he wont sleep w/out the nip....

Michelle - posted on 10/03/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




my 4mnth old will only sleep if he breast feeds.... hes has just started bottle feeding and cereal but even if he is full he still wkes up at night and wont sleep w out my breast. people have told me to lay him down at bed time and let him cry it out till he falls asleep and eventually he will learn....

i feel do terrable doing that though... i heard it increases the stress hormone and will make him a high strung kid.

i dont know what to do? should i let him cry or keep giving him my breast?


Brenda - posted on 10/03/2009




Give him the breast. Babies need to nurse for many reaons and one of them is food, the others are just important. It is a HUGE MYTH that it is wrong to nurse a baby to sleep. Nursing produces sleep inducing hormones, so it is natural and good to nurse to sleep. Nursing provides important pain reducing hormones so when teething or growing they need the breast. I am adamently opposed to cry it out. It makes chidlren more prone to anxiety and depression. It does increase the stress hormone. I feel if I don't like to scream and cry, why should my baby? Babies are people too, and I don't think I would like to be left alone in a dark room scared, possibly in pain, and feeling abandoned. Sure they forget it, but at what cost? My five month old never goes to sleep without the breast. We cosleep, and during the night I just roll and feed. I bottle fed my four year old (was unable to breastfeed due to some unhappy circumstances) and he never went to sleep without the bottle. He went to a sippy with water when he was two (yes he was allowed to have a bottle until two), and he still went to sleep with that every night.

My best advice, if you feel wrong letting him cry it out, DON'T! Follow your mother's instincts and NEVER do anything you feel is wrong, no matter how many people try to tell you different. You are the mother, and if you and him are happy, do not change what you are doing. Best of luck.


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He's only 4 months old! There's nothing wrong with him needing to breastfeed for comfort in the evening. Certainly you can try a pacifier - as others have suggested - but if that doesn't work, just keep breastfeeding him to sleep. Once he's a little older, you can try to get him to sleep other ways - rocking, shushing, rubbing his back, etc (and you don't need to let him cry). My son recently turned one, and still nurses when he goes to bed, but he has learned other ways to soothe himself for naps and in the middle of the night. Good luck!

Melanie - posted on 10/04/2009




From personal experience...i bf my son to sleep until he was 6 mths... and he was always a verry gasy baby and would hardly sleep due to the gas...When i did decide that it was hurting him to bf to sleep and to transition it was very hard and heart breaking and wished i started sooner. His only comfort was my breast which to me was sad. I would slowly star the transition now before he gets way to used to it. Unless yr baby is a great sleeper and has no gas. I wouldnt let him cry it out bc that is a big transition but you can rock him. Mine would still cry while i rocked him but atleast he had the comfort of me being there. i also had my husband help me threw the transition bc i didnt want to give in. Now he has better naps and sleeps better at night and he has 80% less gas hicups ect... im wish i would of done it sooner.Good luck

Jessica - posted on 10/04/2009




Give him your breast!!!! He's only 4 months & needs that comfort! Let him have it!!! :)
My son is 12.5 months & still wants boob to go to sleep & I give it to him, once he's asleep he can go into his crib.
There's a community "breastfeeding moms" if your not in it you should join it, it's a great place!

Sarah - posted on 10/04/2009




Will he take a pacifier? I'm wondering if that would be "nipple" enough to soothe him to sleep without having to take you with him everytime he needs some shut-eye.

Kayleigh - posted on 10/04/2009




i would keep giving him your breast hunnie, my son was the same and has only just started to sleep through now ( he is 1 and no longer breastfed ) but i believe that they do it for comfort and there is no harm in it at all, i would not let him cry it out as the others have said this just causes unnecessary stress to the baby, hope this helps

Pia - posted on 10/04/2009




Try breast feeding your baby until he's relaxed. Not asleep, but relaxed. Then try placing him down. If he starts crying go into him, but don't pick him up, talk to him or make eye contact. Just roll him onto his side away from you and pat him until he calms down. Once he's calm leave the room, and if he cries wait a minute then repeat. It may take a few repititions, but it teaches them to fall asleep on their own. I breastfed my son to sleep until he was 7 months old and it was exhausting. Pamela is right, if you continue to breastfeed him to sleep he will become dependent on you to make him sleep.

I'm not sure about America, but in Australia we have free classes run by midwives on how to get your children to sleep. Perhaps look into something like that if it's getting too bad.

Pamela - posted on 10/04/2009




Im sorry I don't mean to disagree with the other moms but you should not bring that baby into your bed and breast feed even if it is too comfort him!! you are only paving the way for more issues then you know! one would be that he is going to become dependent on you to fall asleep, I know this from personal experience..everyone one always said to give to to my daughter now I have a 5 year old who wont even sleep by herself and she always climbs into bed with me at night..so my advise to you would be to find another way to help him sleep nip it in the butt now or later you will regret it

Linda - posted on 10/04/2009




Have you tried the pacifiers? My baby did the samething and now she takes one at night when she sleeps. Its the sucking they like. I gave it to my oldest who is 5 now and she didnt get bad teeth or any other crazy myth. I rather brake her from a pacifier then a thunb or a nipple. Good luck.

Reshitta - posted on 10/03/2009




As hard as it is to say yes keep giving it to him because you are right it causes stress as well as hernia? I hope thts how its spelled LOL but yes from all of the crying it will do him no good my daughter did that and she would not sleep she would holler and scream put lanolin on your breast and lay with him as he soothes hisself once he is sleep it will fall out of his mouth and you wont get nipple irritation or discomfort so just take out about 10-15 mins to put him to sleep and he will grow out of it once you take him completely of breast pump if you have to and the best bottles that are natural breast like are called Dr Browns I used them for all 3 of my kids wonderful bottles and helped me with the breast to bottle

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