Help!! single mother suffering

Kayla - posted on 10/22/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




My name is Kayla and im 20 years old. I have a 17 month old and im a single mother. I work retail but my paychecks and hours change weekly. I am struggling with bills and to keep a roof over our head. I do get a little bit of government assistance such as WIC, foodstamps, and vendor for daycare. But i dont know what else to do. I have tried looking for other options for assistance but apparently since I live in the state of Missouri, there are not many sources. I have even looked for ways to get personal grants online for single mothers who need help with with bills etc., but you have to pay for a processing fee, or they just bring up pages for you to apply to go back to school. Im afraid I will get scammed. I cant afford to go back to college and im afraid if I do I wont have time for my son and I will be to stressed out to handle it. Does anyone have any ideas and ways to help? I would appreciate it any type of advice. Thanks!

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Stephanie - posted on 12/12/2012




My name is Stephanie piodos murillo 34 yrs old .Im a single mother .I dont have a job because im still looking but I cant find bec.its hard for looking a job here in the Philippines .I dont know how i can support my kids .by now my sister is supporting a liitle but not enough .I want someone who will give me a livelihood to start our life ... I would appreciate if thers any who will help...

Devicia - posted on 10/23/2010




i don't know how things work over there but is the dad a live but can you not call child support so the dad can pay his way, and i think you should just try eating bread for lunch and dinner until you save a bit of money i know it mite be hard but i'm 24 and have 2 kids sometimes i eat the same thing just to save money, i spend more time looking for a job then being with my kids at time i do find it hard but when i pray the lord always answer my prayers. you can eamil me anytime you want

Leah Jeppson - posted on 10/22/2010




It is good you are wary of scams, they are so prevelant these days. I agree to look for a better paying job, maybe even consider a big move somewhere you have a friend who could help. Sometimes a fresh start is what you need. But my main advice, is to consider going back to school. You can get a good amount of money in pell grants to get through school long enough to get a good paying and stable job. Me and my husband were able to live off the pell grants and his part time job, food stamps and wic long enough for him to get an education that we can know rely on, even in hard times, to bring in enough and a little spare for our family. Its not a huge income by any means, but it is better than worrying about where your next meal is going to come from. Start at a county college, that is were I got my associates degree and I have two kids! So i understand a little of what you are going through. It was so hard to give up time with my kids to do well in school, but if you think of the long term benefits to you and your son especially, to me the benefits of a few years of sacrifice now far out weighed the down sides. In this economy it is also a good time to go to school, cause there are not many good jobs available either. And when your son is in high school, wondering about college, you will have set a good example for him of the importance of getting a good education. I did it, and it was hard, but i know it was worth it.There are lots and lots of great scholarships out there for single moms as well. Scholarships that come without any attachements to them. Just good people wanting to help a person in need. My church directed me to as a good resource for applying for scholarships. It takes time for fill them out, but again, its worth it. I hope this helps. You can do it, have faith in yourself. One of the greatest side benefits to me going back to school, is it gave me a feeling of dignity and self respect. You get so caught up in the everything your not, that when you go back to school, as intimidating of a prospect it is, if you really put the time and effort into it, you realize and gain a sense of self worth that is priceless. It has really helped me feel so much better about myself, I was never a straight a student by any means, but it did help me feel important. I wanted to share this with you because as i read your story i was reminded of it. The lady that spoke at my graduation was in your same exact position, literally. Except she was homeless and living in shelters. She picked up a brochure at one of the shelters about going back to school, not ever thinking she would actually do it, because no one in her family had ever gone to college before and she didn't feel like she could go with her kids. But she ended up just going to the my county college and talking to councellor about her options and they were able to help her immensely with scholarships, grants and even helped her pick a direction to take in her schooling. She eventually went on to finish not only a four year degree after her time at TCCD, but went all the way through law school and finished. She proved to herself and everyone in her same situation that anything is possible, truly. I hope this helps and isn't to preachy. Don't lose faith.

Tah - posted on 10/22/2010




if you are single with a child and making little more than minimum wage, you need to go down to the schools and you will most likely get grants and qualify for other financial aid. You may have to spend some time away for him but if you finish school now while he is young, you will be in a much better place when he gets older and the bills really start piling up...

Laura - posted on 10/22/2010




Go to organizations such as Salvation Army, Goodwill, or United Way. You can also call 611, which is like 411, but it connects you to United Way and they tell you about organizations in your community (you give them your zip code.) I am sorry for your difficult time right now, but know that you will make it through, and if you're not praying already- start!

Kasha - posted on 10/22/2010




I am also a young mother with a young baby and the older they get, the more expensive they get, right!! When I found myself struggling, I began looking for another job with set hours and better pay. I dont live in Missouri so I am not sure how the economy is out there but I would definately search for a more secure job! Good luck

Sarah - posted on 10/22/2010




Hey, i am sorry to hear about what you are going through...Do you get child support? Also, i have heard that with A pell grant that it has helped a lot of people out. You could also look at starting an in home day care or home bussiness

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