how did you deal?

Toni - posted on 09/23/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hey ladies, Im 22, living in Canada. I have a 4 month old son, whom I love to death. I stay at home with him, and will do, until he is 12 months. My boyfirend works 12 hr days sometimes. Since having this baby Ive had some spare time, hes such a good baby, and ive gotten lonely sometimes. Friends are busy with there lives, some dont feel like we really relate, because im not partying all night and stuff, and our lives are so different. So my question is, has anyone else felt this same kind of lonliness... and how did u deal? I will also say that i have a great mum and dad, but my entire extended family lives in england, so I dont get to see them often either.

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Justine - posted on 09/24/2009

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i feel that way already and im only 26 weeks prego! i do have my family where i live and they are the only people i hang out with. you just got to stay strong and remeber that you have a better life then your friends that are out partying all the time!

Katrina - posted on 09/23/2009

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hey girls,



me too, feel lonely at times! Mostly because i dont see much of my closest friends anymore and that they dont understand motherhood...! They all still have the freedom to do alot of things, party, drinking etc...! Where i am so happy just to be home with my lil man (who is now 8months old). My husband is gr8, he helps out alot, only works 5days a week which is nice.

My bestfriends where so excited for me when i got pregnant and then also when i had charlie, they where gr8 and so supportive but now, some dont even make an effort to come visit me or my son and it really hurts and just makes me realise sometimes your better off without them!

I have a little mum's group, we catch up every wednesday, they are ppl who had babies the same time as me as where friends which now are my close friends its nice.



So yeah, maybe search around for a mothers group and join, you will be so much happier to chat with other mum's, its gr8!



Good Luck!

Mercedes - posted on 09/23/2009

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also my boyfriend work 6 days a week and almost the whole day, i feel cut off like i was out all the time now im all about my daughter which i love it being this way i just wish me and my boyfriend spent more alone time together

Mercedes - posted on 09/23/2009

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hey!! i know what you mean im 20 and i from northeast philadelphia im a stay at home. i had the same problem so i just got something to focus me, so i started school in aug. and i feel alittle better also i never ever go out unless its as a family, which i dont mind im not in to partying anyway. so good luck hope everything gets better for you hun

User - posted on 09/23/2009

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I feel the same way! I have a 3 1/2 month daughter and my bf is a firefighter so he is gone for 48 hours at a time and I am home with the baby. It is super lonely but I found that friends with kids are more understanding and easier to connect with.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/23/2009

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Hi Toni,
I went through a similar situation. I had my son when I was 23 and was really all alone. All the friends I had were in different places, my husband was working, so I started to do all the cooking and cleaning etc. It was good for a while, but once my son turned 7 months I started to get stir crazy. I started looking around for a support group and found that my town had MOMS club. The club was perfect, and I've been a member for 6 years now. The Mom's I met are all older than me, but it didn't matter, because we all have kids the same age. To this day I am still friends with all the moms and our kids have grown up together. There is probably a similar group near you, it was intimidating at first, but I kept attending events and quickly became friends with everyone, and no one cared I was so much younger!!!

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I know exactly how you feel. I dont party either, and alot of moms around here work on top of being moms. I just pray alot and read my bible. God always makes me feel better. And I joined a group called Mops(Mothers of Preschoolers). Have you tried looking for groups like that at all. If you can find a group like that it helps alot. God Bless!

Tiffany - posted on 09/23/2009

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I know exactly what you mean... When I had my first son I was 17, so I lost a lot of my friend interactions. I went to the mall and went out a lot just me and my little boy. I was shocked the number of people who started conversations with me about my child. It really did help me get through those lonely days.

Chastity - posted on 09/23/2009

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Do you have a mom and me around or something like that. After i had my kids I looked at it has a chance to do things that I really have got to do in awhile. I found some really good books, movies, I did a lot of cooking. You could also have someone watch the baby for just a few hours and you and your boyfriend have couple time. A nice dinner or watching a movie together. Have him made you feel like your not alone. and do the same for him. Some day are worse then others but sometimes a hug and kiss can make everything okay again.

Liz - posted on 09/23/2009

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i know how you feel im 23 and i live in Georgia i was pregnant when i moved here with my husband who was in the army. well i had to leave florida where my twin sister lives shes like my life line and best friend so its just me my little girl and my hubby i dont party either and thats like half the populatiosn here so i feel your pain try to find like a mommy and me class or just a group for moms there are lots of things for mommys to do just look into it if you ever need to talk my name is liz and like you im a stay at home mommy for now so i know how you feel God Bless

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