Grand parent problems! Help!

Holly Anna - posted on 06/17/2014 ( 32 moms have responded )

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So my son is 7 months old me and te father are together but not married. His mom complains because I only let her see him once a week or that I only want her to see him on my own time...he's my son I should have that say? I figure once a week is better than most. But she complains because I won't let her see him weekends when I'm at school all day 7 days a week. Oh and she made the father get a paternity test and never told me or sent me a copy and has yet to ask for him to be put on the birthcertificate I don't know. What to do especially if something goes wrong!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/19/2014

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get a grip. It is not arguing to point out inconsistencies and ask for clarification, nor is it arguing to point out inconsistencies and tell the other person that you're calling BS on their posts.

However, to be taken to task by another poster who really isn't offering anything on the OP itself, but just jumped in to try to shame the responding posters is fucking irritating.

If you have something to add that is in relevence to the topic, so be it. If not, (and at the risk of sounding like a teen myself), you aren't in control of me, nor my responses. If you don't like what I say, no one is forcing you to read the damn responses.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/19/2014

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Holly, quit while you're ahead. Arguing your point, and changing your statement every other post isn't helping you at all.

From your OP: "But she complains because I won't let her see him weekends when I'm at school all day 7 days a week". That's where LM got that, not by miscomprehending what you typed, but by reading exactly what you typed.

From your OP: " she made the father get a paternity test", From your first reponse: "knowing good and well he's the father and told him not to put his name on the birth certificate."

From your next response "As for the paternity test I have asked to put him on the birth certificate but he doesn't wanna get pinned with child support and he wants to wait till was 18" YOU stated that HE DOESN'T WANT TO GET PINNED WITH SUPPORT. Now, here's where it gets really 'teenagery'...LOL... YOU state in your next response: " And he wants to be on there but he's tired of his moms crap and wants to wait till he's 18 so she has no say in what happens". This is a DIRECT contradiction of your previous statement.

So, rather than get pissy with the mothers here who can smell a story a mile off, why don't you re-read what you've posted, and see how many times you make contradictory statements. Arguing like a teenager isn't going to get you very far. You're a mom now, and you need to learn how to act like one. Changing your story to fit your needs at the time isn't going to help you any at all.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Stevie, up until your last sentence I thought to myself "see? that wasn't so hard" but the minute you turned on us...again, you are doing nothing better than what you are saying we are doing. So........there you go.

Stevie - posted on 06/19/2014

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Yeah my advise to her is your a mum now you have to act like one and his grandmother is going to be in his life for the rest of hers so you are going to have to learn to play nice. Stop acting like a brat the only reason you wont let her see your son more then once a week is out of spite because your pissed off that she wanted a paternity test to prove her 17 year old son is really the father and honestly these days who can blame a mother for that.As for the hospital helping with the birth certificate thing ive got 2 children a 4 year old and a 15 week old and neither time have they asked for the dads name they asked if my partner was my partner but they never asked if he was the dad, and they gave me the birth cert paper work but all that was on it was what the hospital had to fill out was nothing about the parents or anything...all I was saying is you ladies have told her she meeds to act like a mother now and you are arguing with her arguing with a teenager isnt very mother like ( unless of course its your teenager :P )

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Me personally? I like to call people out on their shit, and make them face it. I don't lie, and despise when others do. People like to hide behind their computer screen, weave stories to fit their plans, and get positive encouragement from others to validate their bullshit.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Yup, she IS full of crap, and her story is as full of more holes than a strainer. That I will agree with.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/19/2014

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So, what was the point of your response again, Stevie? You didn't respond to her, but you took others to task for being what you determined was argumentive...so???

Stevie - posted on 06/19/2014

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Im not going to argue with you to, the way I see it her story is full of holes and shes trying to keep things out of it to make her look innocent when theres 3 sides to every story her side her mils side and the truth. Now theres no need to continue the argument on. whats wrong with saying we know your full of crap if you want help tell us the proper story until then we are not replying.just saying

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/19/2014

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Oh my...LMAO@ Stevie.

We aren't arguing, we're pointing out inconsistencies. Now, did you have any actual INPUT for the questions, or did you just jump in to try to call us to task?

Stevie - posted on 06/19/2014

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This is pathetic you all do realise you are calling her a bratty teenager pretty much but you are both still arguing with her which makes you just as bad .

