HELP!!!!! 7 months pregnant and my unborn child's father left me for another woman?

Quiana Sandra - posted on 09/29/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )

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hello everyone! im having a hard time with dealing with my situation! My unborn child's father left me for another woman while im 7 months pregnant! smh. I have been off and on with my ex for 5 years and we had our ups and downs! I never cheated nor lied in the relationship bt he has in the past and I forgave him! This year in April i found out I was one month pregnant and he was not happy, he wanted me to get an abortion, and that's just something I dont believe in soooo I chose to keep my child! So we talked over everything and he said he will be there for me and my unborn child, but things started to change in the month of July of this year! we continued to argue about him and other females and lying sooo he just stop talking to me in July and I havent heard from him every since yesterday when I saw him with another female parked in at his mother house and at the moment I was at his mother house ! So i came outside and saw him and he couldnt say a word ! smh.. I am so heartbroken because I had a feeling that something wasnt right every since July when we started to argue! He doesnt know anything about my unborn daughter Serenity! & he hasn't showed up to no doctors appointments or anything bt he has time to worry about another feamle which is his new girlfriend! wow But I really need to know what should I do so that I can be happy?

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Bre - posted on 09/29/2012

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Honey, If youre with a man who is showing you no respect, then leave. Taking yourself out of that stressful situation, will make you a better YOU & also a better MOTHER. Those are the only two things that count. Although it may be hard, to stay away from him. Be strong for baby serenity, be her role model. Show her that that is not ohkay, so that when she grows up, she'll have the knowledge and strength to stay away from someone that means her no good. Take the time that you have left before baby serenity arrives, and focus on you. I promise it will work out.

KENDRA - posted on 09/30/2012

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Ive been there you have to let go its not worth the pain...and he is not worth u....My little girls dad did the same thing even said have an abortion he didnt want her but with Gods help to,get over him and my broken heart...I have my babygirl Zion and wen ur bby smile at u u will forget the rest,,,,

Rebecca - posted on 11/07/2012

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You and your daughter can make it without him if you choose to do so -- there is no reason for her to have that as an example as a "good man" and "father." I have a friend who went through the same thing, and she worried that she would never be in love again, that no man would ever want involvement with her because she had a child that wasn't his. Today, she is happily married to a WONDERFUL man who is the best male figure in her sons life!



Being in the opposite position, I will testify as to how important it is to have a supportive mate who loves the child and is willing to work and set a good life-long example! Above all, you need someone who respects you. Don't let your daughter grow up seeing how your ex treats you and think that it's okay for men to treat her like that. No way.



However, he is still her father. Stay strong, for you and for her. I really hope everything works out for you and sweet little Serenity, as I'm sure she is almost here! Keep your head up, Quiana, and stay focused on what really matters in your life right now!

Princess - posted on 10/10/2012

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You need to worry about You and your daughter because he has clearly shown you that you or your child are not a priority. Ask friends and family for emotional support and be ready to be a single mom. Don't worry about him at all.... all energy should be directed at having a healthy baby and raising the baby as best you can. Its over between you two. He should not be allowed back into your life but if he wants to be apart of the baby's life let him don't hold her because you're mad at him for the things he have done. He was wrong very wrong but you knew what type of person he was throughout the years. So focus on you and your child. Good luck

Melissa - posted on 10/01/2012

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I think that if a man is going to leave you when you are pregnant with his child is not worth your time! You are so much better than that and deserve so much better. You just have to focus on you and your baby, everything will fall into place. You definitely deserve a lot better and your baby does too, be strong, everything will work out. Take care of you and baby x

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Valerie - posted on 11/07/2012

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I am going through this but much worse. A couple of weeks ago, the father of my 4 year old daughter flipped out on me and beat me for the first time ever in front of her. Thank god my sister was there to somewhat get her away from seeing that. She saw the majority of it though and i know she will remember this forever. To make it worse at the time i was 8 weeks pregnant and he did not seem to care. I didn't even recognize him at all and it scares me to know that, that was the person that i have dedicated my life too for 6 years on and off. He wasn't there for my first pregancy being that he was in Iraq and is now a different person. He is a coward and won't even call me and see if i am ok. I'm in so much pain and feel so much betrayal. I don't know what to do.

Quiana Sandra - posted on 10/08/2012

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thank you, I have trying my best to let go and its always something! And now that I find out he is getting married soon, even made my situation hard! I just don't understand why this had to happen to me!

User - posted on 10/08/2012

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I would give him his neede time wiht his daughter if hewants it and thats it. You dont need someone that is soo negative aroudn you. Apparently hes being selfish and not caringfor you or hischild, expecially being a new parent you dont need that, it seems like it would only make matters worse. Takes time to heal, talk to freinds andfamily and make surethey help you and support you along this. You need the people around you, dont keep things in, make sure youtalk to someone

Shayda - posted on 10/08/2012

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i really feel sorry. it's so hard, when you love a man and he leaves you, i understand ur feeling now, but think about this, you can't live with pain all ur life, u have to be strong, and try to find a new life for yourself, forget the past.

Daniele - posted on 10/04/2012

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Girl I'm so sorry. I know the feeling the best thing i ever did for me was to move on. Any Guy Can Make A Baby it takes a man to be a Father. There is a guy out there that will stick by your side and love the little one as much as if she was his. If you ever need to blow steam feel free to message me.

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