HELP!!!! Just found out I might be pregnant again!!!!

Brittany - posted on 04/26/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I took a test today b/c I noticed I had past the day I should've started ( i thought i hadn't b/c of stress from college). It came back positive! I turn 23 next weekend, got let go from my job since their down sizing, I'm still in college and live at home b/c of hom much college costs. I know when I tell my parents I'll have to move out and I have a place to go but I what I don't know is how my boyfriend and I are going to pay for everything. I'm lost and don't know where to start besides going to the doctor. All this was take care of for me since I gave my first baby up to a better family and I was only 20 at the time. If anyone could please give me some insite on what i need to do and how much all this might cost, I will be very grateful. I know I should ask my mom but I don't feel right putting that on her along with everything else going on. Thank you so much!

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Kylie - posted on 04/26/2009

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As you know, choosing to keep your baby and go down the motherhood road is going to be difficult, but it can be done! Especially if you have the love and support of your family and boyfriend to help you. I would be telling him before I told my mother, is he a good man who will also make sacrifices to give this baby everything it needs? Motherhood will be the hardest and most important job you have ever had. It is scary having no idea what your doing at first, and this tiny person's life will be so dependent on you and the choices you make. I understand how you must be feeling. My first child was an unplanned pregnancy at 21. I was on a working holiday with my boyfriend of 4 years and it totally changed our lives, but for the better. I suppose we were lucky because we had savings and a very solid relationship and although i didn't think so at the time i became pregnant, being a mother to our daughter is the best thing that I have ever done in my life. It takes a lot of sacrifice and hard work to set up a safe, consistent home. You will need to put your dreams on hold for some time as you will no longer be number one. You wont be able to work and study and be a mother of a young baby all at the same time. I personally don't think its fair to have a baby and then put it into daycare at 6 weeks or even a few months, so you can work full time outside the home to put food on the table and roof over your heads. so i think a lot of your decision will be based on your mans attitude to this news. Remember if you feel you cannot support this baby 100% emotional and financially to give it the best opportunity's in life, adoption is a wonderful option. There are so many good people out there who are desperate to love and provide for a child of their own but cannot conceive. You would be doing a great and selfless thing to adopt your baby out into a loving home. Its a difficult decision but you will find the answer and either way this baby is alive and has a future and remember everything happens for a reason you just gotta "roll with the punches" Good luck!

Magaly - posted on 04/26/2009

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okay, first you need to go to the doctor and find out for sure if you are.You are only one day late it could be stress for sure.If you are not pregnant then girl use condoms and some type of birth control.. You are in collage so u need to think about finishing school first, having a baby is alot of work and alot of money!

Good luck in ur case i hope u r not pregnant. continue going to school.

Gemma - posted on 04/26/2009

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rachael is right citizens advice will help u with things there is help out there. hope that u r ok. let me no what u goin to do xx

Gemma - posted on 04/26/2009

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hi ya brittany im the same age as u and i have a little boy who is 18 months. we all live with my mum and step dad me, my boyfriend and caleb. its hard i no i dont work but my b/f does we cant get are own place cause of the cost of it all.

u need to no your self first what u want to do u have got to think of your self and what u want to do then start from there. when i found out i was pregnant i didnt no what to do. i just took some time to think.

Mel - posted on 04/26/2009

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i would be a little more careful with protection. some people would die to have a baby so im so glad to hear that you gave it up to someone who wanted a child. do u want this baby? if not i guess either get a termination or if you are willing to go thru pregnancy again then give this one up if you dont want it

Rachael - posted on 04/26/2009

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hi brittany, the first thing to do is not to panic everything always works out in the end.if you go to your local citizens advice bureau and sit and have a chat with the adviser there,they can tell you all the benefits you can apply for also how to contact tax credits .They will also contact your local council about possible accomodation.hope this helps let me know how you get on.xx

Rachael - posted on 04/26/2009

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hi brittany, the first thing to do is not to panic everything always works out in the end.if you go to your local citizens advice bureau and sit and have a chat with the adviser there,they can tell you all the benefits you can apply for also how to contact tax credits .They will also contact your local council about possible accomodation.hope this helps let me know how you get on.xx

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