Has anyone else ever done this??? I feel like a terrible mommy!:(

Annie - posted on 05/06/2013 ( 22 moms have responded )

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I am so upset with myself... I have an amazing 5 month old baby boy and four others. I had the kids with the babysitter so I could do a grocery trip with my dad. I was going to leave baby but decided To take him with me. The whole way to he store he never made one peep and I was going over and over n my head everything I needed to get from the grocery. Once we got there me and my dad get out and go in. I realize only seconds later I forgot my son In the car. Panicked I ran out and got him. I can not belive I done this!! I have 4 other children and never have I ever done something like this. I keep crying and beating myself up over this and I feel like such a terrible mom. Has anyone ever done this? My children are my entire life, I woul never ever do anything to harm them in anyway shape or form but I just can not get this out of my head and I don't want to put my baby down now :(

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Lauren - posted on 05/10/2013

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You remembered; that's what's important! We all make silly mistakes as moms sometimes and the important thing is that nothing bad happened to the baby. I commend you for feeling so guilty because it really means you care! But use it as an opportunity to be more careful in the future. Maybe make it a habit to check the carseats no matter what--just to be safe. Take a deep breath; everyone is okay! :)

Keyta - posted on 05/06/2013

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Girl just laugh at it... It will be okay. Nobody is perfect. I did that before with my son he was just so quiet i forgot he was in the car.

Bernadette - posted on 05/18/2013

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I've almost done it once. Same situation as you - left my daughter with my parents, and was going to leave my baby son too but decided at the last second to take him. My sister came too, and we got talking on the way and the baby went to sleep and didn't make a noise. We got out of the car and were just about to walk away when my sister said, "hey, didn't we bring the baby?" I felt SOOO bad. I used to hear stories about babies dying in cars, and their parents saying they'd forgotten to drop them off at daycare on the way to work or something, because they had a big workload on that day, it was supposed to be the partner's day to drop the kid off so they just continued on to work out of habit...etc. I would think, how the hell can you forget that you didn't drop your baby off??? Now I realise just how easy it would be if it was out of your usual routine, or you weren't planning on bringing the child but changed your mind, and you're distracted. It would be so easy. My heart goes out to those poor parents who have lost a baby due to simply being distracted. The ones who just decide to leave them there while they "just pop in to the shops" on the other hand, they make my blood boil.

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 05/13/2013

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It's okay hunny! You didn't do it on purpose and you learned a lesson and thankfully everything was ok. I went to change my daughters diaper the other day and had a million things on my mind , and about 20 min later I saw her pants were soaking wet. I forgot to put on a clean diaper! Moms are busy and especially a mom of 4 and we have lots of stuff on our minds. Don't think your a terrible mom. , terrible moms leave their kids in the car on purpose while they go shopping.

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Christine - posted on 05/23/2013

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Quit worrying about something that didn't hurt the baby. This isn't the first mistake you will make with your baby. In America, we worry WAY TOO MUCH. and sweetheart, this isn't something to keep worrying about. You worried about it at the right time and went to get your baby and that should have been the end of it. You're a great mom, now let it go and quit beating yourself up over it.

Stephanie - posted on 05/19/2013

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I will leave my keys in places so i dont forget. In the car seat so I don't forget baby. with my lunch in the refrigerator so I don't forget my lunch. It works really well for me

Annie - posted on 05/18/2013

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Bernadette I agree! I found a way for this to never happen again. I was talking with a friend about this and she had said to leave a stuffed animal in the carseat and when you put baby in the carseat put the stuffed animal in the front seat so you know baby is in the carseat. Kind of a reminder. Of course I'm all over since this happend.

Janessa - posted on 05/17/2013

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I've come so close to doing that. I'm so used to the noise all of my other kids make, that when I have just the baby, it is easy to forget there is a child back there. You are not a terrible mother, it happens, no harm was done. I have 4 and 1 on the way. I love all of my children also, but I also recognize that things happen, not because I don't love them, but because we are human. Please don't beat yourself up. He's fine. You're doing great.

Joanna - posted on 05/14/2013

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You have 5 kids? It is amazing you haven't done anything like this sooner!!!! You must be an amazing Mum! Don't feel guilty for too long it is a waste of your energy. Your kids all still love you and everything is fine.

Sandy84 - posted on 05/14/2013

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No worries, Annie! You seem like a very good mother to me. The fact that you worry so much shows that it was an honest mistake which you should not feel bad about. Shit happens!

