HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!! HOW DO I TELL MY PARENTS

Stacee - posted on 10/18/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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im very positive im pregnant. im 22, been with my Boyfriend for about 3 years, but known him since high school. My older sister is 26 weeks pregnant and my parents are already worried about that pregnancy (baby bigger than average, and her body frame is so small it's not expanding fast enough), i dont want them to deal with both of their daughters pregnant. My boyfriend has a good, steady job and we might be moving to portland if he gets an offer for a Bigger, waaaay better paying job with amazing benefits. Im afraid that i will disappoint them beyond belief, that I will get shunned out of the family, that it will break their hearts. My boyfriend's parents are hardcore christians. They dont even know we're active outside of marriage. i know they will FLIP. how do i tell them? Im keeping the baby, I dont believe in abortion unless its medically necessary

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Britany - posted on 10/18/2012

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In my opinion, I would start off with a heartfelt prayer and talk it over with your boyfriend about how you want to handle the circumstance. You are both grown, mature adults and I think it would might be more devastating to your parents to not know. I, myself, became pregnant out of wedlock and my whole family are devout Christians, too. The initial reaction was shock and disbelief, but, soon after, they were supportive. As Christians, aren't they(we) supposed to bear each others burdens and be quick to forgive? You can do it!

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Melissa - posted on 10/31/2012

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The best ting to do is tell them. I know how hard it is because i was 17 when i first became pregnant with my now 9 year old daughter. My dad is hard core catholic so i know where your coming from. It is a parents natural reaction to be worried so weather your 22 or 32, you are still their baby. Maybe talk with your mom first. Moms seem t understand a little better anyways. Ask her to go over for tea or coffee and tell her than. Sometimes when your 1 on 1 it makes for a better revealing than if you tell both of your parents together. They tend to feed off each others reactions. So if mom and dad panic, the panic becomes twice as much. If you just tell mom, let that moment come and sink in, than she will calm down faster. Just a suggestion. I wish you all the best!

Becky - posted on 10/31/2012

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I was terrified to tell my mom. She is also very christian. I was so scared that I actully avoided talking to her for the first 12 weeks. When I did finally telll her though she wasn't even disappointed like I thought she would be. She said " I was praying that you weren't pregnant but now that I know you are I couldn't be more excited". I hope everything works out for you as well as it has for me.

Jessica - posted on 10/29/2012

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if they love you then they will love you and your baby no matter what! it might be hard at first but you have no choice but to tell them. Maybe tell them seperatly if one parent is easyer going then the other or try doing something creative like bake a cupcake and decorate them with baby things and show them how proud you are and happy. I was scared my first time. I wrote my parents a letter explaining everything. I also said how i love my child reguardless and i love my parents and i hope they can accept this new blessing in our lives! My mom was mad for about a day!

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