How can i get over my fear of feeding my baby solids?

Sierra - posted on 10/13/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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My baby girl is about 7.5 months. Since about 6 months i have been trying to introduce actual solid foods, like puffs. I have tried them a few times and most of the time she does well but she has choked twice. it has scared me so bad i am too afraid to experiment with any more solids. Everyone tells me i cant just not begin to feed her because i had a scare and alot of people find out how old she is and want to give her a peice of bread or something and are shocked when i tell them she cant eat that kind of stuff yet. i dont know what i would do if something happened to her. she has no teeth. i would love to start getting her used to chewing and learning how to eat solids. how can i overcome my fear?

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Amy - posted on 10/16/2011

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As others have said, you should be fine giving soft solid foods. Two things to keep in mind:
1) The difference between gagging and choking is important. Gagging is noisy. Scary, but the best thing you can do is watch carefully, encourage your child not to panic, and to simply gag the offending food back up - and give smaller/smoother food next time. It's a learning experience for her and you. Scary, but not a huge concern. Choking, on the other hand, is when the airway is *completely* blocked. It's silent, and a choking person may well lose consciousness. This is an emergency. Take home message: if your child is still making noise, it's the time to stay calm and teach, not the time to call an ambulance.
2) Keep in mind that just 'cause a child's teeth haven't broken through yet, doesn't mean they're not there. If you doubt it, stick your finger in there. If and when your child chomps down on it, you'll know the teeth are there! They're just below the gum surface, and can be used to chew. I'm told my brother-in-law as a baby only got his first teeth through by 14 months, by which time he was eating the same as everyone else (OK, maybe not steak )
Good luck! And try and calm down and trust your baby's gag reflex. Noisy gagging = good, learning experience. Silent choking = call an ambulance.

Constance - posted on 10/13/2011

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Soft solid foods are best at this stage. Jars of baby food, mashed potatoes. A friend of mine would give my kids the crust from her pizza even befor they had teeth. Babies will gum most things until it is soft enought to swallow. But you don't want to start with things they have to chew to get it down. Like sucking chewing is learned. You can puree just about anything for her at this point so she can swallow easily. It will keep her from choking and you will keep you saninty.

Terra - posted on 10/18/2011

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Google baby led solids/weening. Babies don't need purees (babies were eating just fine before greedy corporations convinced women that they were the only foods babies could eat). If you wait until they are developmentally ready for solids then you can skip right to finger foods. My son started with cooked pasta, roasted squash "fries", avocado, banana, shredded chicken, etc.

There is a huge difference between choking, which is normally pretty silent, and gagging, which is noisy and scary. When a child really chokes on food their air ways are blocked and they are unable to make noise because you need air to make noise. If a child is making noise then they are not truly choking because their airways are not being blocked.

Ariel - posted on 10/17/2011

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After doing the whole puree food thing I then started with small chunks of very ripe pears or bananas and lentils or tiny noodles that are chewable but also good if my son decides to swallow them whole. You can also try googling baby safe feeders... it's a netted pouch on a handle that you can put any somewhat solid food into for them to chew on... I also started with slices of bananas in this and then halved grapes and popsicles and such in it for him to chew on... great for learning to chew and teething and some hand coordination.

Anna - posted on 10/17/2011

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Every baby develops on their own timetable so your baby might not be ready even if she's 7.5 months. Maybe try to give her something softer like very diluted baby cereal or blended fruit instead of puffs until she's a bit older.

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Kim - posted on 10/19/2011

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I used to lightly toast a piece of bread and give it to my kids to gum, minus the crust. It seems weird to give the whole piece but they would gum it until it dissolved and the odd time they would get a big chunk I would just take it out. It seemed easier for them to eat than a small piece because they almost seemed to "lose" the small pieces which resulted in gagging/choking. I found the toast to not be as sticky as untoasted bread. I would also give them a chunk of steak etc.

Sierra - posted on 10/19/2011

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thats what she is practicing on now. we bought a whole different variety and i taste tested all of them first to see which dissolved faster. but she does great on all of them now. im just trying to take everyones advice and stay calm :)

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What I did at that age was get the gerber puffs that are like fat cheetos... and cut them up. They dissolve fast even if you don't chew, but I wanted them to be a little smaller so *if* she didn't chew, they were small enough to where they'd dissolve before she'd choke.

Sierra - posted on 10/18/2011

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She has had more practice and i think we have it down. she has learned to crawl. I have been going by the guidlines on the gerber packets. i have upgraded her to the crawler stage and cant wait to experiment with a variety of foods now that she can chew. the two times that she chocked only one of them were a silent choke. i have had CPR and the Heimlick (sp) training a few years ago so i know the basics but may decide to take a refresher course. thanks for all your answers!! they have been really helpful!

