From One to Two Kids

Michele - posted on 06/15/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make the transition from one to two kids as painless as possible, especially if they will be barely a year apart in age?

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Michele - posted on 06/15/2009

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There will be a 14 month age difference between them. Is having one of each gender make a difference at all? My one year old is a boy and we are having a little girl. Thanks for all the advice, it means alot to me to hear that I'm not the only one who has done this. I realize that I'm not but I'm not getting much help from those around me.

Adrienne - posted on 06/15/2009

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Quoting Wendelyn:

My kids are 16 months apart and what me and my husband do is seperate the 2 kids for awhile and have one on one time with them for about 30-45 min and then we switch. I wouldn't have high hopes on the PAINLESS part!! Kids don't fully understand the concept that you are trying to equal out the "time share" for each of them because they want "me time" ALL the time, so just do your best in having daily activities ready for the week so that the days can run a little smooth, instead of you guessing on the spot on what to do, that's when they start acting wild and you start stressing out! The transition isn't hard if you have your days planned out!


I got to agree with you Wendelyn!

Kylie - posted on 06/15/2009

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Hey michele How much of an age gap will you have? I have a 2 and half year old and a nearly 1 year old and I couldnt agree with Adrienne more. They nap and eat at different times my eldest wont nap during the day anymore and my youngest wont sleep through the night, and my youngest also wont eat baby food anymore and wants what his brother is eating. Things like going to shops r hard-in fact I just dont go anymore unless my hubby is with me, its not worth the hassle LOL. Yes it wont be easy but let me tell you it is worth every second. You just learn to make things work and get on with everything - you will be fine! A word of advice dont be afraid to accept help from people. If they offer to have a kid for an hour let them :-) Hope everything goes well for you

Wendelyn - posted on 06/15/2009

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My kids are 16 months apart and what me and my husband do is seperate the 2 kids for awhile and have one on one time with them for about 30-45 min and then we switch. I wouldn't have high hopes on the PAINLESS part!! Kids don't fully understand the concept that you are trying to equal out the "time share" for each of them because they want "me time" ALL the time, so just do your best in having daily activities ready for the week so that the days can run a little smooth, instead of you guessing on the spot on what to do, that's when they start acting wild and you start stressing out! The transition isn't hard if you have your days planned out!

Adrienne - posted on 06/15/2009

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You'll need a lot of patience. My boys are a year apart exactly, they share the same birthday. In the beginning it was very hard my oldest didn't have a clue about what was going on. He would come up and hit his little brother for no reason. Or he would sit on him and bounce like a horse. But we let him help with everything. They are both going to be 2 and 1 on June 26th. They play very well with each other except when they don't want to share their toys. Everyone said it would be like raising twins, I don't agree. Twins usually are doing the same thing around the same time. My boys were napping and eating at different times. But the part now is when my oldest runs one way and his brother crawls the other way and I have to grab the first one I think is going to get into trouble first. Last thing I can say is that my youngest is learning a lot of my oldest. He won't eat baby food anymore because that's not what his brother is eating. It'll be hard at first but gets easier in time.

Adrienne - posted on 06/15/2009

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You'll need a lot of patience. My boys are a year apart exactly, they share the same birthday. In the beginning it was very hard my oldest didn't have a clue about what was going on. He would come up and hit his little brother for no reason. Or he would sit on him and bounce like a horse. But we let him help with everything. They are both going to be 2 and 1 on June 26th. They play very well with each other except when they don't want to share their toys. Everyone said it would be like raising twins, I don't agree. Twins usually are doing the same thing around the same time. My boys were napping and eating at different times. But the part now is when my oldest runs one way and his brother crawls the other way and I have to grab the first one I think is going to get into trouble first. Last thing I can say is that my youngest is learning a lot of my oldest. He won't eat baby food anymore because that's not what his brother is eating. It'll be hard at first but gets easier in time.

Rachel - posted on 06/15/2009

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p.s. check out the "moms of toddlers pregnant or ttc again" board :) it may help you put your mind at ease!

Rachel - posted on 06/15/2009

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I am sure its kinda scary! I had my baby in july, and 2 of my best friends did as well! Now they are both pregnant again and their babies will be 14 months apart. I think they are in the same boat as you! I admire you and them for the job thats ahead of you but I also think that after the first little while, it will become like second nature and you wont be able to imagine life with just one anymore! I have friends who are very close in age and they have all said how much they love having a sibling that is so near in age! I am hoping to get pregnant again soon too! for that very reason!

Michele - posted on 06/15/2009

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Thanks. I'm starting to stress alittle bit with my new baby due in a matter of weeks. Its really hitting me how close in age they are going to be and the amount of work involved in both of their care.

Rachel - posted on 06/15/2009

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I dont know from experience, but I have heard from friends who have their children very close in age, that a wonderful way to help the transition is to include your little one in every aspect of the new baby, and to allow them to really take "responsibility" (as much as a 1 yr old can) in helping with the new one...even if its very minor. That is what has been told to me, I am no expert! Good luck!

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