grandparents

Sarah - posted on 07/31/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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how do you get grandparents to relize you are the parent not them

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Caitlin - posted on 08/03/2009

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I WISH I KNEW!!!

My ex-mother-in-law is crazy and is trying to become my 3 1/2year old's mother! Grandparents need to learn their place and let you make your own choices. I'd say just stand your ground, and make sure they know how you feel.

LeeAnna - posted on 08/03/2009

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I would tell her as nicely as possible, (which isn't always the easiest) that she has had her opportunity to raise her children and now it is your turn to do the same. That while you may respect her opinions, that doesn't mean that it is the best suited for your style of parenting. if that doesn't work, be as blunt as possible. Good luck!

Shelly - posted on 08/03/2009

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Well that doesnt really happen but the best way is to talk to them. they do mean well they just dont always understand how we raise our children.

Jess - posted on 08/02/2009

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I guess you should just try talking to them. In the end you know it's your decision about how you raise your baby. In time they may realise, but all in all i'm sure they are just trying to help you. Everyone has opinions but they say a mom knows what's best for her child. Keep at it, try being nice and relax and if that doesn't work maybe try being a bit firmer and saying look it's my decision and im sorry you don't agree with this but it's not going to change.

Jeanine - posted on 08/02/2009

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I totally agree with you Tessa !! Thankful i live in Canada , where Grandparents have no rights... they are allowed to file .. but they do not legally have any rights ...it just costs alot of money for a judge to tell them that .. It is RIDICULOUS!!! Parents should decide whats best for their child

Tessa - posted on 08/02/2009

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I think it's ridiculous a grandparent can take parents to court. It's a parents choice and usually is for a very good reason that they cut out those visits. I know that if I ever got into a situation like that I would disappear with my child. No one would find us.

Jeanine - posted on 08/02/2009

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I wish i knew the answer to that ... I told my daughters paternal grandmother to stop acting on my behalf without consulting me . she would make BIG decisions for my daughter without telling me anything ... i told her to stop or should would not see my daughter again she kept it up . I had to put my foot down and say she couldn't visit and more unless she respected that i was my child's mother not her ... Unfortunately she was very immature and took me to court after that for vitiation ( like a father would ).... so good luck my dear i hope it doesn't get that bad for you :)

Tessa - posted on 08/02/2009

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remind them that you are the parent and that things have changed since their days. It's your child, your decision and you would like it if they respect that.

Sarah - posted on 08/01/2009

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how close are you to them? can you sit them down and explan to them hat you love them and you like the fact that they are willing to help out but we have are own ways that we wamt to raise our family. any syggestions would be fine but dont get fursterated if we do not takeit. good luck

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