Getting my child to sleep in own bed

Alisa - posted on 12/30/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 5 year old son is still trying to crawl in my bed to sleep every night and his excuse is he is having bad dreams, I know that he isn't having bad dreams every night but want him to know that I am there for him when he may be really having bad dreams, how do I balance both things out and keep him in his bed for good???

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Joelle - posted on 12/30/2009

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does he fall asleep in his own bed? I would say instead of letting him crawl in your bed when he gets scared take him back to his room and kneel by the bed.. dont get in with him.. or sit in a chair in the room assuring him you'll make sure no monsters or bad guys come out til he falls asleep. hopefully after a week or so of realizing you're not giving into him crawling into your bed for that mommy comfort he might be able to self soohe himself back to sleep. also.. if you arent already, don't let him eat a couple hours before bed time and no sweets before bed time either.. both can trigger nightmares and eating before bedtime makes your body keep working instead of relaxing like it needs to.... sorry for a long response.. i hope it helps a little

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Miimetua - posted on 08/23/2013

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Hi my son is 16 months and has always slept in my bed with me since 6 months! I haven't put him into a routine and feel now I'm paying for it! Please tell me how I go about doing this? Also I am still breast feeding he cannot sleep with out bring breast fed and still wakes in the night for it? How do I ween him off? I tried the chilly thing and he ate it! Help !!

Alisa - posted on 01/02/2010

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My son is so funny...when his Daddy is home from working on the rig he can sleep on his bed all night with no problems whatsoever but as soon as daddy is gone he just starts with the same routine...he always starts off in his own bed but my morning time has to make his way into my bed...I know I am part of the problem just need to break this bad habit before he is too much older!

Jennifer - posted on 12/31/2009

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My Son is just coming up to 3 years old and I am having the same problem. When he first went into a bed rather than his cot he stayed in his own room all night but once he realized that he could get out of his bed and come in with us - that was it, he's in every night. We made a reward chart for sleeping in his own bed. He gets a star on his chart every time he sleeps in his own room until the morning and if he gets 5 stars he gets a treat at the weekend. This does seem to be working and has really increased his awareness of "Big boys sleep in their own bed" so hopefully it won't be long until we've cracked it. Good Luck with it, Luv J

Angela - posted on 12/30/2009

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Oh hunny this is a hard one! My son is 3 1/2 and we are dealing with this too. I think having a strict bed time routine is really important. For us its bath at 7 45 we let him play till 8 then he gets out jammies on brushes his teeth we read eithe rone long story or 2-3 longer stories then I tuck him in and its night night time. Now saing that it doesnt mean that he doesnt call out for us every few minutes until he finally falls asleep. Do you still have a monitor in hsi room? Maybe if you could hear him getting out of bed you could head him off and redirect him to his own bed talk about what made him afriad and see if you can get him settled back down? Also maybe talk tohim about how big boys stay in their own beds all night and make some sort of a reward chart for him for staing in his bed. After he completes 5 days straight he gets a reward of some sort? Its really just finding what works for him and going with it. Honestly I slept with my grandma till I was like 9 LOL I dont really want my son in bed with us that long but maybe for now its just what he needs? Good luck hun!

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