help with cranky 2 month old

Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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for the past week between 8-11 at night my 2 month old daughter gets really tired because she barely naps during the day, and she gets so super cranky that she just doesn't stop crying, even when she's hungry and i try to nurse her she'll just eat a tiny bit and then go back to crying, and i let her cry for a minute and then she eats again for a minute and there starts the endless cycle of frustration for both of us! i know that baths and massages for a nighttime routine make for a happier baby that sleeps better, but my baby is far from textbook. she hates baths, and hates lotions and massages. dimming the lights doesn't seem to help much either. any other suggestions?

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Jennifer - posted on 09/25/2010

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i've started putting her down earlier and earlier, but the problem is i'll get her to sleep and then as soon as i'm laying her down i see she has a dirty diaper so i change her and she wakes up and repeat like4 times :-S

Sarh - posted on 09/22/2010

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Actually bathing and then massaging a baby under 5 months over stimulates them. My son would get like this at bedtime. I had to start nursing him at about the time he would normally fuss. For us the key was to start feeding before he fussed! Also, try to stay as calm and relaxed as possible, baby can sense everything you are feeling!

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When my son gets too tired it is hard for him to get to sleep and he acts the same way. So I do the the following things - swaddle him up good and tight, turn off the lights, turn on the cieling fan (the white noise is helpful) and sit in the rocking chair. I just rock and hold him in a quiet dark room, gentle making shhhh noises. before long he settles down. Now at 2 and half, when he is having a rough evening, he requests to be swaddled!
The techniques are basically the same as "Happiest Baby on the Block" with the addition of doing it all in a DARK room. I found removing as much stimulation as possible really helps.

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Alex - posted on 09/25/2010

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the only thing i can recommend for the nappy, unless u do what sum mums do and only change her at night if its poos unless its upsetting them, i usually feed her get half way through the feed then burp and change her nappy then finish the feed, shes unlikly to go again by the end and the finish feed calms her down, then pop her in her bed often awake is better cause they learn that that is there sleeping place.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/25/2010

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start a routine. pick a time that you want to make her bedtime if u want her asleep by lets say 10 every night start this at 9 Change her diaper and put her into a sleeper. Get a blanket ready to swaddle her in. Grab a book and read to her in your arms. Then get her food ready and try to put her to sleep. Do this every night it takes about a month but this is worth it. The first 2 weeks are the hardest but when you get her into a routine you get "you time" and every mommy needs that. I learned you dont have to change their diaper Everytime they wake up. Unless its poo. If the diaper feels like she has only gone once you don't need to change it. There are also some good tips about sleep and routine on www.babycenter.com

Elizabeth - posted on 09/25/2010

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are you breast feeding or formula feeding? If you are breast feeding look at what you have been eating something might be upsetting her tummy. Or at her 2 month did u mention it to the Dr?
If it is from not being able to sleep swaddle her in a nice warm blanket right before you feed her and put her in a calming light, rock her back and forth while you feed her and sing to her. There are times my little one would be upset and that calmed her down She falls fast asleep to "You are my Sunshine".
Try your hardest not to get frustrated cause the more frustrated you are she can feel it and it will upset her even more.
If she really hates lotions try to use the lavender sleepy time lotion on your hands or somewhere close to her to where she can smell it. And have you tried taking a bath with her? It might make her feel safer with mommy in the tub. Try to get a fan or something for white noise. I put a fan in my baby's room and my daughter started sleeping better she was about 2 almoat 3 months.
just a few sugguestions.

Stacey - posted on 09/25/2010

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all i can say is realy u need to fined her rutien out and get her food ready for then so she dunt get to hungry and not eat same for her bed time u need to do the same get her in her bed b4 she starts to get stressed and that and hope to best that works u just gotta get use to the hole rutien for her time everything i use to wright the times my boys got up so i knew rufly on when he was goin to wake up hope this helps xx

Alex - posted on 09/25/2010

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my little one is 2 months and she was really really cranky in the evenings and i was crying i was so frustrated i thought it was wind and it wasnt and it wasnt colic she just seemed to be like that, so after alot of thought i got kinda tough and set her a routine, i bath her at 6pm and yea she quite often screams and cries through the bath and when putting her clothes on, then i feed her a good big feed and then i put her down, it did take me about 2 days to get her to go to sleep i did the let her cry for 3-5 minutes and then go in and rub her tummy or sing to sooth her, then leave when she settles then do that again, its really hard for the forst day or two cause u feel bad but it really worked and to top it off as soon as i started the strict routine she stopped waking every 2 hours and would sleep from 7-3 am then from 3-6/7 it was brilliant. oh and if u put her down at like 11 now i would put her down half an hour earlier every day i started at 10 pm and one day put her down at 9 30 then the next day at 9 till i got to 7 pm, she is hardly ever cranky in the evenings now :) good luck

Jessica - posted on 09/23/2010

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My son would not sleep during the day as a newborn either! The day he came home he stopped sleeping during the day and still woke in the middle of the night! I was lucky in the fact that he wasn't ever much of a fusser tho! I have always been a fan of self soothing and from the begining! With my niece all i heard was how she WOULDN"T sleep! and she would cry if someone wasn't holding her and she wouldn't sleep in her bed! It was all because that is what she was used to...she was use to being held for naps and put in her swing at bed! What I would suggest is that you figure out the best time to feed her before she starts to get fussy! Then swaddle her nice and tightly so that she can't get her arms free and so that if she moves the blanket will not come up over her face. I would go over to my dad's house and wrap my little niece tight enough that she couldn't get free and put her in her bed and sure enough she would go to sleep and in her bed and ON HER OWN! It is possibly the only way you are going to be able to do it...I agree with Hannah BUT some infants get extremely use to having someone put them to sleep especially if you have to do it on a daily basis! That happened with my niece and I had to teach them to break her of it and themselves! I would try and get her to take at least one nap extra nap during the day even if it is less then an hour...just swaddle her and lay her in her bed...Crying has never hurt a baby before and you would never be considered wrong for letting her cry! and they have these amazing swaddle blankets at Target they are 4 for $30 and they are extra big and work great! I also believe that if you went into the hospital or the dr even they would love to help you master your swaddling technique...I couldn't figure it out with my son...but worked with the nurses when my sister had my niece and have taught my dad and his girlfriend so that they can get her to bed. I also agree with Sarh and that you need to stay as calm as possible b/c baby will sense that and get even more frustrated. It takes us all time and we aren't perfect either! And remember there is no such thing as a text book baby...if babies were easy they would come with a how to guide but they don't bc no infant or child is going to act or develop the same...all the books are based on IDEAS!

Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2010

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no it's not colic, she had that before and it's gone now. did the whole mylicon and gripe water and everything too. she just gets really tired so she gets really cranky and just like she wants me to bring her milk, she wants me to bring her sleep, and i don't really know how, other than stroking her head, which only works when she's NOT crying :-/ i'm just at a loss, really.

Sarah - posted on 09/22/2010

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Sounds like your little one might have colic. What you are doing is all you can really do when they have colic. You can try to give her Mylicon gas drop & see if that helps. All of the crying sometimes gives them gas. Does it sound like a painful cry, a tired cry or a hungry cry?

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