Help I've got a daughter whose almost 2 now and she chucks mad hissy fits over everythin wat do i do

Caseylee - posted on 09/11/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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When she starts a tantrum she follows me around screaming, she throws herself on the ground squeels and carries on and it just escilates till she gets her own way i try to just ignore it but it only makes me cranky cos she just wont stop plz help

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Corri - posted on 09/11/2009

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Have you ever heard of Parenting with Love and Logic? It has been a life savor for us! I would HIGHLY recommend looking them up online and reading the advice they have. They have something for every age. What they would say to do in this situation is sing the "uh oh" song. It goes "Uh oh, sounds like somebody needs some alone time, so sad (you have to actually make this part sound like you think it is so sad they have to do this, as a big part of the whole thing is empathy), guess you can come out when you're going to be nice." By the time you finish the song, you should be putting her in her room and shutting the door. You then COMPLETELY ignore her. Let her throw the biggest fit she wants, but she has to stay in that room. When she quiets down, you ask her if she is ready for some "calm down time", which is 2-4 minutes during which they have to stay quiet. When they are done, they can come back out and go back to what they were doing. If they throw another fit, start over. If you are public, find a wall to make her stand against and keep your back to her, while obviously making sure she is safe. If she is likely to run off in public, put her in a cart by a wall to throw her fit, and again, keep your back to her.

Hope this helps!

Lindsay - posted on 09/11/2009

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Quoting Angelica:

My sister has a 2 year old who does this same thing. At first she gave in to her needs but now, she lets her cry out her tantrum. She will leave her alone while she kicks and screams. After about a couple of minutes, my niece will calm down enough so my sister can pick her up. She usually only does this when she's tired or hungry; so my sister tries to keep her on a regular schedule as much as possible.



I've got to agree with keeping a fairly strict routine as far as meal times and naps. That really tends to help with the behavior. Of course it will not keep a 2 year old from their tantrums but may cut them down some. I learned to not give attention to them whether it be positive or negative. If your child doesn't get a reaction from you, they will slow down. Best of luck!

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my toddler tried that too and i used to let it drive me crazy then i learned to put her in her room and tell her she couldn't do anything fun till she calmed down. then she would fight more and i would shut her door and go take a nice relaxing shower b/c it would help drown out the screams. when she calmed down and/or i was finished I would get out and find her playing quitely in her room. good luck. remember time too yourself is essential and good for them as well

Erin - posted on 09/11/2009

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In my opinion, the worst thing you can do is give in. I know it's frusterating to listen to your child scream and cry, I have a 2 year old daughter as well! But I've found the thing that works most with my daughter is to bribe her. It's not cruel, it really works! If she starts throwing a fit I'll ask her things like "did you want to go to the park later? Cause it's not happening if you keep this up." Or I'll threaten her to. I'm not against spanking her so I'll say "do you want me to spank you?" And she'll usually straighten up. Sometimes you gotta do things you dont like!

Angelica - posted on 09/11/2009

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My sister has a 2 year old who does this same thing. At first she gave in to her needs but now, she lets her cry out her tantrum. She will leave her alone while she kicks and screams. After about a couple of minutes, my niece will calm down enough so my sister can pick her up. She usually only does this when she's tired or hungry; so my sister tries to keep her on a regular schedule as much as possible.

Angelica - posted on 09/11/2009

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My sister has a 2 year old who does this same thing. At first she gave in to her needs but now, she lets her cry out her tantrum. She will leave her alone while she kicks and screams. After about a couple of minutes, my niece will calm down enough so my sister can pick her up. She usually only does this when she's tired or hungry; so my sister tries to keep her on a regular schedule as much as possible.

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