Has anyone else has a C-section and then bottle fed??

Rachel - posted on 11/22/2009 ( 139 moms have responded )

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I feel very inferior to mom's who delivered vaginally and then continued on to breastfeed. I know my LO is getting all the love and nourishment that he needs, but I cannot help but feel that I just didn't do enough. I feel like nothing went the way it was supposed to. My family and anyone who I express this concern to tells me not to worry and that I am doing wonderfully. I still feel bad. Has anyone else experienced this??

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Anouska - posted on 11/28/2009

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i had an emergancy c-section with my eldest and still brestfed for 3 monthsfor a while thoug i did still fell abit detatched from him as i was healing. after heald we got on grate although at 3 months he needed to be bottle fed.. hang in there you will get the hang of motherhood im sure you are doing a brilliant job.. most of all enjoy baby time as they grow so fast

Lindsay - posted on 11/24/2009

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I had an emergency c-section with my daughter at 27 wks due to pre-term labor and cord prolapse. I wasn't able to breastfeed b/c my daughter was so small and never did catch on (but I pumped for months) I didn't feel cheated until I joined my mom's group and they all talked about how amazing their birth experience was and how they would never elect for a c-section if they had a choice.(some can't believe I am not going to try a VBAC with my current pregnancy, even though I would be at high-risk for complications during birth) And that they loved their breastfeeding experience and how it was such a bonding thing (I am not sure I would have breastfed if my daughter didn't really need the BM as a preemie). Don't let other moms bring you down. I know it's hard, but you have a healthy happy baby and isn't that the real goal?!

Tessa - posted on 11/22/2009

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yes i have i had a scheduled c-section my little girl was breeched and honsestly i could not breastfeed i couldn't produce enough and trust me i wanted to real bad and yes i do sometimes envy moms who breastfed their kids but i loved having a c-section it went by fast the only problem i had was the healing process but it gets better after a month but i understand where you are at but don't look at it like that look at it as if you are doing the best for your baby esp. with the way they are putting everything that is in breast milk into formula now my child never got sick til she was a year old so i know she was healthy on formula i hope this helps please feel free to write me anytime love tessa mcknight

Alicia - posted on 11/22/2009

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I had a c-section too and i bottle fed. Healing from a c-section is not easy it takes longer and you can only do certain things. The formula they get is not breast milk but is the next best thing for your baby talk to your pediatrician about your worries in the mean time concentrate on getting into a routine and getting better

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Ryan - posted on 03/14/2013

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I had to have a c-section after 22 hours pf labor for my new baby, he is almost 2 weeks old and we have already had to supplement with formula to get his weight up, which we did and it worked he is now gaining weight, but I have been having trouble breast feeding him, lactationist said he is tounge tied and gave me a nipple shield to try, also she told me to pump after each feeding cause of engorgement, I don't know if I want to continue to breast feed or if I should just feed him what I pump, even then I only pump about 2-3 oz each breast in. A 10-15 min period using a medical grade pump, any advice is great!

MomofJ&B - posted on 01/29/2013

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I've had two Cs and breastfed/bottle fed both my boys. They are a strong, well-nourished 2- and 5-year-old who are happy and emotionally fulfilled. My husband and I have super-strong bonds with our kids - "I love you"s are exchanged in abundance in our household. I agree that breastfeeding is always preferred for a multitude of health reasons, but sometimes you just can't do it. I cut down when I had to go to work. Life was life. In terms of birthing, for my first son, I was in the hospital for almost two days trying to give birth vaginally. Then I said enough was enough, please give me a C and let me hold him. I did and afterward, I couldn't understand why I struggled so hard to have a vaginal birth in the first place. I had a scheduled C with my second. Do not beat yourself up over any of this. I'm sure you are doing wonderfully. Plus, it's in the past and there's nothing to do about it now. Focus on being an attentive, supportive mother in the present and future. Good luck!

Renee - posted on 01/29/2013

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I've had 3 c-sections and they were all bottle fed! I did worry with my 1st I tried to breast feed but never got milk so I had no choice but to bottle feed. My girls are 6, 4 & 2 all very smart and so far turned out great! Don't be so hard on yourself, you will get through it just takes time.

Rosa - posted on 01/27/2013

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I had two csections first one tried to breastfeed but too much pressure from her dads family so by the end of the day she was born she was on a bottle, second one I breastfed for a couple months, but due to complications a week after the birth I had lost my supply and went to bottle, either way as long as they are getting fed it doesn't matter which way you go.

