holding their own bottles?

LoriAnn - posted on 09/30/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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i have twin 5.5onth old daughters, they dont really seem interested in holding their own bottles....they may grab at it but wont hold it....will they start to do this on their own or should it be taught...and how do u teach them to do it....ive tried slowly letting go but theyll just allow it to fall outa their mouth

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Tarin - posted on 09/30/2009

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I can't remember when my daughter started holding her own bottle, but I do remember she did it when she was ready. They'll get the hang of it. I can't imagine trying to feed twins while shopping. You must be superwoman!

Brenda - posted on 09/30/2009

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i know its a pain and especially with 2 i could only guess. but they need that one and one bonding time. its great for them. they will soon enough. around 8 mth

Shauna - posted on 09/30/2009

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My son would not ever hold his bottle. He acted like he didn't know how, he wouldn't even grab for it. I would put it in his mouth and his arms just stayed to his side. When he saw his bottle hed open his mouth but wouldn't grab for it at all. He didn't want anything to do with his bottle. And all that was at 7 months. I breastfed til he was almost 6 months and then he got formula til he was a yr old. hes 14months now. But At 7 months he just started not even taking a bottle. he wouldn't drink out of it anymore, he would have sippy cups throughout the day, with water or formula, bc he wouldn't take a bottle, and he would hold that just fine..Im still not sure why he wouldn't hold his bottle, but he held his sippy cup. So i took him off the bottle completely, at 7months and now he just drinks from his sippy. They will start holding it when they are ready, they may just like it when you hold it for them. Thats how my son was.

Mellody - posted on 09/30/2009

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i dont think its a bad thing at all that you want your babies to hold their own bottle. Im a single mum, and although id love to spend all day holding and feeding my daughter, its just not possible. Sometimes you have to be able to give them a bottle and let them feed themselves. I never got anything accompilshed untill my little girl was able to. My daughter started holding her own when she was really small.. maybe 3 months?. at first she could only hold it for a little while. and then she'd get distracted and she'd lose grip or let go to grab something else. when shed move it'd fall out of her mouth and shed fuss. so i held it with her untill she got a little older. And then she started to learn Cause and affect, she was able to learn that if she moved or took her hand away it would fall, and she wouldnt get anymore.. this helped her learn how to get it back to her mouth too. Now she's about 8 1/2 months old and she doesnt like to have her bottle held for her. she'd rather do it herself. it gives them a sence of independance and it helps them learn control. so dont feel bad about wanting them to learn to hold their bottle. i know bonding is very important, and feeding your baby is a very good way to do so.. but there are so many other ways that you bond with your baby, i dont think you need to worry about it. Give yourself a break. let them learn a new skill. All 3 of you will get something out of it lol.



Especially if there is two little ones. you need 2 arms to hold and feed a baby, and youve got 2 babies.. unless you can grow another pair..i wouldnt worry!.

Sara - posted on 09/30/2009

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my daughter did it at 4 or 5 months old.but these things take time just help them they will get it. :)

Christina - posted on 09/30/2009

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I know you want a break because i could only imagine 2 at a time. in my belief as long as you are there with them when they start to hold thier own bottle and stay with them then i don't see the harm. My lil girl started holding her own bottle with her hands, then using her feet to propt the end of it up. i thought it was the cutest thing~! She was about 6 months old. But as long as u are there to watch them hold their own bottles i think it is the cutest thing~! Good luck, they will pick it up on their own, but you can help guide them~!

Amber - posted on 09/30/2009

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That's great that you do hold them as much as you can. I didn't mean to imply that you didn't, just that it is sooo important. If you need more info please visit my website, I also make baby slings and it may help you hold one in the sling while tending to the other so they both feel they are getting your attention. I make them all in my home. Contact me if you are interested:) solfulslings.com

Brooke - posted on 09/30/2009

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Don't worry about it. When she is ready to hold it on her own she will. My son did the same thing you are explaining, he just recently started wanting to hold it on his own and he's 9 months old.

Jasmine - posted on 09/30/2009

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It sounds like they are not ready just yet. No biggie...you can try to get them to hold it, but in the end they will do it all in their own time. My daughter can be picky b/c at times she likes to hold her bottle and others she doesn't. But when they are ready you will miss holding it for them. My daughter often pushes my hands away when she drinks.

Shayna - posted on 09/30/2009

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I cant even imagine what its like having to feed 2! I allowed mine to hold the bottle but he stayed in my arms, I have never left him to eat on his own. The bonding is amazing, I could only breast feed for a month so I sucked up as much bonding as possible! :] enjoy it.

LoriAnn - posted on 09/30/2009

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i dont plan on not doing it...even if they did learn to hold it i would still hold them and look them in the eyes like your suppose to ....i just feel terrible when i cannot feed both at once....i have bumbos but sometimes one will want to be held while being fed...and id like to give the one on one attention to the child who needs it at the time....and during walks in stores where its hard while alone to feed both by myself or soemthing id like to be able to hand them their bottles for that time being

Shayna - posted on 09/30/2009

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I think they will just get the hang of it. My son couldn't keep his hands still, he would try to hold it but his hands would just drop it. Eventually he got the hang of it and started doing it on his own. He was about 6 or 7 months. My stepson started doing it when he was about 7 months also.

Amber - posted on 09/30/2009

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why should they hold their own? This is a very personal and intimate time that should be used to engage communication and trust. Bottle fed babies who are taught to old their own bottles at such a young age miss out on that. Breast feeding is best and I support that. But please dont miss out on such an important time in your childs life to be engaging:)

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