Friday NIghts..

Crystal - posted on 07/01/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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Being young is loads of fun, but I wouldnt trade by kids for anything, Many of my friends have children and still party, alot! Im shocked at how much they do party, even when its during the week, like a tuesday night. Maybe Im just old fashioned, but isn't that a little immature? I know being a parent doesnt mean you have no life, but how good are you going to be at 7 am when your kids get up, when you are still hung over from the night before??

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Kelly - posted on 07/03/2009

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I totally agree that parents shouldn't be goin out all the time.....how do you get up in the morning with your child/children when you are hung over, tired and just feel like shit?? I have a 7 month old son and i only go out once a month....me and a few of my girlfriends have a girls night once a month and we go out for supper and have drinks and sometimes will go to the bar....but i am usually home by midnight, and i still have the sitter (usually my cousin) stay the night, that way if i need her in the morning she is there and i can just give her some extra $$$, and she always enjoys it.......i think that parents that go out all the time are not ready to be parents.....that they need to grow up and make there kids there life......thats what you chose to do when you got prego and made the decision to keep the child......once you have a child, they should be your whole world....i know mine is and i couldn't even imagine going out all the time and missing spending time with him......but to each there own....i guess this is just my opinion.....

Charlie - posted on 07/01/2009

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Quoting Mandy:

I think it is gross that some moms feel the need to "live it up" a few times a week, even occasionally. there is no reason to get shit faced. people should get all of that out of their systems before they decided they want to play mommy and wife. I am also shocked by how many people use dope, like how many people with kids smoke dope on a regular basis. it is so wrong and disgusting. how good of a mother can someone be if they are drunk and stoned even half the time. people who want to go out and party all the time shouldn't be parents. it is irresponsible and they leave a poor example to their children


i completely agree for the most part i do think mummies deserve to let their hair down occasionaly but not to get  " shit faced " just to go out and have fun  , but the same could be said for smoking ciggerettes as well ,  they kill more people than Alcohol , illigegal drugs , car accidents and murders !! and yet ive seen   women smoking while pregnant  , and in cars while driving .

Charlie - posted on 07/01/2009

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Quoting Mandy:

I think it is gross that some moms feel the need to "live it up" a few times a week, even occasionally. there is no reason to get shit faced. people should get all of that out of their systems before they decided they want to play mommy and wife. I am also shocked by how many people use dope, like how many people with kids smoke dope on a regular basis. it is so wrong and disgusting. how good of a mother can someone be if they are drunk and stoned even half the time. people who want to go out and party all the time shouldn't be parents. it is irresponsible and they leave a poor example to their children


i completely agree for the most part i do think mummies deserve to let their hair down occasionaly but not to get  " shit faced " just to go out and have fun  , but the same could be said for smoking ciggerettes as well ,  they kill more people than Alcohol , illigegal drugs , car accidents and murders !! and yet ive seen   women smoking while pregnant  , and in cars while driving .

Lorraine - posted on 07/01/2009

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I think it is gross that some moms feel the need to "live it up" a few times a week, even occasionally. there is no reason to get shit faced. people should get all of that out of their systems before they decided they want to play mommy and wife. I am also shocked by how many people use dope, like how many people with kids smoke dope on a regular basis. it is so wrong and disgusting. how good of a mother can someone be if they are drunk and stoned even half the time. people who want to go out and party all the time shouldn't be parents. it is irresponsible and they leave a poor example to their children

Charlie - posted on 07/01/2009

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well i dont go out during the week but once a fortnight my man and i have the night to ourselves sometimes , its hanging with friends , out for dinner , maybe even the pub or just DVD's , i love my little boy , and my man and i have a great night when Grandmas got our son which she looks forward to every fortnight , , yes sometimes we end up a little drunk but its easy to get up in the morning to our beautiful boy , i dont feel guilty for our once a fortnight night off , in fact its really good for us , we get to be social , do something that dosent involve children , be more intimate , and during the week we always have something else to talk and laugh about other than kids , as long as its not every week or night for that matter i think its completlty healthy to enjoy some adult time even if that does include having a few drinks , just dont over do it i say , and never in front of the children. since ive had cooper i have pretty much lost interest in raging all nite in fact i dont think i could if i tried lol !

Sheila - posted on 07/01/2009

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Soo True!



IN A LIFE TIME YOU CAN COUNT YOUR TRUE FRIENDS ON ONE HAND:)

Main thing enjoy your family, and the moments that come.....

Friends come and go!!!

Jen - posted on 07/01/2009

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I'm 22 and just finished college. I live in a college town where partying is frequent. I was never the party type before I had my little girl and I obviously don't go out much now either. My husband and I have went to one "drinking party" since we've had our daughter, but neither of us drank much and she had stayed the night at her grandparents. Sometimes mommies and daddies need a break from their kids, but being out every night drinking is not the way to do it. Getting away for a date night or girls/guys night once a week or so is fine, but not for hard core partying.