ELizabeth - posted on 12/01/2009

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I had a c-section and bottle fed as well. Sometimes it was hard and I felt I was not doing the right thing. But my baby is happy and healthy and now 20 months old! ANd she is growing up so fast. Before I know it she will be two years old...

Melanie - posted on 11/30/2009

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I have had 2 c-sections and tried to breastfeed with both. With my son I was able to do it for about 3 weeks but had to keep supplementing with formula. With my daughter my milk never really came in and she was in the Stollery for the first week being fed by a tube so when she came out it was just easier to get her on the bottle then the breats. So please don't feel bad, it is extremely common.

Carolina - posted on 11/29/2009

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Ok nothing bad with a C-Section! I had my 1st vaginally-not too fun but easier healing...C-section OMG painful healing. I think if circumstances made you deliver this way hey you made the best decision available at the time...it does not make you less of a woman...gurly you carried a baby inside you sooo don't tripp and nothing goes as plan.....pregnacy....birth....and raising the bundle of joy is soo not textbook or planned....hope i helped...good luck!

Krissy - posted on 11/29/2009

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Hey, don't worry, i delivered naturally and still bottle fed because i tore really bad and it took 3 months to heal. i had to, i could barely move. You are doing just fine.

Joanna - posted on 11/29/2009

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i had three cs and bottle fed all of them...i felt the same way at first, but now i know it didn't make a difference for my girls.

Joanna - posted on 11/29/2009

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i had three cs and bottle fed all of them...i felt the same way at first, but now i know it didn't make a difference for my girls.

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Did you want to try to breast feed going into it? I had an emergency c-section and my son went straight onto the bottle. But, I had no intention of breast feeding. I had so many stressful things going on that I knew I could not handle the stress of it. It's been just over 4 months and I still hear it from people that he should have been breast fed. Yes, I do feel bad at times... especially when I have to go pay for formula! But, I have a happy, healthy little boy and wouldn't change my decision. What matters the most is that you love and care for your child. Think of it... most of our generation was bottle fed and the formula now is MUCH better than what we had!

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Did you want to try to breast feed going into it? I had an emergency c-section and my son went straight onto the bottle. But, I had no intention of breast feeding. I had so many stressful things going on that I knew I could not handle the stress of it. It's been just over 4 months and I still hear it from people that he should have been breast fed. Yes, I do feel bad at times... especially when I have to go pay for formula! But, I have a happy, healthy little boy and wouldn't change my decision. What matters the most is that you love and care for your child. Think of it... most of our generation was bottle fed and the formula now is MUCH better than what we had!

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Did you want to try to breast feed going into it? I had an emergency c-section and my son went straight onto the bottle. But, I had no intention of breast feeding. I had so many stressful things going on that I knew I could not handle the stress of it. It's been just over 4 months and I still hear it from people that he should have been breast fed. Yes, I do feel bad at times... especially when I have to go pay for formula! But, I have a happy, healthy little boy and wouldn't change my decision. What matters the most is that you love and care for your child. Think of it... most of our generation was bottle fed and the formula now is MUCH better than what we had!

TASHANA - posted on 11/29/2009

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YES I HAD TWO C-SECTIONS, BUT THEN BREAST FED FOR A BIT, THEN TURNED TO FORMULA..WHY IS THAT WRONG?

Shonda - posted on 11/29/2009

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I had 2 vaginal deliverys and bottle fed, and 2 c-sections and bottle fed. It doesn't matter how you give birth or whether you breast or bottle feed. It's just that you are there for your child, you provide for your child, and you give them the unconditional love that only a mother can give. So don't spend your time trying to analyze the situation and figure out what went wrong and what didn't go as you had planned...spend your time enjoying your little bundle because they don't stay that way very long!

Janet - posted on 11/29/2009

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I had an emergency c-section 4 weeks before my due date with my twin girls. I tried to breast feed but it was too stressful trying to nurse them and re-cover from a c-section, so bottlefeeding was the next best thing and they are amazing, they are healthy happy babies and have great immune systems. They are 16 months old now and have only had one serious cold. So hang in there you are not inferior to anyone you are a mommy and providing for you child makes you just like the rest of them!!!!!

Virginia - posted on 11/29/2009

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I was thinking the same thing just the other day! My kids are both over 2 now, but I wonder if some of the things i go through with them has anything to do with lack of bonding through vaginal delivery and breast feeding?? Does that make me feel less motherly??

