Has anyone else lost a baby to SIDS?

Leron - posted on 10/30/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I lost my 2 1/2 month old daughter on Aug 29 of this year to SIDS. I just wondered if anyone else has been through this and what you've done to move on and when you felt ready to have another baby...and maybe some things that you've done to remember them

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Amy - posted on 05/24/2014

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Yeah I lost my son Xavier at 4months n 4 days, to SIDS he was my whole world and that morning I will carry with me forever, I have a tattoo for my son of an angel wrapped in wings on my left shoulder blade am also getting his name on my heart, and if I'm being honest nothing helps I may have only lost my baby boy on the 27•4•14 but as my son that I loved more then anything on this earth it won't get any better, I still buy him toys and blankets and I get home and realise he will never get to play with them,

Ebonie - posted on 02/15/2014

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yes my son passed aug 7 2013 i'm having a horrible time dealing with it. i battle with ptsd depression and panic attacks. When he passed i was a single mother. the county i was in paid to have my son buried but i wasn't able to attend due to me not having money to get there. i have so much hurt and pain because of it. i miss him so much

Hannah - posted on 01/17/2014

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my baby passed away suddenly at 10 days old due to unexpected heart complication .. we lost him december 7th 2013.. we are trying again already xxx

Tara - posted on 11/23/2012

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Hi, I recently lost my son to what I believe is sids being they have no explanation and I just found him while he was what i thought sleeping. He was Born on Oct 8 and Died the night of the sandy Hurraican on Oct 29th. He is my fifth child so my everyday routines could not just come to a hault cause i had my other to take care of but I honestly dont know how anyone moves on from it. Every night I close eyes I think of that night and what I could have done different that would have changed the outcome. We did put up a memorial in the house that we always have a candle lit by it for him, we are building one outside, and like I told my other kids just because we cant physically see him, he is here with us always, so this christmas each child will put a ornament on the tree for him, I also had a memory book made of him so my kids can look at him everyday. regarding another baby, i know i will always feel incomplete because of the loss of my child but I truly believe that if we re meant to have another child we will. My husband and I both agreed, we wont try but we wont take any precautions and if its meant for us to have more then god will do that!!!!!

Natalie - posted on 01/08/2012

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Please excuse me for being late....but better late than never right?!? I too lost my son Anthony to SIDS on Oct 24, 2006 a few days shy of being 3 months old. Unfortunately being in the Army I can't just go visit him because he's in Maryland and I'm stationed in Georgia, but I know he's with me wherever I go so I find some comfort in that. If I feel I can handle it, me and my family bake a cake, sing happy birthday, and the kids releases balloons to equate to his current age. This year we will release 6 balloons that his brother and sisters picked out. On Christmas the kids makes him a present and when we go to visit him we bring the present with us. I have made video collages of him, and I have gotten a tattoo portrait of him on my left arm so I can see his beautiful face whenever I want. As far as other children......I wasn't planning on anymore after he died, but I God knows what's best for us even if we don't. He blessed me with the most precious little girl I could ever ask for. I was a complete and utter basket case until she was about 8-9 months old, but I wouldn't change having her for the world. I will go through the sleepless days and weeks 10 times over for her. Deciding on having subsequent children is a difficult decision to make. Just know that if you do it can and probably will bring up that intense fear that you may not want to feel again. I have flashbacks (still to this day) and it became worst when I was pregnant and haven't gotten better even though my daughter is almost 2. But although I'm still going through this, I would do it all over again if it meant that I would have her. I hope that my words find comfort, and I'll pray for your strength! God bless!

Gayle - posted on 10/30/2009

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My baby brother died of SIDS he was 2 months old. I was 4 years old at the time. I am now 30 years old and I still remember my mom yelling at my aunt to call 911 and my mom and other people that came to help working on my baby brother.



I am sorry for your loss it is hard to lose a child. Growing up I felt my brother near and I know that he has been with me and my family.

Katarina - posted on 10/30/2009

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I haven't lost a baby from SIDS, but I did misscarry a few years ago. What helped me the most was writing my baby a letter and then I burried it. When I was ready to try again, I dug up the letter and burned it. It helped me a lot when I needed it and gave me closure when I needed that as well. I've also heard of releasing balloons.

Bekki - posted on 10/30/2009

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There is significant research showing that there may just be an actual cause for sids. recent scientific research has shown a neurlogical problem, tissue in the brain that seems to be different from your standard human brain.. Its somewhere near the hypothalmus and is causing the overheating. not definitive but its closer than any research thus far to a cause for sids

Michelle - posted on 10/30/2009

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Although I have not lost a baby due to SIDS, a close friend of mine did! I cant even imagine the pain and loss of a child! You and your family r in our thoughts and prayers! The only thing I can tell you is that you will never get over it so to speak but u will get passed it, if that makes sense! Not a day will go by that u wont think of your preciouse baby and that is normal! Although I am sure it is painful to think of the tragic event, you shouldn't remove all of the reminders of your daughter.....keep things around your house that will remind you of the joyful time that you did have with her and as the days go by eventually u will find yourself at peace with what happened! You do need to frieve though, dont hold it back....get sad and get mad and take your time so that you can allow your body and brain to face what has happened and use your experience as a way to maybe help others who are experiencing the same situation! I am no expert but this is what I observed as the best ways to cope! As far as when to have another baby, that will be different for every women....u will know when the time comes! Some women cope better by filling their empty arms with another child right away and for some women that may not b the best idea! I hope you have a great support system and people u can turn to! God Bless!

Leron - posted on 10/30/2009

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Thanks everyone! We have started a memorial garden, I have made a collage frame of pictures of her and my aunt bought me a locket. She's buried right next to our church so we go visit her every sunday. There's a little tree next to her grave that we plan to decorate at different times during the year. We plan to plant a new plant in her garden every year on her birthday. We have a strong faith in God and know that He's in control. Just wanted to know who else out there has been through this.

Karmelie - posted on 10/30/2009

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I haven't but I have a friend who did. Her son was very young, dont remember exactly what age, but she remembers him by having a small memorial at her place. Kinda like a table with his pictures. She lights a candle every night and says a prayer beside him. She may put a teddy bear or two on there as well.

Not sure what she done done emotionally, but im sure that speaking to someone if you're feeling down could help. And also remembering that God does everything for a reason and he may have needed your baby as an angel by his side. I hope things go well with you and I will keep you in my prayers.

Condolensces,
Kay

Elizabeth - posted on 10/30/2009

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I'm sorry, I haven't... but gosh, my heart goes out to you.

Maybe get a locket or have a necklace made with some sort of keepsake or momento you can touch at any time?

Brianna - posted on 10/30/2009

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I have to say first that I have not lost a baby to SIDS. I just wanted to express my condolenses to you. I also think that if something like this were to happen to me, I would remember my baby by looking at some of the pictures that you may have even her sonogram and frame them. I would keep anything that reminded me of her just so she knows that she's not forgotten. I would also remember her by celebrating her birthday every year and going to her final resting place. Good luck and God Bless you.

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