Dana - posted on 07/01/2009

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I tell you how. They have THEIR parents who refuse to tell them to grow up. My sister in law is the same way. FIVE freakin' days after her last one was born...her daughter staying with my mother in law so that she could go drink. WTF??? Who does that shit? We have a girls night about every six weeks where we get together and watch a movie and relax in the hot tub or something mild like that. We might drink a few, but we ALL have children to go home to. I can't believe how irresponsible some parents are that want to go out all the time and leave their kids in the care of someone else. I really wish people wouldn't have kids unless they wanted to take responsiblity for them.

Kylie - posted on 07/01/2009

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My cousin has a 4 year old she has happily palmed off to anyone she can so she can go out on the town and have a good time( shes done thin since he was 3 months old). She's a single mum and works part time but somehow she affords hair extensions, eyelash extension, acrylic nails, facials and massages, the best clothes and she rents is a really good suburb. She has her boy in day care full time even if she is only working one or two days a week.. then she tells me she can't wait to have another child...I don't get it at all. It upsets me a lot..i haven't had a night out away from the kids in almost a year but thats ok when they are older I'll go out dancing again.

Erin - posted on 07/01/2009

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I totally get what you're saying! I have a life when Haylee is at her Dad's. That is everyother weekend. I never drink around Haylee. It's just irresponsible!

Mahalia - posted on 07/01/2009

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I fully agree, almost all of my friends manage to get out n party alot, almost every weekend. I manage to get out too, but not as much as they do. I dont like to go out unless it is for a reson, id rather be snug an warm with my boy, or even have a quiet drink at home.

Rose - posted on 07/01/2009

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This is so true! I didnt know how I would handle this lifestyle change at first. I turned 21 when I was 7 months pregnant and felt like I was missing out on alot because I didnt get to go out and party for my birthday. But now that I have my baby girl I don't care about any of that. I know she's my main priority and I had my share of partying before anyways. Im so busy with my baby that I dont even miss it. I feel sorry for babies who are stuck with parents that leave them behind to get drunk. Its irresponsible.

Candis - posted on 07/01/2009

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I am in the same boat. My son is 3 months old and I have also lost a lot of friends to this issue. I have friends that think their parents are built in babysitters. I even had one friend who started dating the father of her child after he was born. When she went to visit her boyfriend/the father of her child she would leave the son with his grandmother. Like how is that being a parent!?! It just makes me mad because they don't bother to invite my fiance and I out, or to any activities they do because they assume we won't come out. I haven't been out to a bar since I got pregnant, but just because I don't want to drink so I can still care for my child the next day doesn't mean that every once in a while I wouldn't mind getting out with some friends.

Nichole - posted on 07/01/2009

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I just had my first and I also see a lot of my friends who have children still go out all the time and get drunk during the week with small children. I don't get it at all. I know I couldn't do it. I don't even drink anymore cause I would be worthless the next day and who wants to be hung over taking care of a baby.

Jen - posted on 07/01/2009

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I totally agree! I have lost a lot of friends bc of this! I do go out on some weekends but as far as the week goes some people call me a lameo! I call myself a resposible parent! :D

Ericka - posted on 07/01/2009

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BOY AM I GLAD SOMEONE BROUGHT THIS UP!!!! My sister in law has 5 children by 4 different men. The first when she was in high school. She has 2 year old twins and her oldest is about 13. Her mother made her keep her first born and made her finish school while she took care of the baby. She has moved back in with her mom because the father of the twins left her. She goes out on average 3-4 nights a week and either makes the oldest or her 67 year old mother raise the little ones. She does work 40 hrs a week as well. She goes to the bars and comes strolling in around 6 am. The babies are crying throughout the day and night and it's difficult for her other children to get the sleep they need for school when they have to get up and "mother" the poor babies. When she goes out on a Friday, she gets home at 6 or 7 am, locks her bedroom door, and sleeps all day completely ingoring all her kids. Her mother feels responsible because she made her keep her oldest so she doesn't say anything to her. However, she is old and has a habit of falling asleep while watching the little ones. (which is dangerous!) My sister in law says she was robbed from her childhood so she has a right to go out whenever she wants to. I say she should have never opened her legs if she wasen't ready for the responsibility! And if she didn't want the first... Why have 4 more!?! SORRY, But if you are not ready to give up YOUR LIFE for YOUR KIDS..... THEN WAIT!!!!

PS her mom makes me mad too cuz she's the enabler.

Just my opinion.

Jamie - posted on 07/01/2009

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I agree I think its stupid. Even during the week my husband may have one or two beers but he doesnt get drunk. And I dont drink so thats never a problem. Of course we are boring people during the week. DH gets up at 430 some mornings. who wants to be out partying and have to get up at 430 and work. I do think its immature and Im sure that these are people who should have waited to have kids.

Melissa - posted on 07/01/2009

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I agree with you. I don't know how some parents do it, be out all nite and then get up with your kids. Usually if we are going to be going to a party or out having drinks one of us don't drink so that way one of us is able to get up with our kids.

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