Hailey - posted on 10/18/2011

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What ever you give her you will be scared so why dont you empower yourself and do a little first aid course?? or try EFT google it, it can help greatly with phobias. Take on bord what people have said to try with weaning, but really this about your fear :)

Darci - posted on 10/17/2011

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I actually think she is too young for foods like puffs any way. I would wait till at least 8 months to introduce those kinds of foods. Just stick with the pureed baby foods for now. I didnt give my first child puffs and things like that somewhere between 8-10 months and at first I was so scared of him choking too that I would break them in half, even though they are already small. My second is 6 months and i just starting pureed foods I couldnt imagine giving him puffs already. way too early. Once your baby is about 8 months I would introduce those solid but soft foods and just keep him on the soft stuff until he has some teeth. I was always worried about choking and still am with a 2 1/2 year old. Just break things up smaller if you are worried until your child gets use to chewing. I choked a lot as a child and thank goodness my dad knew the Heimlich. Something else you could do to ease your worries is take a class through one of the hospitals where you live. Its like a two hour class or so and they teach you what to do on infants, kids, and adults if ever someone is choking and you need to perform the Heimlich. Then maybe you will worry a little less knowing that you will know what to do if it does happen

Brianna - posted on 10/16/2011

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My daughter started eating solids around that time but i started with the gerber stages and followed the stages just because they were designed for the different stages of growth and break up easily and even to this day with my daughter she has teeth i still break everything off in small portions start with soft food that break up really easily like cheerios and things that are that small or start by breaking food up to the size of a cheerio

Erin - posted on 10/16/2011

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I would stick with the soft purees if that's a problem. And try to introduce veggies first since they like the sweet stuff better. It might make it easier. Unfortunately, my 2.5 year old still won't touch solid foods. So the best of luck! Just keep trying and seeing what works.

Shannon - posted on 10/16/2011

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With my daughter, i started off giving her the Mum Mums(little rice crackers)-they dissolve in baby's mouth. My daughter loved them when i started giving them to her at your daughter's age. Hope this helps a little.

Sierra - posted on 10/16/2011

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Thanks everyone!! she has been on pureed foods since about 4 months. i also have introduced the chunkier pureed foods and she had no peoblems. she just couldnt get the gumming down. She shows all the signs that she is ready. she can rock back and forth on her hands and knees, she has perfected her pincer grasp, and gets realy excited and interested in what we are eating. i finnaly just put her in her high chair and put a few of those meltable puffs in front of her and let er feed herself and she did great! it was like an overnight change. im still really cautious and scared when i feed her but atleast i kjnow she has her chewing reflex down! and thank you jami, dipping cheerios in milk sounds like a great idea to soften them up a bit.

Jami - posted on 10/15/2011

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Babies don't need soild food if they are breastfed until closer to 9-12 months. Don't push it. My little girl had no solids or purees until 11.5 months, when she showed signs that she was ready. When you do start, small pieces of soft foods (you can dip cheerios in milk right before giving them to them or cut up banana or avacado and smash it for them)

Kelly - posted on 10/14/2011

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She isn't going to choke on purred fruits, veggies or cereal. I don't know what puffs are but start with rice cereal that is more liquid than solid. Mix in breast milk or formula and make it thin. Things should go just fine. You do not need to introduce finger foods yet. Also still important once you have a child to take an infant CPR class. Probably will not ever need it but it might ease you a little to have the knowledge.

Kristyn - posted on 10/14/2011

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I know its scary when they choke. My kids did that too a few times. I would say to start with purees. Let her get used to swallowing first. Then slowly work up. I bought one of those food net things that you can put things in and they can chew on but the food wouldn't come out. I would put oranges or bananas. My kids got the hang of chewing on that and then I slowly gave them actual pieces. Its amazing what kids with no teeth can eat tho.

Kelina - posted on 10/14/2011

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sounds counterproductive but try larger pieces like pieces she can't fit into her mouth. One my daughter loved was honeydew melon, and even with no teeth was able to gnaw pieces off. at 10 months she still has only two teeth, but gets through all food-even meats like ham and chicken cut up into regular pieces. Also farleys biscuits make a good finger food becaseu they dissolve but are too big for baby to shove in their mouth-they make one heck of a mess though!

Lisa - posted on 10/14/2011

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Does she actually gum the food you give her? My son got it from day one but I had to over exaggerate chewing rudely for my daughter to catch on to the concept. And even though she understands the concept now, she would still get lazy with (only) bread up until 18 months. I guess bread was just soft enough she didn't feel she needed to chew it.

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Go at her pace. My son also had choking issues. Lucky for me he really wasn't interested in solids til he was at/over a year.

He's 3.5 and just w/in the past 2 months or so has been able to finally EAT an orange. He loves them, but would just chew up the pieces and spit them out unless I cut each slice into 4 pieces. He also had speech issues which is is overcoming now as well.

Tinker1987 - posted on 10/13/2011

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i know exctly how you feel,i struggle with choking all my life so im terrified to feed my baby solids, with in 2 weeks i been introducing the puffs,wobble wheels hard cookies that are easily disolved and very smll pieces of graduates 12 month cereal twist bars.they are like nutrigrain ,also small pieces of bananna.but for the most part he eats mostly puree's.

September - posted on 10/13/2011

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Personally I would start with really soft foods such as over steamed fresh veggies, over cooked pasta, tofu, beans, bananas and avocados for example. Be sure to cut them into really small pieces. Our son was a late teether but was still able to eat all of the things I listed above around 6.5 months of age. It's amazing what one can do with just gums. Try not to worry too much and just stay close when she's eating. Good luck!

Bonnie - posted on 10/13/2011

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Puffs are suppose to be for closer to 12 months. Like Constance said, softer solid foods are better. If you are buying the jars, they have some specifically for those 8 months old. If you are pureeing your own foods, just make sure it is not too thick.

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