Sharika - posted on 11/29/2009

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OMG i feel the very same way I had an emergency c - section and i just couldnt produce enuf Breast milk for my baby ...he wouldnt breast feed i had to switch to bottle feed ...it was such a dilemma i really wanted to breast feed him ..and to top it all my LO fell very very sick twice.....you can imagine my guilt ...later i due to the heavy antibiotics he had to be put on lactose free milk and he is still on it ....i dunno how successful i have been as a mom becoz i really took good care of him ....so i guess u can feel good that someone else has been through much more crap....:)...But hez doing grt now ...his growth and weight is very good....so just gotta pray for the next n move on....:).

Amanda - posted on 11/28/2009

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i experienced this when i had my son by csection i was to sore for several days and was in the hospital for a week and four days after haveing him and he was discharged before i was. and i do feel bad cause i wasnt able to breastfeed but my sons healthy so im fine with it now...

Iysha - posted on 11/28/2009

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I almost got a c-section because my bay was a preemie, but i didn't need one...the nurse asked the doctor and she said no...to tell you the truth, I actually wanted one. I bottle fed from birth...My baby's first meal was formula and I was not the one to feed her. Things didn't go the way I wanted either and to a point, I felt like I was cheated. I was only noticeably pregnant for about a month and a half, I was in the hospital for 2 weeks, I was on bed rest after the hospital stay for 4 days and still had my baby early. I was so caught up on what didn't happen the way I wanted that I didn't realize everything I got. I had my beautiful daughter, I was healthy, she was healthy, and after a short while, we were under the same roof....so what if I didn't get to experience the things I wanted to and who cares that I didn't have the type of birth I wanted...I had a baby, and that was what mattered. It was the same outcome, just a different journey than I expected. I know it's hard because of all the emotions running through your body, but try to focus on the good, not the unplanned. Nothing goes as planned, especially pregnancies and deliveries. I actually like bottle feeding way more than I ever liked breastfeeding. It is so much easier for me and my daughter....I am thankful for the shortcomings in my pregnancy and delivery, it has made me appreciate my daughter more.

BethAnna - posted on 11/28/2009

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Yes! I remember feeling your sentiments exactly. Nothing went how it was supposed to. My C-section was emergency, I tried to breastfeed, he wouldn't latch and I tried so hard! My cousin was breastfeeding just fine and it made me feel guilty and inferior when she told me how much better breastfeeding was. It seemed like everyone felt like they knew better how to take care of my son than I did. One night I was having such a hard time with everything and asked my son's nurse what I should do, she said, "You are his Mama, you know best how to take care of him. You know his cries, his wants and his needs. No one else could do a better job." She also said, "When you line up all of the children in Kindergarten you can't tell which ones were breastfed or bottle fed." She made me feel so much confidence. I hope you can feel the same comfort in those words. ~:O)

Cori - posted on 11/28/2009

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Yes! I had a c-section and then they found a tumor (non cancerous) on one of my ovaries and had to remove it. I started out breast feeding but after a couple days my little one had dropped a lot of weight. I had to start supplementing with formula and by week six I had completely dried up. I felt horrible but K is a healthy kid and it really helped me heal when my hubby could help feed him. Take heart, as you see your little one grow you will know that all is well.

Christy - posted on 11/28/2009

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I had a c-section and cried for 3 days when he would not breast feed. After thinking about how many children are perfectly fine being bottle fed I was better. Now he is 3 and perfect! My second son was also a c-section and bottle fed. I think alot of it is pounded in ours heads if we "love" our children and want to give them the best you MUST breast feed. I am sure that your baby will be a great little person with being bottle fed. Good luck to you.

April - posted on 11/28/2009

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I had a non planned c-section, after very much wanting to go all natural. I tried to breast feed after, but my milk supply never fully came in. Now I bottle feed and I felt bad at first but I tried as much and I could and some things just dont turn out the way you want them to, but formula is almost close to breast milk now. I use Similac advance and its the most like breast milk now.

Kristen - posted on 11/28/2009

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I went through this same thing. I had a c-section, then tried to breast feed. My daughter never learned to latch, so I tried pumping. However, I stopped producing milk. So, she now gets formula.

I know how good breast milk is supposed to be, and that experts say breast fed babies will have stronger immune systems because they are getting your antibodies, but my daughter seems to be "healthier" than some friends that I have with children the same age who are breastfed. My daughter doesnt seem to get sick as often.

