Hitting Quarter Life with Two Kids...

Devon - posted on 09/08/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi everyone, I'm Devon and I hit 25 years old this past April (09). I was 9 months pregnant with my second child on my birthday. It was flashbacks to five years ago when I was 8 months pregnant with my son on my 20th birthday. I also have a step son who turns six in October. Most people I know got married in the last two years and are just now having their first child. All at once, it seems...there were 20 other women I knew all pregnant at the same time! I love being a mom and I wouldn't change it for the world, but part of me has a hard time knowing I gave up my college years, my early twenties, and time to get settled before having kids. While my friends were entering their sophmore years in college, I was figuring out how to be a wife and a mommy to a 5 month old all at the same time. I've taken 2 boys to kindergarden this year (my step son, less than a year older than my son), and had my 2nd child. I am trying to find other moms at a similar point in life, because hitting quarter life as a mom has changed my outlooks on everything. I'm finding it harder and harder to relate with my single and/or childless friends and I don't know how to stop that process. I don't want to lose those friends who understand, because even when they think they do, they really don't.

another part of me is excited that I'm a young mom, because I think I will relate to my kids better as they get older. My mother was 35 when I came along and the years between us were an uncrossable canyon. I love that I will still be "young" when my kids go off to college and start lives and families of their own. Knowing I will most likely be healthy and fit enough to chase my grandchildren around for years to come is great. My grandparents were well into their late 60's when I was BORN, in their 70's when I wanted to run around the state fair for 10+hours.

there are a lot of wonderful things about being a young mom, but there are a lot of hard parts as well. Having all my children before my late 20s is a trip for sure! Anyone else in the same boat? I'm new to this circle of moms thing, so help me out if you can! Thanks for any and all responses



Esmeralda - posted on 09/08/2009




im a right there with you! i COMPLETELY understand.

i was 19 when i got married,and that same week we found out we were pregnant! i had to put my college on hold after my daughter was born,and she was 2 when i finally started taking classes online again. now i go to school on campus 4 hours a day.(im 22 with a 3 year old daughter now).

it seems within these past 6 months people i know and went to high school with are just now getting married,buying houses,finishing college,and STARTING to THINK about children.

and ive been married almost 4 years,with a 3 year old daughter!

my feelings go back and forth between how i feel about what ive missed and how i feel about my love for being a wife and mother. i wouldnt give up my life for anything!! ever! but i still get these feelings and thoughts i cant really express without sounding horrible or unappreciative with what i have now.

So...youre not alone ;)

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