friend issues

Helen - posted on 09/24/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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im the only one with a child in my group of friends and the only one married... is it normal that I dont really talk to them now I just feel like my problems and worries are on a much different level. so I now have one friend who is actually my sisters good friend and she has 4 kids. but thats it and my husband has stop hanging out with alot of his friends for the same reason I hate this because i no we need our time with friends.

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Helen - posted on 09/24/2009

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I no I would like a bottle of wine a chic flick and girlfriends with children the only friend i have with kids cant leave the house with her four kids and she has nobody to watch them because her so called husband is unfaithful and hardly any family problems do increase when married and kids and not because you have issues with your husband but because its more responsiblity and bills and healthcare for children on top of things my husband has chrones and always having problems with it and that another worry on a level by itself

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i know, a lot of my friends assume once you get married and have a baby its happily ever after and the drama and problems of boyfriends go away but in my oppinion they have it easier because if anything all the issues and problems increase with a husband and a child. Life may be filled with a little more love, dedication and drive when you are married and have a family but it doesnt mean you have morphed into some kind of stepford wife with no need for some girl time and a nice deep silly conversation from time to time.. you can only take baby babble and sports talk for so long. lol

Helen - posted on 09/24/2009

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i no i feel like when we do get together (not often) i ramble on about married life and motherhood and they look at me like im crazy its just hard because we were all so close and now we hardly talk also i feel like they arent thinking half the time they say how i have it so great compared to them because i dont have to deal with the boyfriens anymore or stresses of work ( im a stay at home mom) but what they dont see are the dirty diapers im trying to clean while lola is crawling away or how i have to take a shower at 10 pm bc thats the soonest i have time and lola is asleep or the changes in my relationship with my husband not bad but still changes!

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welcome to my life! lol.. its really hard to adjust to kind of being the "odd one out", you cant share horror stories of poop in the bathtub or barf all over the clean crib set you just washed without them looking at you like you are crazy. Ive truly found out who my real friends are after having a baby. Alot of things change even with the best of friendships and sometimes they get better and sometimes they just fade away, luckily they are things life facebook and circle of moms to help with the lonliness.

Sharon - posted on 09/24/2009

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I completely understand where you are coming from.. For the longest time I was the only one in my group of friends that had kids, married and nobody to talk to or hang out with. My best friend and I lost touch for a long time, then about a year ago she had a baby of her own.. We reconnected, but still go a long time with out talking or catching up, as time goes by, you will meet alot of people with the same issues you are going through. Hang in there.. Im sure it will be better for you.

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