How can I get my 23 month old son to stop hitting?

Kathryn - posted on 06/23/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son hits, over and over. I've tried telling him it hurts. I've tried putting him in time out. I've tried ignoring the behavior. Nothing has worked so far, but it is getting out of control. I could understand if he only hit when he was angry, but he does it constantly. He kicks the entire time I am changing his diaper. Any suggestions?

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Jackie - posted on 06/23/2009

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when my almost 3 year old used to hit me. i would just start crying after awhile he felt so bad he stopped.

Jaclyn - posted on 06/23/2009

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oh and similar for the diaper changing wait till he is done kicking, i cant change you till you stop kicking, cause alot of kids would rather play and the longer it takes the more they are willing to give in. pick the same phrase of wording to REPEAT AND REPEAT till they get it!

Jaclyn - posted on 06/23/2009

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I took a love and logic couse, and work in a Child care and the consistent consicquence, such as "uh oh, how sad, now we cant play cause your hitting" then a time out and sit with him and continue to say we cant play if your hitting, are you done hitting, and BE consistent! it works at Child care cause we arent aloud to leave unattended or physically hurt them. it does take time but it is also just a testing thing to see what is ok and not or how far till i get in troube thing. sympathy and calmness is key my own kids however took a little more firm tone for them to know i was serious. and i used more YOU WILL NOT HIT! and time out :) hope it helps.

Jocelyn - posted on 06/23/2009

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while i can't help you entirely, i will tell you to sit on you son when you change his diaper, that way you are out of kicking range. now i don't mean crush him lol, just lightly rest your weight (or hover) facing his legs, and your back to his face, knees on either side of him. or clamp one of his legs between your knees, hold the other leg with your hand and now you have one hand free to wipe with.
for the rest of the hitting, if you are out of ideas, the only thing i could think of is to let him get hit by someone... maybe find another child who is a hitter (same age mind you) and let him get hit. might help him realize it's not a nice feeling.

Jenni - posted on 06/23/2009

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I had the ame problem with my daughter, i was putting her in her room but not closing the door, i spoke to the Maternal Nurse and she told me to close the door for about a minute. it only took 5 goes and now she doesnt do it anymore.

User - posted on 06/23/2009

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how long did you trying ignoring it for? It takes three days to break a habit so you need to put up with it and ignore it completely for 3 whole days, my son did the same and it seems like a lifetime but its worth it!

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