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Ashley - posted on 07/27/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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This is goig to be a long story ill apologize ahead of time. Im 24 years old and i was 22 when i got pregnant.my sons father is now 19 he was 17 when i got pregnant. he left before i was even showing and got another girl pregnant. her son and my son are 6 months apart. my ex kept going back and forth between me and 2 other girls. he currently is living with his girlfriend and youngest son. He has spent no more than 24 hours total with my son since he was born a year ago and he does pay child support which im willing to give up. His new girlfriend and the mother of his other son called the cops on him 2 days ago for hitting her. Also before i had my son he begged me to get an abortion told me if i brought his name up him and his mother would get me for rape and he also told me to say he hit me (he never hit me but ripped me out of my bed once when he was on pills and drinkin ) so he wouldnt have to be involved. Now he is trying to be involved. I really would like him to just stay away considering he only talks to us or tries to be involved when him andhis girlfriend are having issues with eachother. i know that in the state of ohio the mother has all the rights because nothing in court was established for visitation. what do i need to do to keep him away from us im afraid for my sons and my safety.

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Michelle - posted on 07/27/2012

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If there is no court ordered visitation or custody rights then I would suggest stop seeing him because there is nothing requiring it. Anybody that has violent tendencies towards any life that is unable to protect itself is not a good human being. I don't know about the laws in Ohio. But I will suggest that you start with Social Services to find a course of action for yourself and of course your baby. Safety is number one and to me it sounds like you can't guarantee you or the baby's safety in this man's presence. Looking for a way to keep him away from both of you seems very wise to me for your age.

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Ashley - posted on 07/30/2012

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thank you michelle. im just having such an issue with this because from what my uncle told me (hes a cop) he said that if something were to happen to me and i was in the hospital the father would get the baby over my mother whom me and my son live with. i just worry because this is not the first time he has hit her i do know that he only does it while drinkin or taking colodopins i think they are called. i just dont know what to do i asked child support what i should do or how i should go about this and i havent gotten a response yet.

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