Rose - posted on 08/23/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




i need help to find a book that will help my 6yo understand why a man she does not know wants to see her and that he is her birth dad. there are plently of books about separation ect but these are not helpful as she never saw him or the break up. she knows my husband as dad and has a bro n sister, so we are a very happy normal family and now this is happening and i dont know how to explain it all to her. please help


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Cassey - posted on 08/23/2009




I would sit down and talk her through it. Dont over complicate it - just plain and simple. Draw a few pictures with her to help her understand better. Just be careful not to overload her with information :) Goodluck.

Hailey - posted on 08/23/2009




maybe just make a small picture book yourself showing a picture of yourself meting the man who is the bio father also use a pic of him if possible and tell her that you to made a special baby together being her but he went or what ever the story is and that then you met the man who she knows as dad , add your story to it this is just an idea , i dont know of any books hope this is helpful sorry if its not

Ashley - posted on 08/23/2009




I don't know of any books, but I went through a break up, and was told that as my daughter starts asking questions, and he starts to want to see her, just to explain that he's her birth father, and that the break up has nothing do with her. I don't know how much this will help, but that's the answers I had received from people. Good luck!

Sam - posted on 08/23/2009




I honestly don't think a book is going to help you with this one but books on separations are as good as any believe it or not because they help you understand the Childs situation. Just do the best you can and be as honest as possible without giving her details that a 6 yo does not need to deal with. Don't give her too much to deal with. Don't make a big deal of it, try to be relaxed and try to make it as easy for her as possible. Her 6 yo mind does not need adult problems to deal with. She has enough confusions just growing up.

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