HE CHEATED!

Lauren - posted on 07/25/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Just a little inside me and my boyfriend chris have been together since i was 15 and have 2 daughters together. Last night i got a call from a girl named Ashley, i didn't know this girl but she was crying on the phone. At first i thought it was a wrong number and then she started talking she said "Are you Chris's Girlfriend" I said yes And she said (still sobbing) "You guys have 2 kids together?" I i said yes, i was so confused at this point! She said i slept with Chris last night. I wen't numb and hung up the phone as quickly you can say anything. I started crying, Chris was still at work and i didn't know what to do or how to feel. I took my girls and we wen't to the beach for a little while to clear my mind. Mind you our house was spotless when i left. I got home about 6 30, chris usually gets home about 6. He was screaming and swearing asking where dinner was then i confronted him about the phone call and he straight up said he did it and then looked red in the face because he hates to see me cry, Then he left came back hours later with roses and apologized! I am torn! i've grown up with him and he is the father of my 2 children! MOMS I NEED YOUR ADVICE WOULD YOU FORGIVE HIM?

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Katie - posted on 07/25/2012

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Okay.
This is complicated, and i understand how you're torn, but cheating in my book is unforgivable. I know the circumstances are difficult concerning your two children, but you need to think of yourself too... kids can pick up on tension, and I know that when i've been cheated on...it was difficult for me to ever consider trusting him again. You'll always be looking at his phone...wondering where he's going, and have that suspicion, you're still young, you have your entire life, people move forward every day...you don't deserve to live like that. Roses don't mend anything...in the end it is your decision... i know how hard it is... but remember you deserve better. )= There are three types of guys: one's that don't cheat, one's that cheat once or twice and never again, and then there are ones that are habitual liars and constantly do it. I've been across all three... there is nothing worse than a cheater. Do not feel obligated to stay with someone because they are the father of your child- there are millions of guys out there willing to step up and treat you how you deserve to be treated. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this )=

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Stifler's - posted on 07/29/2012

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What ? He was swearing an screaming about where's dinner? WTF is that about?I'd be more likely to get rid of someone like that than a cheater and he's both.

Stevie - posted on 07/29/2012

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I agree. You still have children with him and like it or not he'll probably always be in your life. It's best if he is anyway, for the children. However, in a situation like this you should follow you instincts. If you feel he cheated more than once and isn't owning up to it, get out. If you feel like he's really and truely sorry maybe another change. It's up to you, you have a lot on you as a mother and to be in this type of situation. I hope the best ♥

Sheila - posted on 07/29/2012

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Man we're indeed polygamous! But then, you were not just the usual boyfriend and girlfriend anymore. You should consider a lot of things before making decisions. First, you have to consider your children, of course we all wanted them to grow up with a father. Well you should also consider those days and beautiful moments that you've been together, but Girl I'm not saying that you should lived in martyrdom. One chance and last chance that would be it. If I were you try to make some things that would make you busy, try to find a job, groom up yourself, and let him feel that you're the woman she can't lived without. ^_^

Lauren - posted on 07/28/2012

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Thank you Ladies! Honestly the hardest part is that i have been with him so long and i have nothing without him in the sense of family and money. He has all of our accounts, i do not have a job and it's all so complicated! And i know that what is best for my kids is for us to leave. It's not going to be easy but we have to do what we have to do! It's just going to be os hard to stat over!

Kelina - posted on 07/28/2012

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he's not sorry he did it, I can tell you that straight up he's sorry he got caught. Your post sends up a number of red flags for. first why the hell did he freak out when dinner wasn't waiting for him? and second why was it you had to find out from someone else? and if she had to ask if you were married and had two kids, then he obviously told her he was single and unattached. So how many others has he done that with? If he could admit to you that he cheated without doing more than going red in the face I sincerely doubt he's never done it before. A friend of mine cheated on her fiance and couldn't even tell me without bawling and feeling like the lowest worm that ever crawled. that doesn't sound like your hubby. I would leave. I couldn't be with someone who hurt me like that, and who showed no real remorse.

Angela - posted on 07/28/2012

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My ex cheated too and I left him. I tried for three years to get over it but it never goes away. Every time he said I love you I knew he couldn't really. There is no excuse for his behavior and you don't have to.be worrying about what he is doing every second of your life. He knew what he had to lose before he cheated and did it anyways. Remember that.

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