Grand parent problems! Help!

Holly Anna - posted on 06/17/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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So my son is 7 months old me and te father are together but not married. His mom complains because I only let her see him once a week or that I only want her to see him on my own time...he's my son I should have that say? I figure once a week is better than most. But she complains because I won't let her see him weekends when I'm at school all day 7 days a week. Oh and she made the father get a paternity test and never told me or sent me a copy and has yet to ask for him to be put on the birthcertificate I don't know. What to do especially if something goes wrong!

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Well, they BOTH went behind your back to have it done, so on some level your bf had a suspicion also. Just saying.

Keep going to school. Sit down, and talk with your partner in a serious manner about the issues. Make a decision together how to handle it.

Your MIL has every right to have her own life, and you have every right to want to see your son on the weekends. Once you had your BF have decided how to approach your MIL, sit down and have an adult conversation with her, and work out a schedule.

Oh, and if your bf is the one that submitted the paternity test, and his name is on the test he has every right to contact the offices that performed the test and request a copy.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Oh, the biological father should have been put on the birth certificate in the first place. Where was he when the baby was born? He did not protest this decision? Were you even together? It is actually in your benefit to have him on their. If you break up, and you want child support, the paternity test and the birth certificate will validate him being the father.

Holly Anna - posted on 06/19/2014

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I'm not mad she wanted it done, but the way she went about it was she said she didn't think it was his and we had been together for 2 years. I get if your nt married you pretty much have to have one done but she didn't have to be rude about it. But thank you for being nice about it!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/19/2014

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OUt of line, Calvin, and what are you, a male, doing commenting on a site SPECIFICALLY for women?

Holly, first of all, she was correct in having her son have a test done, both for the protection of her son, and of you and the baby. Now that there is conclusive proof of paternity, should something happen in the relationship, your court dates will be smoother, and support/visitation can be worked out easier. Don't stress, it's not a bad thing to have proof of paternity.

Holly Anna - posted on 06/18/2014

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You know what's sad is the child's own father agrees with me. And guess what I have asked her to watch him while I'm at fucking school you fucking idiot I am mature she refuses to come get him during the week when she gets of at 3:30 and goes and spends time with her friends so why should I allow her to take him on weekends when I get to see him. And not once have I acted funny? Me and her son have been together 2 years he told her we didn't need a paternity test she refused to have anything to do with me or the baby till she found out and then she complains. Then she hides the paternity test and doesn't tell me or the father about it till just a month ago? You tell me who's the funny one when she only asks to to see him every now and then yet complains about not seeing him. Why should I have to ask her if she wants to see him.

Calvin Kyles - posted on 06/18/2014

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WOW... Think about what I say - before you respond.
Sect #1
1. The father and I are not married
2. It's my child I should have the right,
3. I'm in school 7 days a week.
Then -
sect: #2
1. She's upset because I only let her see him once a week
2. She had the father take a paternity test.

A young lady doesn't know the protocol of being or becoming a women until she burns to many bridges - then needs to beg for help.

You opened your legs and married #1 1. & 2. 3. It's great you go to school.
Sect #2 If it's her grand child and you are in school and he's working. Why can't she? I'd have my kid take a test as well with you acting funny!

So, if you or he doesn't have the kid why can't the grand parents? It's family... You should study "moral turpitude" - before thinking or speaking... It may help you mature.

A lot of ladies are shaking there heads. Saying: No she didnt!

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