heartbroken single parent

Cristina - posted on 11/05/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Me and the fiance just took a split..I'm devistated...any ideas to help me get through this i have a 4 month old and i'm being strong for her but its hard.

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Sy - posted on 02/25/2013

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I cannot stop crying. I have a 5 month old. Alone. No family. My pseudo boyfriend and father of baby wants freedom to date and do whatever he wants and occasionally visit or see us. Problem is I love him so much. I just want to die everyday. It hurts like someone is constantly stabbing me. We live in the same town and had the most amazing relationship. And then an unexpected baby changed it all. My baby is a gift and she is so gorgeous. I ask God what He is punishing me for. I'm begging for forgiveness or death. Anything but this.

Jodie - posted on 11/08/2009

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yeah its not easy being a single mum . my sons dad and i split when he was 1 and hes now five so i can say it does get easier u just have to hang in there ..

Robin - posted on 11/08/2009

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Is going to take time, My daughters father left me when she was 7 months old after we found out she was diagnosed w/ a form of muscular dystrophy. So he left me pretty much jobless,phoneless,car less, and homeless with a sick child at 24. I was devastated to say the least, but thank goodness I had a good family support system to help me otherwise I would have went insane. I know everyone always says "Be strong for your kids" but yah know what sometimes the best thing you can do is just sit down and have yourself a good crying session, get all the emotions out, anger, sadness,whatever. and then sit back and try to figure things out. I'm not saying its going to happen in a week or a month or a year, but as long as you get the ball rolling and realize your gonna have to do this on your own, the better you will do.

User - posted on 11/06/2009

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It is hard. I got divorced from my husband when my son was 1 1/2 years old. Everything about it was hard. It was hard for me emotionally, it was hard to watch my son ask where his daddy was. The most important thing for me was to realize I couldn't get through it on my own. I let my family help me. Depend on people you trust to vent to them and open up your feelings. You do have to be strong in front of your child, but you still have to find time to just be sad about what is going on and let your feelings out. And then, for your child, establish a routine for her with her dad that she will be used to so that all this seems normal. It has been about a year and a half since my divorce and my son is already very well adjusted...I don't think he even remembers when we all were together. Keep your head up, it will be hard, but it will get better with time. Good luck!

Amber - posted on 11/06/2009

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Don't isolate yourself. Surround yourself with family or friends people who lift you up. The more you are isolated the more you will sit and think about it and be in your own pain. Remember if nothing else you got a beautiful baby out of the deal.

ALTHELIA - posted on 11/05/2009

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da stronge u do b the easier ur job will be do some things wit the baby ur family take a break all to keep ur mind busy and off him at da end of da day wen a man is gone a mother will still have to be there

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i split from my husband when my daughter was 4 weeks old and it was the hardest thing i've ever been thru emotionally,you just have to ride it,talk about how you feel if you don't have anyone you trust write it all down,don't bottle it up. i know its easily said but it does get better,we now have a good relationship for the sake of the kids,so keep your head up,i hope it all gets better soon for you.

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