I say you are doing the best you can for you baby, and just keep doing what you're doing. :) :)

Samantha - posted on 11/28/2009

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I understan dhow you feel. After my c-section i was kinda disapointed because I didn't get that instant gratification of seeing my baby after going through the pain of childbirth. their was no pain. It seemed like i went to the hospital and they gave me a baby. I breastfed for a week to give him the colustrom, but it was way too painful after that. My little guy wasnt getting enough milk fast enough. When i switched to the bottle he seemed way happier.

Tiffany - posted on 11/28/2009

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I had two c-sections, my first son I bottle fed, and my second I breast fed but not for very long!! Honestly I can't tell the diffeence in breast or bottle feeding, both my kids are healthy, happy, and smart!! And they love me and I love them!!

Abby - posted on 11/28/2009

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I was breastfed for a year and my husband was given formula. He's not dumber or smaller than me, and he's quite healthy and fit while i've always struggled with my weight. So I honestly do not think the benefits of breastmilk are as extreme as people make it out to be. I'm still breastfeeding my son, but he's almost a year old and acts like a succubus now, and looking back I wish i had bottlefed him from the beginning. He still doesn't sleep through the night and pulls my shirt down constantly and screams when I don't give him boob whenever he wants haha....it was easier for me to BF because I didnt have to clean bottles or buy formula, but honestly i think i will give my next baby formula. I had a c-section also, and the recovery is terrible. And then you have so many pressures from everyone about what you should and shouldn't be doing for your baby when you, yourself are trying to heal. Its awful the amount of pressure we put on each other. It sounds to me like you're doing an amazing job, and your daughter is getting all the love she could possibly need.

Monique - posted on 11/28/2009

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i had a c-section and bottle fed three later, my son is now 10mths and is a big boy !!! at first it hurt so much seeing other mom breast fed then my doctor told me it ok to bottle fed my baby.

Stacie - posted on 11/28/2009

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Yes, I had a c-section and then bottle fed! I tried breast feeding but it wasn't working for us. I think it is just fine and you do whatever is comfortable for you.

Chene - posted on 11/28/2009

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Yes, I had a c-section as well, and I wish all the time that I didn't allow the Doctor to persuade me into doing a c-section. I wish that I waited at least another week closer to my due date before deciding on a c-section. As for breast feeding it's a choice everyone decides to make. I breastfed for 4 1/2 months. It was pretty time consuming but for me a wonderful experience. As soon as I returned to work however I started to produce less and less milk. So I switched to the bottle.

Cassandra - posted on 11/28/2009

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yeah i had 2 c-sections and bottle fed both my oldest got reflux from the breast milk so i didn´t worry about trying with my second and i can relate with how you feel i sometimes wish i had beastfed my younger one but i´m lucky enough to be getting another chance to breastfeed with my third soon

Jessica - posted on 11/27/2009

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I also had a c-section and bottle fed and felt a little like I missed out on some part of the connecting process but now that she's 15 months old I don't feel that way anymore. The formula is almost as good as breast milk.

Christi - posted on 11/27/2009

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I had a emergency c-section and would have chosen to breast feed my son, but I never produced any milk. I have never one felt infurior because my son is taller and weighs more than most children his age and he is healthier than most as well. I felt bad at first, but when I saw how well he was doing and that he was suprassing all the other children his age, I felt better about it. My son is 11months old and he is 25lbs 10oz. and 36in!

Tara - posted on 11/27/2009

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i breast fed after c section, it took about a week to produce anything but IT IS POSSIBLE. since my baby is in nicu i pump for him.

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talk to your doctor. Even though family means well, they do not understand how you are feeling. I have had a vaginal and a c-section. I could not breast feed with either, i tried pumping but my milk dried up both times after about 4-6 weeks. I understand how your feeling. talking to my doctor is what helped best. you should do the same, it is completely normal.

Krista - posted on 11/27/2009

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i had a c-section and breast and bottle fed both of my kids i also used a pump so it made it a little easier but the formula is also good i mean some times things dnt always go the way u planed but u jus have to make the best of every thing and do wat u can do and as long as the baby is healthy and good than u kn u are doin the right thing so u dnt have to be so stressed out bout it...