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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"I am very nice and his mother loved me up until the day her son got me pregnant. "

LOL..nice is definitely not a choice word I would use.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Oh, and you being so nasty only accomplishes showing me your lack of maturity. Regardless of your age, you have some growing up to do.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/19/2014

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Holly, your teenager is showing...but I'm getting a great laugh out of it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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LOL, I am "bitch" then I am "sweetie" it is so cute how you try to be condescending, and insult me.

No, you really DON'T comprehend a thing. Just because people don't agree with you, does not warrant your nasty attitude. If you treat your boyfriends mother like this, where do you think it will get you? No where. Also, the hospital will still ask for the fathers name. But you know everything right?? What exactly did you want from this post?

Clearly she wants him on the BC, so I don't see what the issue is. What, do you think if you keep him off of the BC he will not have parental rights? You are very wrong. He can legally take you to court, with his handy dandy paternity test, get on the BC, and get custody or at least 50/50 custody. ANd guess what? You will need to pay for a lawyer.

Are you living at home with your mom and dad? How old are you? Where do you live with the baby? The father is still living with his mom?

Holly Anna - posted on 06/19/2014

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And I'm not clueless? I have asked plenty of times for him to be put on it I just didn't want to go to court over it. YOU LISTEN HERE YOU DONT KNOW A DAMN THING ANOUT ME DO YOU UNDERSTAND. I am very nice and his mother loved me up until the day her son got me pregnant. If I wanted to I could go to court make her show them the paternity test she took and make her pay child support but I didn't because I'm nice so how about you just shut your mouth. I feel extremely sorry for your husband or boyfriend.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Oh, and you are totally clueless if you thought keeping him off of the birth certificate was a good idea even in the slightest. It costs a lot of money to get someone put on BTW. He is getting all this truly wonderful advice from his mother (cause if my son had a girlfriend like you, I would be telling him to do all the same exact things) who is on your side helping and telling you what to do? Or are you being nasty to your family or anyone that gives you sound advice???

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Oh, and news flash....that boy does NOT hate his mother like you insist. He does everything she tells him. That isn't hate. That is respect, love, fear, and so much more....but hate is just a word he tells you to keep you happy.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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No, you are not pleasant even in the slightest. Whether or not your story keeps changing due to dramatic effect or what, I don't care. Get your story straight. Stop lying. And go re-read my post. I never said the hospital would offer a paternity test. I said they would want the FATHER on the birth certificate. I hope college is going well for you, cause you seriously have a difficult time comprehending.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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ANd your story is constantly changing. This is what you said a couple of posts ago:


"As for the paternity test I have asked to put him on the birth certificate but he doesn't wanna get pinned with child support and he wants to wait till was 18 so guess what that means I'm legally the only one in charge of my son so I don't have to let either of them see him. But I'm not that type of person."

Now you are saying:

"And he wants to be on there but he's tired of his moms crap and wants to wait till he's 18 so she has no say in what happens."

Holly Anna - posted on 06/19/2014

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You are seriously an idiot. He doesn't even like his own mother and is waiting to sign te birth certificate rtill he's 18 so she has no say. And obviously you can't comprehend when I said I go to school everyday and want weekends to myself. That obviously means I don't go to school Saturday or Sunday excuse me for not being so correct on that. And I am actually very pleasant till I deal with people like you. And for your information the hospitaL NEVER asked if we wanted a test done and if you want a freaking picture of him at the hospital with me I would gladly show you. And you just sound stupid saying I didn't want him to sign it,if I didn't want him to sign Ito wouldn't have posted anything. And his mother told him not to sign anything at the hospital.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Actually in your opening post you specified 7 days a week in school hot shot.

"But she complains because I won't let her see him weekends when I'm at school all day 7 days a week. "

Holly Anna - posted on 06/19/2014

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His mothers schedule changes every week to when she gets off, so Tess one week it's 3:30 the next its 5. And that's what I ment when I said I go to school every day and want the weekends to my self obviously no one read the I want the weekends to myself. And I don't have the pAternity papers she has them and never sent them to me or even told me about it she only told her son a month ago. And he wants to be on there but he's tired of his moms crap and wants to wait till he's 18 so she has no say in what happens.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/19/2014

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Wow, Holly, what a change from your other post!

