How can I get my daughter to stop screaming her head off to get her set for bed time?

Ashlee - posted on 04/06/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




Ever since day one, my almost 3 year old daughter and I have shared a room. This isn't the problem though, the problem is now that I have been trying to get her on a sleeping schedule and her into bed early, I will lay her in her bed at a decent time after dinner, getting her cleaned up or bath, get her in her bed, read a story, kiss and hug. Before I walk out of the door and crack it behind me, she starts screaming and crying her head off for me to stay in there with her. I don't give into her just so she can fall asleep because I just let her cry (as mean as it sounds) until she falls asleep.

This is where the problem is, because I lived with my mom and grandmother for the beginning of her life, when she would wake up in the middle of the night, or where she would not stop crying when I would put her down for bed when she was about a year old, my grandma would come in the room and get her and let her go in her room, watch TV all night, etc. Now that I am moving with my fiance, I feel like it's my grandma's fault why I can't get her on a stable sleeping schedule because her body is programmed to be up until 2-3a.m. How can I break her of this because nothing I've tried seems to work?


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Joy - posted on 04/13/2009




Since she is old enough to understand a rewards system, maybe you could try setting something in place. Tell her that if she goes to sleep without crying, she will get a reward in the morning. It could be something small like a sticker she likes or a smiley face on a board to show her how well she's doing.

Jenna - posted on 04/13/2009




Hey, you really are doing great.. Not giving in will work, even tho it may seem hard at first.

It might help if you put her to sleep in there for naps.. it breaks her in so that her new room isn't so scary and she'll figure it out that she's cool.

Keep it up!

Sara - posted on 04/13/2009




you are doing great! consistancy is the answer. I had the same problem with my oldest but just kept to it and now he refuses to even sleep in my room if he's ill and needs my help. what I did was when it was new to the new room, if he was crying and begged me to stay with him, I would stay until he stopped crying then I would walk out. If he started crying again, I told him that this is his new room and he's a big boy. I told him he was safe there and not to worry and I would stay with him till he calmed down. Each time this happened I waited longer before going in there and leaving faster when I did go in. This process took about a week before he didn't need me to go to sleep anymore. he was 2 at the time. Good luck to you!

Taylor - posted on 04/12/2009




You are doing the right thing, when I moved out and put my daughter in her own room I dealt with the same thing. It just taks time, and she will have relapses. Its sounds like you just moved out, I lived with my g-ma too and she did the same thing. I learned not to be mad at her, she did the same thing when I was a kid, it just the gma thing to do. And congrats on getting married!


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