Hitting Quarter Life with Two Kids...

Devon - posted on 09/08/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Hi everyone, I'm Devon and I hit 25 years old this past April (09). I was 9 months pregnant with my second child on my birthday. It was flashbacks to five years ago when I was 8 months pregnant with my son on my 20th birthday. I also have a step son who turns six in October. Most people I know got married in the last two years and are just now having their first child. All at once, it seems...there were 20 other women I knew all pregnant at the same time! I love being a mom and I wouldn't change it for the world, but part of me has a hard time knowing I gave up my college years, my early twenties, and time to get settled before having kids. While my friends were entering their sophmore years in college, I was figuring out how to be a wife and a mommy to a 5 month old all at the same time. I've taken 2 boys to kindergarden this year (my step son, less than a year older than my son), and had my 2nd child. I am trying to find other moms at a similar point in life, because hitting quarter life as a mom has changed my outlooks on everything. I'm finding it harder and harder to relate with my single and/or childless friends and I don't know how to stop that process. I don't want to lose those friends who understand, because even when they think they do, they really don't.



another part of me is excited that I'm a young mom, because I think I will relate to my kids better as they get older. My mother was 35 when I came along and the years between us were an uncrossable canyon. I love that I will still be "young" when my kids go off to college and start lives and families of their own. Knowing I will most likely be healthy and fit enough to chase my grandchildren around for years to come is great. My grandparents were well into their late 60's when I was BORN, in their 70's when I wanted to run around the state fair for 10+hours.



there are a lot of wonderful things about being a young mom, but there are a lot of hard parts as well. Having all my children before my late 20s is a trip for sure! Anyone else in the same boat? I'm new to this circle of moms thing, so help me out if you can! Thanks for any and all responses



~Devon~

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Esmeralda - posted on 09/08/2009

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im a right there with you! i COMPLETELY understand.

i was 19 when i got married,and that same week we found out we were pregnant! i had to put my college on hold after my daughter was born,and she was 2 when i finally started taking classes online again. now i go to school on campus 4 hours a day.(im 22 with a 3 year old daughter now).



it seems within these past 6 months people i know and went to high school with are just now getting married,buying houses,finishing college,and STARTING to THINK about children.



and ive been married almost 4 years,with a 3 year old daughter!



my feelings go back and forth between how i feel about what ive missed and how i feel about my love for being a wife and mother. i wouldnt give up my life for anything!! ever! but i still get these feelings and thoughts i cant really express without sounding horrible or unappreciative with what i have now.



So...youre not alone ;)

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