How can i get my daughter from being so SPOIL is poppin her the wrong way to go????

Terricka - posted on 10/06/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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She throws fits she is only One she HITS already but even when i say NO she falls out but is poppin her the rite answer wat should i do

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Jillian - posted on 10/06/2009

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My humble opinion is that hitting is NEVER the answer. Try reading The Happiest Toddler on the Block. Some of the stuff seems really out there, but I've been using it with my stubborn little boy and it's really working! Also, ignoring bad behavior and not giving in to fits helps. One of the hardest things is making sure you're not getting into a power struggle with your child - no one wins when this happens! I have to constantly check myself to make sure I'm not the one being stubborn :) I just think of it this way: I worked for 7 years with severely handicapped preschoolers and I wasn't able to hit them! If I could not pop a kid who wasn't mine, I can manage to not pop my own baby!

Tara - posted on 10/06/2009

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Children are like sponges. Set an example for her. Act the way you want to see her act, talk the way you want to hear her talk. And as always be firm, but not too firm, shes only one? ALL children have fits, you just have to let her know its unacceptable and you will not give in. BUt children do throw them at times and we really cant punish them for it IE theyre tired or hungry or simply cannot communicate their needs. A child should never be punished or ignored for this. I try and teach my daughter patience. i let her know if she calms down and lets me know what she wants, this is the way to go. I try my best to instill patience in her because lets face it, children are not equipped with this and as their parents its our duty to teach them any valuable traits they will need in life. Talk to her, get down to her level and look her in the eyes. Youd be surprised at how much they actually do understand. My daughter could understand simple direction at that age. When youre trying to teach her not to hit you really shouldnt hit her...She hits and then you hit and say no hitting? It doesnt make any logical sense what-so-ever. There are many serious side effects that come with spanking and I urge you to look at them closely.

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Brandy - posted on 10/06/2009

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I don't think hitting a 1 year old is going to teach her anything except maybe that it's an acceptable thing to do if you are frustrated or mad. She is only 1. Just be patient, ignore the fits. If she is giving attitude, give her time-outs. She is at the age where she needs to test your reactions to her actions and if you are giving her one that is harder to understand like hitting or yelling she will keep trying to get you to do it so she can try to understand it. Instead, ignore the tantrums and she will see no reaction to that behaviour and will lose interest in them. Also, make sure you give her praise for the good things she does and clap and congradulate on new things she learns so she understands how to get that response from you and she will strive to do those things to get that positive attention from you. Good luck.

Emily - posted on 10/06/2009

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My daughter is 2 and shes super spoiled she loves her cartoons and getting her way but I find that ignoring her and giving it about 30mins and if she dont stop its no cartoons stuff she likes the most, i cut it out for about a hour or two, away to show her its not accpectable and she will lose things if she keeps it up. So good luck and God Bless you and your little one!

Nadya - posted on 10/06/2009

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when she throws her tantrum act like u dont see her, if she hits then punish her but at the same time u have to be calm and talk to her in a firm voice to let her knw ur serious. put her in activities or better yet daycare so she can be away from u a few hours and do things with her that she can learn how to do herself. My son is 4 and it works he was the same way

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You are her role model. If you hit her then that tells her it's ok to hit. Ignore her tantrums, it's just a phase.

Christy - posted on 10/06/2009

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i only pop my boys' mouth when they are being sassy. if i say no and they give me attitude or start disobeying with a sassy attitude, they know its coming. they dont even think of being sassy anymore and its helped them become so polite and know how to talk to adults with respect. its a pop to get thier attention, not enough to do declare it as abuse, lol

Lindsay - posted on 10/06/2009

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If you do, you will only encourage her to continue the hitting. She will learn from you and mimic what you do. If she sees that it is not accepted by you, the behavior will slow down. I'd simply continue to say no and redirect her attention to something else. As she gets older, add a time-out method. It's very affective.

Cherie - posted on 10/06/2009

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my personal opinion, sometimes popping is necessary. But you could try a firm grip-her-up and see if that works. And I know its not easy, but if u dont feel like its serious enough to pop her, let her cry. Either way you're gettin the point across that you're the boss and its YOUR way, not hers. She'll get it, but she is definately going to try you =)

Alisha - posted on 10/06/2009

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first time my 19 month old threw one like that (she was 16 months), I got down on the floor like her, started kicking my feet, hitting the floor with my hands and faked crying. She ended up looking at me like I was weird, stopped and went back to playing. You could also try ignoring her when she does it, and when she see's that you're not paying attention to her, she'll probably stop. It works with both my 19 month old and 5 year old. I never let her get to the point where she's so hysterical she's gasping for air though, kwim? hth

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