HELP! I am having trouble showing my son affection.

Erika - posted on 02/21/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am married with a 7 year old son. He is an awesome child and very loving. Since he was a baby he has always been known to have a "motor mouth." At first it was cute, but now it has taken over and he has been getting notes home from school for his "impulsive" outburst and "self control" since he started school. Since he has been talking up a storm for so many years it has created a barrier between us. I can't stand to be around him; I don't like watching T.V./Movies with him; I don't play with him; I don't even like holding a conversation with him. I FEEL HORRIBLE about it. Every morning I wake up telling myself it is a new day and I will give it another chance to be a better mother, but the moment he wakes up it seems as if he does something so annoying it just messes up my plans I had with him. Over the years I have noticed that it is starting to take a toll on him. He is starting to crave attention. Mommy, can you give me a hug? Mommy, can you scratch my back? Mommy, can you tuck me in? For some reason, I don't want to be a part of it all. I don't want to cuddle with him and if I force myself to, I feel awkward. I know by reading this, I seem like a cold-heartless mother; but I am reaching out for help because I need to know if there is an underlying problem with me. To make matters worse, my husband and I BOTH have short fuses with our son. Some days, when we take our son to the park and try and have a good day, our son will do weird stuff to make us annoyed with him (i.e. bug his eyes out; blink super hard; walk funny; look around like something is wrong with him; say things like "I can't stop thinking & put his down on the front seat in front of him in the car). Then I get annoyed, husband gets annoyed and we try and refrain from even being around him at that point; telling him he acts too weird. My husband and I need help! I want to learn how to enjoy being around my son and spend time with him. I want to learn how to develop a loving-caring motherly attitude toward our son, but most of all give him the affection without being so annoyed with his personality. I am having trouble excepting who he is. The "bond" just doesn't seem to be there.

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Nadia - posted on 02/24/2014

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My heart breaks for you please please seek help worst nightmare would be your son remembering how mum and dad treated him for these silly little things later on in life

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