Frustrated from breast feeding

Chenetra - posted on 09/28/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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What should a normal breast feeding session be with your baby, or is there not one? I also tried breast feeding my other daughter and once I got a pump & I totally relied upon it to give her milk and did not let her feed from the breast. Of course, milk production went down. I have been trying to prevent that same thing from happening with my newborn. I only use the pump once she is done feeding and I pump the rest and store it.



I've sat with her for over 4 hours and she is not satisfied. When I squeeze the nipple, the milk comes out with no problem. I also feel like she is sucking hard enough. When I feed her from the bottle, she is drinking at least 3 to 4 oz. I am still hurting from her birth, too, so sitting so long feeding her is very uncomfortable. What advice do you all have. I am ready to give up and go to the store for formula! I also have extra milk stored. So after 4 hrs, I gave up and gave her a bottle of breast milk I had previously stored. HELLLLPPPPPPP!



Also would like to mention when I called to make my 6 week check up, the nurse told me to not bottle feed her until she is at least 4 weeks old. On days like today, I really want to give her the bottle because I get frustrated and emotional.

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Angela - posted on 09/28/2009

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Also, the more you nurse, the more milk you make, so your baby might be trying to increase your milk supply!

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Honestly, it is totally normal for a newborn to want to be at the breast all the time. When I son was born, I was totally expecting to be feeding him every 2 hours or so - but nobody told me that each time he's eat, it would take an hour and a half! But it does get better. She'll start to eat more efficiently over the next few weeks. I had lots of trouble breastfeeding at the start - but for me, by the time my son was 5 weeks, it was easy. Do you have a boppy or other breastfeeding pillow? That will make positioning a lot more comfortable. I also fed my son in the side-lying position a lot at first. You should also make sure you're getting enough to drink and eat. Have you seen kellymom.com? It is one of the best breastfeeding resources on the web:
http://www.kellymom.com

Bethann - posted on 09/28/2009

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If you have a motherhood story near you they have a thing called mothers milk tea it helps produce more milk. while feeding also put a warm wash cloth at the topof your breast it helps i had to nurse twins and i wasnt producing enough milk!!

Kylie - posted on 09/28/2009

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It's ok i know it can get hard especially i those early weeks, try to really relax, lay down and give her a feed if you can. Newborns feed a lot because it's natures way of building up your milk supply. Maybe get a sling, one you can breast feed while wearing. that way you can walk around and get some fresh air and your baby will sill have the comfort of you and the breast. Your doing a fabulous job, it's hard work but so worth it. Good luck!

Ashley - posted on 09/28/2009

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My son was like that, but he also comfort nurses. I know that breastfed babies digest breastmilk really quickly, it leaves the stomach in about a half hour!

Since your sweet girl is so young, she may be comfort nursing or is just getting the hang of it. Does she fall asleep while nursing?

The bottle confusion thing can happen. With my son it didn't, but that was because I use a nipple shield (nipples are inverted), and since that is rubber, bottle nipples didn't faze him.

Good luck mama, I really hope you stick with it, it can only get better! :)

Jessica - posted on 09/28/2009

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DONT GIVE UP! DONT EVER GIVE UP! it's such a great bond to breastfeed your baby by breast! I wouldnt worry about her getting milk...more than likely she is! If you have taken her to the doctor they weigh your baby and can tell if there weight is good and know there getting your milk...i'm breastfeeding my 3 week old and sometimes she gets frustrated but she eventually gets over it..

Angela - posted on 09/28/2009

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I had very similar problems with my oldest son (born 8/19/07). He was never satisfied! I was feeding him every other hour & he would sometimes cry in between. Some babies love the comfort of breastfeeding. I was in pain & developed blood blisters from these non-stop sessions. When I went to the Dr. he had gained 4 pounds his first month so I knew he was getting enough milk. Don't hesitate to call your pediatrician & have your baby weighed if you have any doubts she isn't getting enough milk. I have heard that bottles & pacifiers before one month old are not appropriate if you want to breastfeed exclusively so I always waited. Babies don't have to work as hard to get milk out of a bottle so if they get used to bottles they may not want to nurse. Try & stick it out if you can...I cried the day my son weaned at 15 months & by then I was already 5 months pregnant! Remember that breastfeeding is super healthy for both you & your child.

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When they are a week old, their stomach's are TINY!!! and they will basically feed off of you 24/7. In the beginning it was every hour-2 at most with both of mine. Usually the belly can only handle 2-3 ounces at most at that age. Also, something to remember that breastmilk is digested VERY FAST! compared to formulas, which in turn is going to have baby nurse more often! If you are frustrated, your milk is not going to flow like it should, makes baby uncomfortable which will make it take longer! SO, relax, be comfortable and try not to get frustrated! It's the best thing you can do for your baby!!! GOOD LUCK!

April - posted on 09/28/2009

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I found that by not giving my daughter a pacifier, it helped her latch on better and rely on the feel of the nipple. I am not sure all that is involved with nipple confusion, but it was advice I was given and she had no problem getting her fill.

September - posted on 09/28/2009

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I know the feeling! I think that for the first 4 days of my son's life I breast feed 24/7. I'm not sure that there is a "normal" breast feeding session. I think that it varies from person to person. However I do believe that soon your daughter will get into a feeding routine and it will become easier for both you and baby. Being that your daughter is a newborn she is probably still trying to get the hang of a lot of things being that everything is new to her. Sometimes I don't think that it's that she is not satisfied it's more her wanting to feed for comfort. My son was that way anyhow. Don't give up :) I know that it can get very challenging but try to enjoy this very special time in life. It will get better I promise :) Good luck and best wishes!! Oh I forgot to mention the reason they tell you not to feed from a bottle right away is because they don't want you to cause your daughter to have nipple confusion if you were wondering about that. My son never had that problem. I breast feed and bottle feed right away. I think it's more that they want you to be aware of this. Again good luck and best wishes!

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Try to get into a comfortable spot and relax. She probably is not latched on all the way that is why she is not satisfied because she is not getting milk. You have be confident. Know that she is getting the best. I breastfeed my son for a whole year and I think it was the best choice I could have made. Stick with it and if you run into more issues call the La Leche League. They are alot of help.

Lynda - posted on 09/28/2009

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Some baby's just like to be there and suckle, my son did. Binki's really help with that.

Candice - posted on 09/28/2009

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don't let yourself get frustrated! you must relax and breathe and get very comfortable. be it in total quietness or a soft song and you can even hum or sing to baby. have you tried different positions in feeding her? if sitting up didn't work with me, i would lay down on my side and lay her down in front of me and cozy her up skin-to-skin. if you feel like you're getting milk out of your breast when you squeeze it, then you most likely are fine. your baby might just feel like it's not coming out fast enough for her. another thing you can try is right before you feed her, either run your nipple under very warm water or put a very warm wet wash cloth on it to get it softened and going. then the nipple is already prepared for baby! i hope this helps. it sure did with my second baby and i'm fixing to have another one that i plan to breast feed in a couple months now.

also, the thing with the bottle... it can get confusing to the baby. the bottle is very different than the nipple and if she gets used to the bottle, she will almost certainly not take to the breast anymore.

Shira - posted on 09/28/2009

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Take a warm shower or place hot clothes on your breast. This triggers the hormones in your breast to start producing the milk at a higher flow. Then make sure you are in a comfortable position because if the baby senses that you are not comfortable they will not be comfortable.

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