Lana - posted on 05/10/2013

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It is OKAY!!! I've done that once. I went in the house thinking my husband was bringing her in. When I came out of the restroom he asked me where she was and I completely flipped out thinking someone had stolen her. She was only out there for like 3 minutes, but that was enough to make me double check the back seat! Lol

Deanna - posted on 05/10/2013

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You remembered almost immediately. Was it a mistake? Yes. You will now be more careful in the future. Stop beating yourself up about it. Forgive yourself. We all do something really stupid in our life with our children. It happens. Don't forget what you did, and learn from it. Slow down when on errands. There is nothing that needs to be done in a rush. Slow down and always look in the back seat. Always look around you.
The most important part, forgive yourself. We all make mistakes.

Cassandra - posted on 05/09/2013

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I think you should stop beating yourself up about it, at least you remembered and now I'm sure you double check now. I always have that fear that my daughter's father or I would actually do this at one point. That is my biggest fear. I would be upset with myself as well, but the important thing is you learned your lesson and now you know to be more careful. As parents, we all make mistakes, its inevitable.

Annie - posted on 05/09/2013

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I called my husband right after it happened and told him what had happend. He calmed me down and then said " now don't forget him In The grocery cart on your way out" I was like really? Lol!

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I haven't done that but I did forget to buckle my son into his car seat a couple times. It's normal to forget things. As long as its not a regular thing I would just let it go, you aren't a horrible mother.

Charity_knox - posted on 05/09/2013

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And also... I come from a family of 8 kids and I remember my little sister maybe 7 or so got left at home and the neighbors had to "rescue" her. We had all went to church a 45 minute drive and I don't think anyone realized till we got to church that we were missing her. I also got left at a gas station when I was 13 for a few minutes LOL. So if you have 5 kids and this is the only time it has happened I say your doing pretty darn good compared to my parent lol :)

Charity_knox - posted on 05/09/2013

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I accidentally locked my keys and my few month old son in the car in walmart parking lot on a hot day and had to have someone call the cops to get the car open. A second after I had shut the back door I realized what I had done and freaked out because it was 100 degrees out and luckily someone was in a car beside me and had a cell phone because of course I had locked my phone in the car too. So 3 cop cars and an ambulance ( from the same hospital I work at ) showed up. They got the car open and my son was just a bit sweaty but ok. I am glad he was fine and all ended up OK but talk about embarrassed and not to help anything my husband gave me crap forever. It happens to the best of moms. Embarrassing, yes but that does not make you a bad mom because I am sure it won't happen again

Mommy - posted on 05/08/2013

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So I haven't left either of the kids in the car, but that's a fear of mine. I have, however, dropped my cell phone on my daughter's face while I was trying to take a picture of her when she was a newborn. I also was home when my son rolled off the couch onto the floor when he was about 2 months old, I had set up a wall but somehow he got around it. I felt so bad....with my daughter I was a new mom and I cried because I felt so bad. You're not a bad mom, it happens. And one day you will be able to laugh about it.

Tanika - posted on 05/07/2013

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My kids have never been quiet enough for me to forget them lol, but you're fine. Everyone makes mistakes and just know that won't be the only mistake you'll ever make as a mommy. When my now 4 year old was about 15 months old, I was trying to pick her up and put her on the bed but I have long nails and accidently poked her in the eye. I felt horrible and she cried and cried and I was so disappointed in myself for not being super careful like I normally try to be. Her eye was bloodshot red for a day or so but it cleared up and she was fine. She forgave me lol

Annie - posted on 05/07/2013

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It was seconds, everyone keeps telling me not to freak out over it . But I guess I can't get the fact that it even happened out of my head. Thanks ladies, it's good to know I'm not the only one who has done something like this... :)

Denikka - posted on 05/06/2013

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I used to do that with my first child all over the house. When he was super little, he used to like sleeping in clean laundry. Strange kid. He'd either go to sleep in the laundry basket or in the pile of clean laundry I'd leave on the bed. I'd go off to do whatever chores while he was asleep and, at some point while I was doing something, I'd panic because I couldn't remember where he was :P
I've also panicked at times when I've gone shopping. Left the kids at home with their dad and all of a sudden realized they weren't in the cart (I usually take at least one of the kids with me).

It happens. It was only for a few minutes, nothing bad happened :) Everyone has those moments :)

Firebird - posted on 05/06/2013

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When I was 3 months old my parents forgot me at my grandma's house. They packed up my older sister but since I was so quiet, they forgot all about me. Your son was in the car for... a few minutes maybe? My parents were gone nearly 20 before they remembered me! lol

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