Cindy - posted on 11/27/2009

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I had a c-section and then bottle fed my baby boy and he is perfectly fine, in fact he's started alot of things early for example he started smiling at 2 and a half weeks old, he started trying to hold the bottle while I was feeding him at 2 months old, he started sticking out his tongue between a month and a half and 2 months old, and now at four and a half months old when I spoon feed him once a day everytime I go to put the spoon in his mouth he looks up at the spoon smiles really big and then grabs my hand and puts the spoon in his mouth himself and eats it, lol. You and your baby will be just fine, they grow up so fast, don't worry so much, there's only so much you can do to help your baby grow and learn, just do the best you can and then you'll be happy knowing you did your best and all you could.

Ronda - posted on 11/27/2009

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I had a c-section and really wanted to breastfeed but i wasn't producing enough for her that she'd lost quite a bit of weight and they were about to not let me take her home when i got discharged so they kind of told me i should bottle feed until my milk came in and once i started i loved the convience of it and just couldn't make myself breastfeed or pump when i got home and my milk came in.

Patti - posted on 11/27/2009

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breast feeding is overrated in my opinion.( unless you really want to then thats your thing and that great for you) they are getting exactly what they need from bottles and i hate it when people say breast fed babies are smarter babies.. hmm my 5 year old was bottle fed and she is so smart and shes at the top of her class in K. so much for that theory...

Princess Suzainne - posted on 11/27/2009

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i had a c-sec then bottle fed... tried breastfeeding but didn't worked out. my baby is now 3 months old and healthy. don't be stressed about it, we had reason why we go that way. you are doing fine so cheer up. =)

Wendy - posted on 11/27/2009

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I had 2 c-sections.... the first I bawled and fought through the pain and breastfed her for 7 months..... the second I lasted drank breast milk for 3 months but didn't nurse b/c she had a tongue tie..... long story short the first one gets sick by jut looking at her.... the second one is strong as an ox. Do what's right for you!

Alysha - posted on 11/27/2009

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I felt the same, i had an emergency c-section which i didnt want, i was so upset about it for days, i couldnt breast feed bcuz my son is tongue tied,which sucks that depressed me a lot so i got stuck bottle feeding, i have alot of worries also but i know i am doing the best that i can do. i had my c section almost 4 months ago n i still hate it, i hate the scar i hate the idea i still have baby fat from being preg i just the whole idea of it but there is nothing i can really do about it. Just remember ur doin the best u can do n the best way u know how. ur child loves u no matter what

Lotti - posted on 11/27/2009

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i was the same i had a very traumatic deliverly by c-section. and also bottle fed . but wanted sooo much to breast but as i lost that much blood i could not produce the milk to feed her . this really upset me but i have managed to carry on and for this i have a happy healthy baby girl whos 15month old now .

Stacy - posted on 11/27/2009

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Quoting Rachel:

Has anyone else has a C-section and then bottle fed??

I feel very inferior to mom's who delivered vaginally and then continued on to breastfeed. I know my LO is getting all the love and nourishment that he needs, but I cannot help but feel that I just didn't do enough. I feel like nothing went the way it was supposed to. My family and anyone who I express this concern to tells me not to worry and that I am doing wonderfully. I still feel bad. Has anyone else experienced this??


 

Justin Ann - posted on 11/27/2009

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I had a C-Section and Bottle fed. I had Eclampsia and ended up having a seizure- so I couldn't breast feed because of the meds. I was taking for the seizure-

Natasha - posted on 11/27/2009

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dont worry i felt the same way. i even cried in the hospital because i tried to breast feed and my daughter didnt know how and never learned which still makes me sad to this day but i know she is healthy so i am happy with whatever has happened!

Emma - posted on 11/27/2009

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i had an emergancy c-section and i tried to breast feed but my little one did not like it, it upset him, i then expressed for 7 wks, and it was exausting. i got mastitas (i hope i spelt that right) and expressed through it and then one day i sat and expressed for 1/2 hr and got 1/2 oz of milk in the end i did what was right for me and my baby as i am sure you r good luck
emma x

Lisa Marie - posted on 11/27/2009

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yes i have and i went two week over due i felt better because the first week my mum fed her while i got better x

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I delivered all 3 of my kids cesarian and bottlefed all of them. I wanted badly to breast feed them, but it just didn't work. I fealt bad for a couple weeks, but then I finally convinced myself that what I was doing was just as good. When they were fed I would do it and hold them as close to me as I could. That way I still got that special bonding time. And with all the formula there are some that are very close to being like breastmilk, so I knew my babies were getting good nurishment. It is pretty much a feeling that will go away over time. You just have to believe that you are doing the best you cn for your baby.

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