Having to send your child to their dads

Amanda - posted on 07/03/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have been split up with my son's father since my son was 4 months old. I have noticed that even though it has been 3 years of me letting my son go to his dads. It doesn't seem to be any easier. My son is 2 until next month and I see that he loves his dad very much. I know I am doing the right thing by letting him go to his dad every other weekend. My son's dad and I agreed not to go through the courts to fight for our son. We was never married but it seems to easier if we are friends then argue. We have realized that our son is happy and he loves us both. The hardest part is when my son comes home and his dad leaves because my son always cries for his dad until he realizes that he has to stay home to be with me. Sometimes it is hard because I don't like to see my son cry.

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Amanda - posted on 07/13/2009

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Thanks everyone. What can I do to make it easier on my son? He loves his dad and doesn't want his dad to leave him. How can his dad drop him off without him crying?

Kathy - posted on 07/04/2009

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You are definitely doing the right thing. I grew up without a father, and it really messed me up. My daughter also goes to her father's every other weekend. (he also gets her 2 weeks every summer which is where she is now, that is hard!) I know you must miss your son when he is with his dad; just try to keep yourself occupied. See your friends, or do things that aren't easy to do with a little boy around (clean, grocery shop) Just know that you are doing the right thing.

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Ur son will understand when he is older(like 18, lol). If it is not working between u and ur x, don't be together. Its better he see u as friends :)

Francesca - posted on 07/03/2009

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i understand how you feel, but your sons father has as much right as yourself. well done to you both for keeping it civil, children need that. my step boys get so much hassel from their mum and step dad. wish for the boys sake things could be amicable (cant spell lol) but it will never happen. its hard to see your kids upset, but your being a good parent for allowing your sons father access. dont ever change

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