOUR bed.

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My son is 10 months now, and we still breastfeed and co-sleep at night. Mine was the same way when he was little at nap-time though - always looking for the boob to get back to sleep again. Some things that worked for us were white noise, swaddling, and elevating the crib mattress slightly. I know mine naps better on his tummy, too, but I'm not sure if you want to try that with your little one only being 4 months. Also, how long are you waiting before you set him down in the crib after he falls asleep? Babies have kind of a backward sleep cycle, so they go into REM sleep first - so they startle awake very easily for about 10 minutes after they first fall asleep. Maybe you'll be able to sneak away if you give him a little more time to fall into deep sleep. It has taken a combination of the things I mentioned above, but over the course of a few months I've been able to lengthen my son's naps from 15 minutes to more like an hour or and hour and a half. I think some of it just comes with age too - by about 6 months, mine seemed to get a lot better at soothing himself back to sleep. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 07/06/2009

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Thanks so much ladies for all of the suggestions , it even helps alot to reach out and realize that you aren't the only one dealing with the problem! xxoo

Elizabeth - posted on 07/06/2009

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Try a white noise machine... but it has to be a good one. Go to Brookstone and look for the one that has a continuous setting. This helped us so much and still use it all night long for our 10 month old.

Belinda - posted on 07/06/2009

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I agree with Rebecca. I had the same sort of problems with night sleeping when my bub was 4months old - I wasn't co sleeping but would feed my bub back to sleep - all that means is that every time they wake they want to do just that. All I can do is encourage you to break the feeding to sleep cycle as soon as possible, even if that means putting bub in his own bed and even if it has to involve a little crying. I didn't do anything about it and I've just now been teaching my 10 month old to sleep without me after 6 months of me only getting 2 hours of sleep at a time. We wrap our girl and she has a dummy which sometimes puts her back to sleep when she cries in the night, sometimes a little pat on the chest will work and sometimes I have to let her cry for short periods and return to comfort briefly until she falls asleep. Good luck, I know how hard this is xoxo

Rebecca - posted on 07/06/2009

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Babies are much smarter than people give them credit for, he now realizes he can get what he wants if he just waits long enough, honestly I would pop the soother in and pat his bum or back for a good 15 or 20 minutes until he settles, once you've done this a few times he will realize that crying won't get him the boob and also allow you to start reducing the patting which will begin to teach him to self soothe, there is also the option of letting him cry it out, if you want to do that I would do it for the day naps first much easier to distract yourself with laundry and what not during the day then have them do it at night

T_cjones108 - posted on 07/06/2009

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Quoting Tabatha:

i swaddled my boy and that helped! but have u tryed a bottle of water??? nothing else just water?? thats how my boys goes down!! hope this helps hun :D



oh ya and some may not agree but i would stop co sleeping! its going to make it harded for him to want to sleep in a big boy bed when the time comes!

T_cjones108 - posted on 07/06/2009

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i swaddled my boy and that helped! but have u tryed a bottle of water??? nothing else just water?? thats how my boys goes down!! hope this helps hun :D

Nichole - posted on 07/06/2009

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Is he teething? I also have a 4 month old and he is teething and is starting to have problems sleeping at night. He actually was an awesome sleeping and sleeping threw the night but just 2 weeks ago he started waking up several times at night. He is drooling like crazy and puts everything he sees in his mouth. If you have any signs of teething I would try some tylenol at night to help ease the pain so he can sleep. And if he is fussy during the day a wet wash rag frozen, my little man loves that it keeps him busy for like an hour.

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