How can I find young, mature mommies like me to make lasting friendships?

Raven - posted on 04/23/2013 ( 38 moms have responded )

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I am 21, married to my soul mate, and we have an 8 month old baby girl. I love being an at home mom, and part-time student. Although I am super grateful for my beautiful family and for the love many people in the world never get to experience, I am finding myself a little lonely during the day while my husband works. I have been longing for a platonic friendship. I am very open minded, a little on the awkward anxious side, and can sometimes act like a person well beyond my age (ie. looking for deals when grocery shopping, love antiques and garage sales, love to listen to elders, love jazz and classical music etc.) I love to do what "young" people do at my age too like going to bars, movies, and hanging out etc. But im not much of a party bug. Because of my awkward nature, it can be intimidating trying to make friends who are near my age but are mature. What do I do? Will my husband be my only best friend forever?

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Ayanda - posted on 04/25/2013

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Yep i know exactly what you talikng about!!! it really isn't easy finding mature mommies to make lasting friendships with, i mean im 28 and i know what it feels like tobe called a gramdma lol. Im always cooped up @home bored stiff, have places to go and things to do but have no one like me, even the people i work with are just to different from me, which sucks!!

Hillary - posted on 04/24/2013

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Online is the best place to look! Well unless you want an in person friend then online sometimes doesn't always work :P
I'm 20, stay at home mom to a 3 week old ! :)
I consider myself to be mature, I love looking for sales and coupons, like classical music, LOVE garage sales! But I also act like a teenager sometimes too, I like going out, shopping, etc.
P.S. your husband won't be your only best friend forever no worries :)

TIFFANY - posted on 04/23/2013

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i understand i feel the same maybe we can be friends ricanmama143@gmial.com im tiffany and have 3 kids and engaged to the father of my kids

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Amaris - posted on 05/01/2013

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I know that feeling, im a mommy of 3 wonderful kids and for some reason I don't click with girls my age that are moms as well. its hard to find friends or have something in common these days . the only nice mature people I meet are at church , why cant I meet any here on post?lol

Tiyauna - posted on 04/30/2013

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lol its like you have the same life as me. Im 21 and have a one year old daughter, im a stay at home mom and im also a college student. lol I live in TX

Samantha - posted on 04/30/2013

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I'm the same way but I'm 20 also trying to find mature friends where do you live? I live in Wisconsin my kids are 1 and 2

Segale - posted on 04/29/2013

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Both you and your husband can meet nice young couples like yourself at church.

AJ - posted on 04/29/2013

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Hi, I'm sure you'll find a friend soon. How about joining a club or taking some community art classes such as drawing or painting or dance. People who practice art generally like to prattle and that could lead to something.

Cindy - posted on 04/28/2013

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I find myself in a similar situation. I had my daughter at 22. My husband and I both do not have many friends. In High School I had quite a few friends, but as I got older that circle got smaller and smaller. When I had my daughter, I pretty much lost the majority of my friends. They were interested in wasting their time doing stupid immature things, I was enrolling in College trying to raise my daughter. They like clubbing and drinking all hours of the night, calling in sick to work to go do whatever and I just prefer to read, or go to thrift shops, yard sales, flea markets and Starbucks. Eventually it gets better. Whether through social sites like this one or Facebook, or by taking your child to the park you will find that you will meet other mommies who are in the shape boat as you. In the meantime, just be you and remember that your husband really is a great friend and will listen when you need someone to talk to. Good luck to you :)

D - posted on 04/28/2013

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I don't think you'll be friendless forever, but you have to realize not every woman or mother is mature, and not every female is going to respect that your in a loving relationship and have a beautiful family you enjoy as well. I understand 100% because I'm the same way...I'm not married yet but I've been in a relationship with my fiancé for 4 1/2 years we have two kids....I work and go to school while being a full time mother and lover. I'm not a club hopper but I go out sometimes but mainly do what grown mature women do. I cant speak for you but It makes me feel like..."how would my kids feel growing up with their mom being a buck wild party girl ? lol to make a long drawn OUT EXPLANATION SHORTER their are friendships out there that your searching for you just have to find someone whose on your level. And you never know.... that may turn into your best friend.

Jeannette - posted on 04/28/2013

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Same problem here. I am married and my husband works. I have a 3 year old girl and I am not really in sync with most of my friends. I live in Virginia but you are welcome to message me if you like or you can find me on fb. Jeannette White.

Andrea - posted on 04/28/2013

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I have the same problem. Except no husband. If you would like to chat we can!! Iam open to meeting nice ladies as friends. Thanks for your post

Ty - posted on 04/26/2013

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I like California too...but...I'm originally from Michigan and I have lived in a ton of other states, but my Fiance is refusing to leave :-/ I am thinking though once my kids are grown I am going to travel the world! Starting with the United States :-)

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Ayanda - posted on 04/26/2013

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You know change is always good!! and meeting new people from different backgrounds and different experiences is also gr8!! well if you not gona move then atleast you can travel, see what's out there!! lolest well guess we also stuck here for now, unless something comes up for us soon.

Raven - posted on 04/26/2013

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i hear ya! I would LOVE to move to a new place, i mean i love california, the weather is perfect! but i just like new settings every so often. my husband love it here soo much , he already said, "babe, i will compromise with you for anything, BUT leaving california" lol so i guess im stuck here for ever lol

Ayanda - posted on 04/26/2013

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Not sure hey, but we have been checking out work opportunities abroad, you know something new, in a new place..

Raven - posted on 04/24/2013

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Thanks Hillary! Awww a 3 month old :) I think online can be a great place to get to know a friend then meet one day. What does everyone else think?

Raven - posted on 04/24/2013

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Dang, Ty sorry to hear that :( What state do you live in, if you dont mind me asking?

Ty - posted on 04/24/2013

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wow I can totally relate I wish I could make suggestions but I am still searching for that friend myself or friends..lol

I am 26 and stay at home mom of two, girl 7 boy 2 months, and engaged. I am also a student. My Fiance has the same friends from high school but i moved to where he is and had to start over! It's been seven years and I have only cultivated one friend! She is single and a party girl! So I am still on the hunt!

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Treattyson - posted on 04/23/2013

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I hear ya I am 24 and I have 3 wonderful girls! age 1, 2, and 5 a wonderful husband and 2 dogs and a cat!! I have friends and none of them have kids, they are still partying and playing around! I have been wondering if I will ever meet a responsible mom? idk but I always look at sales at the grocery store! my husband calls me slow! but hey if it saves us some money ill take all the time I need to find the on sale stuff lol if u figure something out let me know!

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