Honey, you do have holes. She either gets off work at 3:30, or she gets off at 5, but she doesn't 'get off at both'...that's physically impossible. Now, if she works until 3:30 SOME days, and 5 OTHER days, that's different.

And, if you told people that you're going to school "every day", well, the week has 7 days in it, so LM was just pointing out that you probably aren't going to school 'every day'...since no college will make you take classes on the weekends.

And, if your man 'didn't want to be on the birth certificate' because he 'didn't want to be tapped for child support'...honey, you've already got problems. Be grateful you've got proof of paternity, because he's going to try to shake out of his responsibilities, probably with the help of his mother.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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First of all, I can see why your mother in law has issues with you. You are so....pleasant.

You said you go to school 7 days a week....last time I checked, monday through friday was only 5 days per week. And I didn't call you a liar, you did.

Sounds like such a stand up father that he doesn't want to be on the birth certificate because he doesn't want to be held responsible with child support? It sounds like you have a lot more problems than with ONLY your mother in law......starting with your shitty attitude.

You may not like what others have to say, but that does not give you the right to name call and be nasty.

And once again, at the hospital, they ask for the fathers name.....so if he was their they would have at least tried, if not insisted to put him on the birth certificate. So either he wasn't at the birth, and you pretended you didn't know who the father was....or he was their and you still wouldn't put him on. Him not wanting to be on his own childs birth certificate???? Yeah.....not buying this crock.

Holly Anna - posted on 06/19/2014

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Yes I know I said 5 because she gets off at both? So actually tbey don't have holes for your information damn. And 2nd she didn't have it done at the hospital se had it done in my living room thank you very much. And obviously either your an idiot or didn't go to college because lots f colleges you go to school every day. I go Monday through Friday. Monday Wednesday Friday I'm there from 12 till 5:30 and it's an hoes drive both ways. And Tuesday Thursday I have to be there at 11 till 7:30 so I don't get home till 8:30 so how about you shut your mouth before you call me liar. All of you are judgemental little bitches. You know this stuff is supposed to be helpful but y'all are just flat out rude because I say what I feel and have said he gets off at 5 and 3/30 her shifts change. As for the paternity test I have asked to put him on the birth certificate but he doesn't wanna get pinned with child support and he wants to wait till was 18 so guess what that means I'm legally the only one in charge of my son so I don't have to let either of them see him. But I'm not that type of person.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Your story is so full of holes it is unreal. On your other post, you said she gets off of work at 3:30 I believe. Here you say 5. When you are in the hospital, THAT is when the birth certificate is written up. Sounds like mommy dearest asked for the paternity test after the baby was born.

You my dear, are not telling the whole story.

Also, NO college has you go to school 7 days per week. Come on now.

Jodi - posted on 06/19/2014

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I'm sorry, but I still am not understanding why he isn't on the birth certificate. Do you really want to be with a man who wouldn't allow his name to go on the birth certificate because his mother told him not to? Seriously? That's his excuse?

Your man needs to grow a pair. Seriously. Tell HIM to handle his mother, and tell HIM to get his name on that birth certificate.

Holly Anna - posted on 06/18/2014

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And the days I ask her to watch him after work she's says she to tired to she's only 45 and in great shape. She only wants to see him on weekends and I'm sorry that's my time considering I'm at school everyday from 11 am and don't get him till 7 or 8 at night which is when he's in bed.

Holly Anna - posted on 06/18/2014

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Because his father works every day of the week till 11 or midnight and she works till 5 so obviously she can't watch him and by that time I'm getting home to see him. And he's not on the birth certificate because his no good mom order a paternity test knowing good and well he's the father and told him not to put his name on the birth certificate. She's lucky she sees him once a week I know lots of grandparents who never see there grand kids or only on holidays. She's been like this since day one I drive him to her house at least once or twice a week and she still complains.yet if se wanted to see him that bad she could come to my house and see him but she won't do that because it's to awkward.

Jodi - posted on 06/18/2014

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How does your child's father feel about this? Maybe this is one he should handle.

Having said that, however, I am not sure why you won't let her see him more often if you aren't with him either. You said you are at school 7 days a week, why can't she have him while you are at school?

And I do question why your partner's mother needs to ask you to put him on the birth certificate. As the child's father, that's his right. Why didn't you put him on the birth certificate?

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