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Natasha - posted on 08/12/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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What do you do or say when your significant other doesn't want more children and you do??

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Lindsay - posted on 08/22/2013

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If you have sat down together and talked about it then there really isn't much you can do at the moment. Take into consideration things that may be stressing him out at the moment that could make him feel that way. It needs to be the right time before you decide to bring a child into this world, and if it isn't right for both of you then you should definitely wait. If you are getting to the point where your other child or children are getting older and you don't want them to be too far apart in age then you will have to evaluate if its something that is worth being together for. If you feel really passionate about it and he is a solid no than it isn't fair to either of you to sacrifice how you feel. But it has to be a joint decision. A child shouldn't be born into a family that isn't on the same page. Good luck, and I really hope it works out either way!!! ♥

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Jodi - posted on 08/14/2013

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He's only 20. He is REALLY young and having children are a huge responsibility. He may not be very good at looking ahead at the future, and right now, all he can see is the here and now. I think this does need to be a conversation, especially if you are planning on getting married. However, there is the possibility that he might change his mind one day.

Natasha - posted on 08/13/2013

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I know we are young, and neither of us want another one now, our son wasnt planned, i had been told since i was 15 that i probably wouldnt be able to get pregnant, let alone carry to full term, so i want as many children as God will allow me to have.No we may not be able to conceive another child but I atleast want to know there is a possibility down the road for us, I do not want our son to be an only child. And no he hasn't given me a reason, he just says he's not sure he wants anymore.

Michelle - posted on 08/13/2013

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You are both far too young to do anything permanent. You also have plenty of time so don't push it. He may change his mind in a few years.
Has he given you his reasons for not wanting any more?

Natasha - posted on 08/13/2013

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And also I would never "trick" him and get pregnant on purpose. I've been on birth control since I had our son, and we still may have another on the way. And I do not wish to get my tubes tied and don't want him to get "fixed" either.

Natasha - posted on 08/13/2013

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I am 21 my fiancee is 20, we have a 1 yr old son and may have another on the way

Michelle - posted on 08/13/2013

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Discuss it. Having children has to be a mutual decision. if you "trick" him and fall pregnant without his knowledge then you take the risk of him leaving. If you just agree with him and don't have any more then you may eventually resent that he "prevented" you from having more children.
Maybe arrange a day and time to discuss it and both come with a list of pros and cons.

You haven't said how old you are or how many you have already. That has a big bearing on the decision as well.

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